jealous of everyone who has a man

[tyler's mum]

my sister was with her last bf for 6yrs. she was single for less then a month b4 she had her frist date. now she has been with this guy (not the guy she when on the date with another guy) for about 2months or so. she seem so happy. yet im so jealous

i have been single for like 4ever it seem. ive never done well with men. the longest ive been with someone is 9.5months. i have now been single for 2yrs. for a long time after tyler was born i didnt even think about men. i really feel like im ready to have a man in not only my life but also tyler's. im so tired of feeling alone and not having that special someone in my life.

i know i should be happy for my sister. iam in a way. its just so hard when it seem everyone i know is happy and has a great parnter.

im 26 and feel like im goin to be single forever... :o

[IheartOman]

Sorry to hear you feel that way :(

I guess the only advice I can offer is "Grass is always greener on the other side"

Im sure it looks all smiles for your sister and that early in it probably is. BUT remember back to when you had a boyfriend.. It was never all roses, just like being single isn't all roses.

You could write out a list of the things you enjoy about being single and stick it on your bathroom mirror to remind you really how great it is. Just to get you started here's a few:


Have the WHOLE bed to yourself
Answer only to yourself
You don't have to worry about a man who you don't know very well influencing your child
You don't have to take another persons feelings into account with EVERYTHING you do
You don't have to make nice with people you don't like (ie. his friends!)Hope this helps :)

[blessedmummy]

awwwww :hugs::hugs: im sure there is a special guy for you waiting for ya! it wil happen when you least expect it...trust me! it happened to me when i met my dh.... all thanks to my friend!! woohoo!! anyhow....:hugs: hope things get better for you!

[tyler's mum]

part of the reason i dont do well with man is because i will not answer to anyone but myself. i do it my way or no way. i will never let a man tell me what to do.

i know to make it work i cant be like that. its just the way iam

[BubbaNoogie]

I know how you feel but dont lose hope. I was single for 8 years before I meet my husband. I too had to sit and watch whilst siblings got new partners after only being single for a few months. The best comes to those who wait:D

[IheartOman]

part of the reason i dont do well with man is because i will not answer to anyone but myself. i do it my way or no way. i will never let a man tell me what to do.

i know to make it work i cant be like that. its just the way iam

IMO that is not a bad thing. And if that is who you are you will meet some one who works with that not against it.

It's all well and good for me to say "it's just not your time" and it will happen when it is spose to but I know how lonely you can feel :yes:

There must be another way you can fufill that emptiness when you feel it so you don't think having a partner will take it away :confused:

[mummade3]

ur not alone... i often feel the same way..


but then i think i'm too picky n set in my ways to go back to being in a relationship...

[Chanelc]

I am sure there is someone waiitng for you when you least expect it I am sure it will happen.

All I can say is my grandmother had two boys and was single from young age in her 20's and didn't marry my mum's dad until she was 40 - and apparently she died a very happy lady!

To think that was back in the 1930's (when being a single mum was frown upon!) we have years to go and I am sure one day everyone will say we need an "ex" single parents reunion at bubhub - give it 10 years and see where ever one is - I am sure happy whether single or married or attached!

[Snuffys Mum]

I find it's not other couples that I get jelous of so much (although I do have those moments too lol!) it's dads with their kids that upsets me. Especially when I see nice young dads out alone with their kids. My heart breaks for my ds who doesn't have that. :crying:

[sarmelie]

I find it's not other couples that I get jelous of so much (although I do have those moments too lol!) it's dads with their kids that upsets me. Especially when I see nice young dads out alone with their kids. My heart breaks for my ds who doesn't have that. :crying:
Im very much the same. Missing out on having someone to share those moments with.
But HEY look at it this way. Brad Pitt went to a woman with two children!! There is HOPE! :D

[little mermaid]

Oh I so know how you feel!!!! I am finding it so hard ATM and am so sick of always being the single odd one out where ever i go all the time.:crying:

[Mister Noodle]

Enjoy it while it lasts.

Seriously. we suck. No, really. I'd go stark raving bonkers if I had to live with me - or any of the guys I know.

We're annoying, we're loud, the things we care about are completely unrelated to the things you care about. We don't smell as good as you do, and we're about as aesthetically pleasing as a badly-designed forklift.

Now all I need is for my wife not to realise this....

[1st-timer@34]

Mr Noodle, I couldn't have said it better myself. :D

[Dadandtwo]

Yeah, funny enough. I work with lots of women and try and get their views on things as often as I can. I have one lady in my team who has a Japanese guy. When I asked her what she likes about him...the first thing she said was "He doesn't have hair and when I kiss him I don't get a rash." Thought that was rather amusing. I then said "Why don't you go for another girl?" Her response was "Well, actually I have." Thought that was rather amusing.

But seriously, I often watch happy couples and wonder if that's gonna be me again one day, but then again I think that life as a single person is good 'cause I make my own decisions etc. But I hear stories from my kids who enjoy the company of my ex's boyfriend, which makes me wonder if they would rather I be with someone. Important not to rush into anything...I've been on date after date and I THINK I've finally found someone...dinner tonight:fingerscrossed:

Hard one to give advise on, but I hope it works out for you in the end. Funny how you can meet people when you least expect it.:)

[Snuffys Mum]

Im very much the same. Missing out on having someone to share those moments with.
But HEY look at it this way. Brad Pitt went to a woman with two children!! There is HOPE! :D

Very good point lol! I will have to remember this :thumbsup:

[Jax Tellers Old Lady]

Hey Tam i just know that when the time is right you will meet a wonderful man that will love you and tyler. Keep positive you are a great person with so much to offer. Try and keep your head high. Sending you hugs. Ill scour the brisbane streets to find mr right for you if needed ill even go doorknocking. He is out there.

[SweetSerenity]

But HEY look at it this way. Brad Pitt went to a woman with two children!! There is HOPE! :D

I LOVE THIS!!!!:laughing: :yelclap:

Hey Tam,

Dont get too down about it hun...Your mr right will find you one day or you will find him...
Theres someone out there who would love to be apart of your life and Tylers, its just a matter of time .

Enjoy your time alone with Tyler and just cherish every moment at the moment...

Just remember, you and Tyler are complete as you are, its just a bonus to share your lives with someone else:hugs:

Love Nat

[Veritas]

Hey hun....

I know just how u feel.... all the weddings and functions I've gone to lately are starting to get the better of me.... don't get me wrong I am so happy for my friends and wish them every happiness, but sometimes I wish it was me....

You blokes crack me up.... Dadandtwo... I'm the same, I am asking for male opinions all the time from my good male friends..... makes it a little less confusing trying to understand the other half of the human race....

Tam - in terms of you living life only answering to you... keep it up... I don't think a man, or anyone for that matter, should ever tell you how you should be living your life.... the challenge is to find someone that meshes with you so well that neither of you have to change radically to appreciate each other... where you are both free to be yourselves and grow together.... and as corny as it sounds it usually happens by accident, totally out of the blue when you least expect it!!!

Wishing all us single parents luck in love and an early happy valentines Valentine

[motherlylove]

good luck....hope you feel better soon

[Mum2Bug]

I LOVE THIS!!!!

Hey Tam,

Dont get too down about it hun...Your mr right will find you one day or you will find him...
Theres someone out there who would love to be apart of your life and Tylers, its just a matter of time .

Enjoy your time alone with Tyler and just cherish every moment at the moment...

Just remember, you and Tyler are complete as you are, its just a bonus to share your lives with someone else:hugs:

Love Nat

I'm gonna agree with Nat on this one hun. (hmm i seem to be agreeing with Nat alot lately:laughing: )

And we are all here for you anytime you need to vent or cry.:hugs:

[SweetSerenity]

I'm gonna agree with Nat on this one hun. (hmm i seem to be agreeing with Nat alot lately:laughing: )

And we are all here for you anytime you need to vent or cry.:hugs:

LOL are you my secret twin???:detective: :laughing:

[*munchkin*]

Aaahh...Mr Noodle...you crack me up!

Tam - I always try to look at it from the flipside...when I see someone happy with a partner, I think "Wow..see? If it can happen for them, it can happen for me. And there ARE really good men out there. (I just happened to get a dud!)".

(And I do enjoy having the bed to myself...no more snoring!!!!!!!!!!!)

[Mum2Bug]

LOL are you my secret twin???:detective: :laughing:

Not in looks thats for sure!!! Total opposites there. Maybe in mind though....Im a Gemini....so does that count in being a twin?:laughing:

[oleander]

You may think everyone that has a partner is happy but they probably aren't. No one is ever completely happy in a relationship. You will meet someone most likely when you least expect it and he will probably be well worth the wait. I go looking (on the net:o ) and find all duds (yes, met the ex on the net) then when I don't look I find the real gems.

My trick is to go to cafe's for coffee/lunch between 12 noon and 2pm. Go to places where there's nice men on their lunch breaks. Then at least you know they have a job which is a good start. I usually always end up talking to someone.

It's going to happen for you Tam:wizard:

[mum2anthony]

Have the WHOLE bed to yourself
Answer only to yourself
You don't have to worry about a man who you don't know very well influencing your child
You don't have to take another persons feelings into account with EVERYTHING you do
You don't have to make nice with people you don't like (ie. his friends!)Hope this helps :)


You dont have to clean up after someone else.
You don't have to change the channel to suit them
You can do what you want WHEN you want...Don't worry darl... The right guy is out there for you... Just get your butt out there and start having some fun... Go to the beach, go to the park... You never know where that guy is...

I met mine driving around Scarbourough (beach) in a HK Monaro (my favourite OLD car) and I asked for his number... Been together ever since... :)

[oleander]

Enjoy it while it lasts.

Seriously. we suck. No, really. I'd go stark raving bonkers if I had to live with me - or any of the guys I know.

We're annoying, we're loud, the things we care about are completely unrelated to the things you care about. We don't smell as good as you do, and we're about as aesthetically pleasing as a badly-designed forklift.

Now all I need is for my wife not to realise this....

I have never read anything more true.

[tyler's mum]

thanks everyone:hugs:

its funny how u want somethng so bad it almost hurts. yet i know once i have it. i will problemly screw it up:laughing: or be on here ranting that im sick of his s##t..

i have always been picky with men. now that i have tyler im so much worst. im scared im goin to be to picky and then b4 i know it im goin to be 50 on my own. tyler will be married with kids, and i will be left wondering where my life when:rolleyes: