my mum is depressed

[sunnyflower]

help everyone,i don't know what to do .

my mother is really frustrating me at the moment and i am not sure of the best course of action.she has a tendency to be a bit of a whinger and is negative but lately she seems to be geting worse.everything that comes out of her mouth is negative,i can't do anything about etc attitude.i have tried everything from ignoring her to making hints that i've had enough to advoiding her to telling her directly.she smoked drinks,does.nt eat well and always has something wrong with her,now she's been told she may have bladder cancer,she's stil smoking despite having and being cured of uterine cancer 10 years ago.she tells me i'm judgemantal when i give her my opinions or that i'm cold and hard.i actually thought i wish you would just pass away and get it over with,you obviously hate living which is such a horrible thing to say about one's mother.i'm am getting to the point when i am going to say,either get some help or get out of my life,i just can't take it anymore,this had been going on my whole lif.any suggestions or points of view would be appreciated

[Jaileth]

Awww, sunny flower, I feel for you!

Maybe you should try having a break from her if you can? Just don't go near her for a while, and if she calls or asks you why you can always try to explain to her that her attitude is getting you down and that you are concerned for her health.

Hope this helps and good luck!

[SweetSerenity]

Hi Sunnyflower..
You poor sweety!!!
Sounds like your mum is having a rough trot too! I think you need a break aswell! Tell her that she's bringing you down with her and it has to stop. I know what its like to be depressed (as i have PND) but in the end, its only her who can help herself.
I would tell her, if she's not going to help herself, there's no way you can help her either than. She has to take the right steps to get there, she cant expect you to be there to just pick up the pieces of her negative way of living.
Definately have a break, and maybe she'll realise she has to pick herself up in order to get better. Maybe even suggest her to go see her gp, even just to chat to him/her about what shes going through!
Hang in there sweety!