Can anyone help

[belinda]

hi all,

I am having a problem getting my ds to sleep in his cot after his last bottle at 7pm he falls asleep on me or dh and we go to put him in his cot and he just screams he wont sleep anywhere else except on me or dh and it is really taking a toll as we arnt getting much sleep. We have tryed everything i just dont know what the matter is...

if anyone can help with advice that would be great

[melfunction]

Hi Belinda,

We are having the same issue. It has only been since ds had his last lot of needles at 4 months. Before then, he would quite happily go into his cot awake and fall asleep. Now after a month of not much sleep, dh put in the pacifier this morning and the buggar was asleep in 2 mins!!!!!! :eek:
I wasn't keen to use a pacifier, but we are both exhausted. Desparate times................

[belinda]

luke wont take a pacifier anymore.. All this started after he was sick and after his 6 month needles so i dont know what to do... i have taken him to the doctor to get him check out but everything is fine.

We will just have to wait and see

[ChristineM]

Hi Belinda,
You must be exhausted you poor thing. Maybe you could try giving him the bottle in his cot, I'm not sure about this as I breast feed. My bub has just been through this stage of not wanting to go in her cot for the night sleep & I just persisted, picking her up as soon as she cried, putting her back down as soon as she settled (not asleep) and repeating until she fell asleep on her own. It sounds a bit silly and it is hard work but it does work. 3 nights of doing this and now she is happy to go down and fall asleep on her own. It's a matter of changing the pattern of behaviour in their time. A bedtime routine also helps,,,then they know it is bed time, we do: dinner, breast feed, bath, read a book, kiss everyone goodnight and then to bed.
Good luck

[belinda]

thanks so very much for that christine i might give that a go does she sleep in her cot during the day aswell?

[whatwasithinking]

Belinda

Sorry to hear your little one doesn't like the cot - my DD#2 doesn't like the bassinett during the day! I just have to let her cry but that may not be an ideal situation for you at night.

Certainly try the bottle if that gives you peace and sleep however just be careful as you may be making a rod for your own back - ie if bubs get used to bottle then he will associate it whenever he wakes up during the night when really he is just having a look around and may be in that light sleep faze - you could be getting up 4 times instead of 1 or 2. If this is dribble pm me and I'll explain myself better.

It's called associations.

[mariafresnel]

my friend, I empathise with you......only a month ago we were at the end of a bad year (sophia is 1 year old) anyway long story short, we bought a few of the techniques on www.saveoursleep.com.au and to be frank and honest, without this stuff we would have been continually sleep deprived and not liking being parents......that's all over, we've helped Sophia how to learn to sleep by herself (as I was holding her for hours after her feed(chronic refluxer))......she now has din at 5/bath @6/milk at 7pm/down for bed at 7.30 which takes no longer than 10 minutes and she wakes at 6 or 7am - life is so different to what it was before - it was everything but this, and I can only say thank you to this website - I found that the mums on bubhub share their experiences, but I wasn't walking away with anything tangible to try (and why to/not to do it) - but the author Tizzie Hall is a paediatric sleep expert - and we concur....anyway food for thought......Take care of yourselves Mx