plz help me

[tyler's mum]

i started cc sat nite. it took tyler about a hour to go to sleep. i had to go in about 5 times to try and calm her down. i did not make eye contact. i just sat next to the bed and rubbed her back.

last nite she took longer almost 2hrs. tonite it took almost 2hrs again. she was getting so upset screaming. she was almost making her self spew from crying..

i really wont to stick to it. its just so hard and im not sure if im taking all the right steps:confused: i thought each nite was meant to get better. it seem to be getting worst:o

this is what i have been doin..

- put her in bed and read a stroy

- give her a drink of water

- give her a kiss and tell her i love her

- walk out of the room

as soon as im out thats when she starts crying

i try to wait for 5mins before i go in. when i go in i sit next to the bed and rub her back. when she stop crying i walk back out.

as soon as im out of the room she starts again. i end up staying in the room till she go's to sleep.. i know thats wrong but how long can i let her cry??

can some one plz tell me what i could do to make it a bit easyer on her and on me:confused:

also i was wondering how long it normally takes?

[Angelmist♥]

Hi Tam:wave:

With my 3, I stayed in their room until they were asleep so I don't think it's wrong.

To me, it sounds like she's just starting to settle down and then you walk out which will get her all worked up again.

I think everything else you are doing sounds great:thumbsup:.Maybe tomorrow night you could try patting her to sleep (making shooshing noises) slowing down as she settles.

Then gradually just moving your chair away but continue with the shooshes!

LOL just re-read and I sound really bossy:o I didn't mean to!Just letting you know what worked for us!

Good luck!

ETA- within a week our DD was going to sleep on her own!

[pickles]

i used to nanny for this little boy who was very difficult to settle at night. His mum tried the CC but it made things worse. In the end she would sit a chair next to his bed , put him in and wait until he went to sleep ( no patting / cuddling / talking ). Over the next few nights she would slowly move the chair away toward the door. Finally it would be that we would just be sitting outside the door with our shoes sticking out ( this was all he could see ).
over a couple of weeks he would settle himself no problems. I think that it is an easier way to do it for an older child .
Good luck
Pickles
DD 02/03
DS03/05

[tyler's mum]

thanks heap i will give both idea a go:fingerscrossed:

[lovingmotheract]

well you are doing good all i can say is that i hope your hubby is helping you as thats all ways what you need at this stage and here is what i do.

How to implement controlled comforting

Establish a consistent bedtime routine .
When it's time to say goodnight, put your baby in his cot and tuck him in. Either talk to and/or pat your baby until he is quiet, or for one minute.
As soon as your baby is quiet, or after one minute, say goodnight and leave the room. Leave before your baby is asleep.
Stay out of the bedroom and give your baby a chance to settle by himself. Ignore grizzling (http://javascript<b></b>:showGlossary(3044);).
If your baby starts to really cry, wait for the set amount of time before going back to your baby (e.g. two minutes at first).
Leave your baby for a sequence of set time intervals (e.g. 2, 4, 6, 8 and 10 minutes, or 5, 10 and 15 minutes). Set your own intervals of time based on how long you think you can manage.
After each time interval has passed, return briefly to your baby if he is still crying. Talk to your baby or pat him for one minute, or continue talking or patting until he is quiet (depending on your preference). Try to soothe him without picking him up if you can.
Keep an eye on his nappy. If it is soiled, change him under low light and with minimal fuss.
As soon as he is quiet (or after one minute), but before he is asleep, leave the room again and wait for the next set time interval. What you are trying to do here is give him the opportunity to learn to go to sleep by himself.
This process is continued until your baby falls asleep by himself.
When your baby wakes overnight, follow the same routine.Some other important points about controlled comforting

Controlled comforting takes between three and 14 days to work.
Use a clock to time intervals; four minutes can seem like a very long time.
Turn off all baby monitors.
Don’t wait outside the baby’s bedroom. Go into another room. Distract yourself. Make a cup of tea and turn on the TV. Only go back to check the baby when the set time is up.
Talk to your partner first to make sure that you both agree with what is going on. Work out what role each of you will play (e.g. helping with resettling, timing the intervals). Consider taking turns each night.
Avoid important commitments for the first few days after you commence controlled comforting. You need to be able to see it through without a major change to the baby’s routine.
Remember, leave the baby’s room before he falls asleep.and do the same with day naps to

and here is a site that might help
http://raisingchildren.net.au and good luck.:fingerscrossed: