Help!!!!!

[JuniorMinime]

Hi there,

My name is Bec and I was wondering if there are any young women out there that have suffered a miscarriage and know of any meeting groups?

I was having a great pregnancy up until the 12 week mark when I was told that my baby had too much fluid behind his neck and I had to have a CVS. When we got the results back saying that he was a healthy boy and that I needed to go back in 3 weeks time to have another scan to make sure his growth was fine. Well went I had the scan I knew he had gone!! He had passed away at 14 weeks and I had no bleeding or anything. When I had the D&C (4weeks ago) I was told that the sac kept reproducing and that it was a freak of nature and that if I was to fall pregnant again it wouldn't happen again cause it wasn't heredrity or genetic! This was my first pregnancy and my partner and I were so excited and now he has gone and I feel a little empty.

I was just seeing if there is anyone out there that knows of some meeting groups in the Gold Coast area or anyone that wants another friend to talk to? My friends aren't really being that great so I feel a little lonely!!!

I hope to hear from you soon.

Love Bec xxx

[Trace]

Hi Becs,

You must be experiencing all kinds of emotions, it must be very hard on you and your partner. Unfortuantely I do not know of any groups but when I read your e-mail I had to write to you to give you my support. It can be very hard when your family/friend network is not being very supportive. Please feel free to chat to me whenever you want to.

Cheers Trace

[OM]

SUPPORT SITES

SHARE Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support, Inc.
http://www.compassionatefreinds.org
Support for those touched by the tragic death of a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth, or newborn death


The Goodbye Page
http://www.holisticgeek.com/~goodbye/
A place of healing and remembrance on the web


SANDS (QLD) - Queensland
http://www.sands.ezyweb-tech.com.au


I cannot begin to imagine what it is like for you, but if you need someone to chat to I have an ear.

[sasholi]

Hi Becs.

I myself have had a miscarriage (nearly 2 years ago now!). I wasn't as far along in the pregnancy as you (10 weeks) but I remember exactly how painful and strange and empty that feeling was.

It takes ages to get over the completely empty feeling inside. I just want to let you know that there is someone sending you hugs.
If you need to chat, pm me or something... :)

It *does* get easier.

I know what you mean about friends not being that supportive. There is a common misconception in society that because miscarriage is common (which it is unfortunately) and a can often be a good thing because obviously that baby was not meant to make it blablabla, people just don't stop to think how much you actually feel you have lost. I know when you get pregnant (especially first pregnancy!) you imagine every major event that may occur in that little baby's life ahead. it is such a new and amazing experience. And it really hurts like hell when that little promise of life ends and people say, "oh I'm sorry. It's very common to have a miscarriage isn't it. I know heaps of people who have had one!" as if you lost your goldfish or something. Or they completely ignore it and just don't mention it at all!

But I have to say the hurt does go. It is a good idea to get in contact with support groups if you can.

The story always gets better though. I now have a beautiful healthy 8 1/2 month old boy. :)

Hang in there. It will work for you one day.

Kind thoughts and hope healing comes your way soon.

Laetitia