Odd one out?

[KaM]

I just wondered if any of you other single mums feel like the odd one out sometimes?

At playgroup I am the only single mother . .at the bubhub meets as far as I know I am the only single mother. .Ive never even met another single mother as far as I know .. lol

Most of the time Im fine with it. . but occassionally when I see the bubs with the daddies I get a little emotional . .

Am I the only freak? . . lol

[Cupcake85]

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[mum2littleman]

not at all this is very noraml, i get like that when i go out with ppl and there partners are there i try not to feel this way but its so hard to see what others have and how happy they always look and we miss out and the sadest thing i kids miss out too i offten wonder if DS will feel the same as i do when his older enough to understand altho im just going to tell him same as i tell him now when he says dad "you have a mummy that loves u too times as much.
pluse he always has his pop to do the daddy things with him..

[MissBrightside]

Nope not at all. I feel like that sometimes too. I look at other dads and think why cant my boys have a dad to do those things with.
Its hard with people I know who dont have kids too, cos they dont realise you have to organise a night off, you cant just decide there and then that you might go out tonight. So you just end up not being invited.
I think its also hard because coupled people unless they have been here dont understand what you are truly going thru and sometimes with best intentions, say something that upsets you and makes you feel odd.
I suppose thats why I avoid situations that involve family sometimes, not my family cos they are great with my kids, but it would be nice to have friends/peers who know where you are coming from.
Its a tuff job hey!

So if your a freak I think every other single mum is too!!

[oleander]

I don't feel like the odd one out even though I'm the only single mum amongst my group of friends with babies. I'm starting my mothers group this wednesday so I guess I'm yet to see if I'm the only single mum there. I would probably feel like the odd one out if I wasn't invited to things but I don't have that problem so far.

[SweetSerenity]

Hey Krisseh!!

Dont feel bad at all hunny, i know its hard not too...

If you want ill try and come to the next meet so you dont feel like the odd one out??:) :hugs:

Love Nat xxx

[Dans]

Hi all,

I can remember attending one of my mothers groups which took place at our local health centre. Everything was going along fine & we talked all about bubs and not about partners at first.

Then at one meeting the health centre nurse came right out and directly asked everyone if they had a partner!!! - Bad luck if I wanted to tell everyone in my own time. Needless to say that I was the only single mum!

Following that meeting there was another occasion when that health centre nurse warned me that many boys from single parent families become juvenile delinquents!! How rude and how generalised I think. If I wasn't so overwhelmed by everything I probably would have had a go back at her.

So anyone my point is that I think I did feel a little like the odd one out initially. But now that my son is 2 1/2 I think I have come to terms with being single and I wouldn't have it any other way. Plus I don't just want any father for my son, I want a great one!

It's hard work being a single Mum but I get my boy to myself and I don't have to argue with anyone! So I love the fact that I am a calm and very happy Mum.

On the flip side though I would love Jack to have a Dad in his life - he deserves it.

So my point is that I think it gets alot easier to accept being a single Mum the longer you have been in that situation - like everything I guess.

Danni

[ogilberry]

i am not a single mother however i have quite a few friends that are..and to be honest i dont think of them any differently than those that i have that are in relationships..it is a shame that you feel like that. if they (the people surrounding you ) make you feel like that then they are not so nice or great friends. if it is something in you then you need to have a look to see if people are really thinking what you think they are thinking ..if that makes sense..cause to be honest i cant see that it makes a difference..well not in my friendships anyway.

hugs to you

fee

[KaM]

I think some may have seen my post in ways I didnt mean to.

No one makes me feel like this. It just happens when I see babies with their fathers. Its part jealousy I guess that they have the dream family in a way and also partly because my little girl won't ever have that wiht her father.

It had no ill intent.

I just sometimes feel lonely when I see others with their partners. Come wiht being single regardless of wether being a mother or not.

Id rather have it this way then have her father near us. Honestly.

[motherlylove]

yeh i know what it feels like to have the single mother stigma attached and be the only one in a group

[jess_live_die]

i get upset when i see babies with there dads coz i know dianne will neva have that its ok most of the time but sometimes i wish i had someone too :thumbsdown:.
i hope u feel better hunni one day well all have that happiness.:yes:

[munchkin05]

Following that meeting there was another occasion when that health centre nurse warned me that many boys from single parent families become juvenile delinquents!! How rude and how generalised I think. If I wasn't so overwhelmed by everything I probably would have had a go back at her.



i would have told her where to stick it :yes:

i do sometimes feel a little upset and stuff expecially when i see families all playing together and happy and i remember the days when it was like that and that ben will never have mum and dad to play with

i know a few single mums and it does help cause they are goingthrough the same things as you and can understand that bit better i think

[Pobblebonk]

I'm the only single mum in the 'regulars' from my Mothers Group, and I don't really feel like the odd one out.

But that's mainly because I did the whole 'reconcilation' thing with ex and it didn't work out (surprise, surprise, right?) and I would rather be a single mum than be with him, so right now I'm loving my life like never before!

But that's not to say that I haven't had those feelings in the past. I most certainly have (why else would I agree to another go with the ex), but it's not going to happen, and I'm not going to spend time dwelling on it.

I reckon - enjoy being a single mummy and having your bubba all to yourself while you still can!! Be proud of the fact that you have done all the hard work raising your bubba and look how awesome a job you've done!! Yay!!

[Dans]

Id rather have it this way then have her father near us. Honestly.

I'm with you on this one.

As much as I love my son and, most of the time, my life, I would love to experience family day trips etc with a partner. I live in hope that one day this magnificent man will come along and sweep me and my son off our feet. (not that I'm in a huge hurry) We can all wish!!

I've actually got a friend who is a single Dad with a son about the same age as Jack and we often catch up for a play and that is really nice even though we are just friends.

All you single Mums should be snapped up by men. I don't think men realise what a catch a single mum is. We are unselfish, dedicated, trustworthy and compassionate. What are those silly men doing? Perhaps we're too good for men!! :laughing:

[sarmelie]

So my point is that I think it gets alot easier to accept being a single Mum the longer you have been in that situation - like everything I guess.

Danni

I agree. Well, i sorta go up and down, like it took me a while to accept it at first because i was surrounded by a lot of unhappy circumstances after dd was first born, but i go through phases where i will be totally comfortable with being a s.m and then something will happen or ill see a child with their daddy and it'll send me off in spiral. Try so hard not to let it bother me but sometimes its inevitable!!
:)