Dealing with peoples reactions?

[3TinLids]

Hi,

We just found out that we are expecting No.4. We are very happy and excited about this but I am quite nervous about announcing it to everyone. We had originally decided to have 3 children but decided 12 months ago that eventually we would like to try for one more. I have told my parents (who are very pleased) but I am worried about telling everyone else. I don't really care what people think but I don't want to have to go through any negative comments. Our children are all well loved and looked after and we don't often ask anyone else to look after them.

Has anyone else gone through this and how did you deal with it?

Thanks

Rebecca :rolleyes:

[Jodiee]

Hello there.
Firstly, I want to say congratulations!!

I am pregnant with number 5, and have gone through it all (the negativity is appauling). I think the best way to deal with it all is to ignore it, I have spent many times crying over what people have said to me, and thank god, have a very strong DH, who helps me out with great comebacks, such as "what are you talking about, we're only half way there"..

Im also from adelaide, which suburb approx are you from?

ok, Id better go, its nearly bedtime around here!

Anytime ya wanna chat, pm me!

from Jodie

[Roopee]

Im also preggers with number 4- due any day now.

The comments are frustating and sometimes down right rude and hurt full. Its hard coping with them sometimes but i always find sarcasm works well.

There is also a site that has good comebacks, it was here in a thread somewhere but i cant find it.
Hopefully the lovely person who posted it will read this and post it for you.

Good luck- remember we're all here for you to vent to!:hugs:
Oh and a HUGE congrats to you!

[3TinLids]

Thanks for your replies and advice. I was talking to DH today and he feels exactly the same as me. He is very happy and proud to be having another child but he is nervous about announcing it and getting negative reactions. We told DH's dad tonight and although he was quite shocked he was very happy. This will be his 9th grandchild!

All going well this will be my last pregnancy so I want to enjoy it. I will have to come up with some witty comebacks and just ignore those people who are rude!

Mummy2beagain, when are you due? You are having a boy this time but what have you got already? We live in the south west of Adelaide. Where are you?

Thanks also, Roopee. I certainly will vent here about any negativity. Good luck with your impending birth. Hope it all goes well.

Thanks

Rebecca:)

[3TinLids]

Well I have been to my GP (who is an old family friend) and he was very shocked but he reacted well to our news and I have told my brother. He was very shocked as well but again he was happy for us. So two more down and lots more to go!! Hopefully the rest go as well but I have my doubts!

Rebecca;)

[3TinLids]

Well, have told a few more people and so far all reactions have been pretty good. A few people have been shocked but have been positive. Maybe I have been worrying for nothing!!?? No, I am sure we will get some rude, thoughtless comments!! Oh well at least I can come on here and vent.:rolleyes:

[bubduz]

BIG CONGRATS:smiliedance: Don't worry about what anyone else thinks, just keep being positive (it'll annoy the depressing people anyway:p )
People we know have given up mostly with the odd comments to us now.
Enjoy this special time, doesn't matter if it's your first or fifteenth! You have every right to STILL be excited xoxo

[Roopee]

Im glad that you havent encountered too many negatives yet!! Thats great:yelclap:.

You have every right to be positive and excited about this baby- dont let anyne tell you any different:hugs:

[FourAngelKisses]

Congratulations on your pregnancy!!!

My family are pretty, welllllllllll..............disgusted actually that we are having number 4, but then again, these are the same people who weren't happy about pregnancies 1, 2 and 3, so asking them to be happy about #4 was a big ask.

Everyone else has been great, but I have had a couple of comments about how 4 is too many. 95% have been positive though.

[Ashana]

My best advise to you is keep your head up and be proud that you are creating another beautiful child to bring into this world and raise.
People can and will always say things that are hurtful but all you can do is smile and say "I love being busy :P"
My family were semi-shocked when i told them we were having number 4 but now that he is here all those negative comments have faded and they all love him ;)

KUP
Aimee

[RuthK]

Rebecca

I was expecting that sort of reaction when I got pregnant with No.4 but apart from a few of my husband's mates teasing him by saying 'how did you have the time mate!' the reactions have been somewhat positive.

The one person who made a less than positive comment was told by me that children are only blessed to those who can handle them and that wasn't it a pity she was not one of those people!

Good luck

R

[FourAngelKisses]

A good response for the "are they all yours?" question is "yes, but I left the other 5 at home". :laughing:

[tommylu]

My favourite comeback to"Dont you have a Tv"? is:
We have 3 but we enjoy sex much more!:laughing:
That shuts them up quick fast !
:thumbsup:

[tommylu]

Here's the page someone mentioned its got some good comebacks for those nasty ppl out there that should mind they're own business ! :laughing:


Cheers !

http://www.plomp.com/largefam/comebacks.htm

[3TinLids]

Hi,

Thanks again for everyone's great replies. You are giving me some great comebacks!! Haven't been on-line for a while as I have been suffering from pretty ordinary MS. It seems to be much worse this time. I suffered only mildly in the boys pregnancies but feel terrible 24 hours a day this time. By the time the boys are in bed I am too tired to get on-line.

We have told a few more people and had some interesting responses! My husband's GP (different to mine) said to DH that perhaps they should talk about contraception next time he was in!! I thought that was quite rude. My DH did explain that it was a planned pregnancy!

Another woman I don't know particularly well said: "How many kids do you have already?" I replied: " 3" and she said: "Oh, you must be trying for the girl". I hadn't even wanted to tell this woman but she was hassling me about playing netball for her and wouldn't take no for an answer! I am hoping she doesn't spread it through the whole school!

We have told only a few other people at this stage and most other responses were surprised but happy for us.

I will be back with more soon I am sure!

Rebecca :D

[3TinLids]

A few choice responses recently:
"Can't you tell him to get of her" and "Can't she keep her legs closed" !!! Both were said in jest, but still not very nice!!

Rebecca:thumbsdown:

[Lozie]

i know how ya feel we are ttc #3 atm and we're keeping it secret for as long as possible we get all those stupid line with ds2 cause the boy's are 12 months apart almost to the day, My uncle even called me an incubator(sp?) charming i know just keep ur chin up as long as ur happy who cares what anyone else says!

And congrats on #4 :D

[BlessedWithBlue]

My favourite comeback to"Dont you have a Tv"? is:
We have 3 but we enjoy sex much more!:laughing:
That shuts them up quick fast !
:thumbsup:

lol we get this one quite a bit. I got asked if they were mine too a few days ago:rolleyes:
We have four boys and even get commets about having "all those boys, now you need a girl"
Geez there would be some nasty comments coming my way if our families or friends knew we were ttc #5 in a year or 2:eek:

I am Adelaide girl too! I'm in the Western suburbs.