I am a mess, just can't stop crying!

[ElizaDee]

My DH just left for work, he works 3 days a week in Sydney, I am in the Brisbane area. He has been home for 1 month and it was wonderfull having him around! :yes:

I am really fed up with this arrangement, its so boring, lonely and frightening all on my own with the little boy. I am normally a wus, but now I am constantly plagued with thoughts of someone breaking in and stealing my boy! :no:

I feel like such a looser, I get bored and scared, does anyone else feel like this when thier DH goes away?

[Blessed Mum]

awww many many :hugs: & :yes: I used to feel like that & I didn't have a baby at the time DS was 3yrs old then. :hugs:

Have you got lots of family or friends round for support if you need to call on them even tho its only for a few days - that always helped me get thru :)

[rynosmum]

Hey ED, Don't cry :crying:

DH has been home quite a lot but he's off for a week (in a week), then home for a week then off for another one in Feb.

I miss him when he's gone and do have some nights where I just freak out with noises etc outside. Over the years I'm getting better though.

:hugs: to you though. When we were on acreage, I hated it.:yes:

[ElizaDee]

RM - DH wants acerage but I told him no, not until he stays home. I couldn't handle that! :eek:

[sunnygirls]

My DH just left for work, he works 3 days a week in Sydney, I am in the Brisbane area. He has been home for 1 month and it was wonderfull having him around! :yes:

I am really fed up with this arrangement, its so boring, lonely and frightening all on my own with the little boy. I am normally a wus, but now I am constantly plagued with thoughts of someone breaking in and stealing my boy! :no:

I feel like such a looser, I get bored and scared, does anyone else feel like this when thier DH goes away?


I used to feel this way, but I think I have got used to it over the years and I now really enjoy the time by myself and the kids. My DH goes away for 2 weeks and is home for 2 weeks. The hardest part for me is not having any support (all my family lives in another state) to alleviate the burden and stress of looking after 3 kids and working.

We live on an acreage and one night about 12am I had some young drunk guys come on to my property. I asked them to leave and they swore at me and told me to get off. I went down to the shed and got the chainsaw out and started it and ran after them screaming. They bolted very quickly. I heard them saying that I was crazy! It was very empowering. I am sooooo glad that DH has shown me how to start and use all of the equipment we have. The things you do to protect your kids.

Keep your chin up. I found that if I told my friends that I am feeling a bit lonely and I needed them around more they would happily oblige.

[mysonroger]

We live on an acreage and one night about 12am I had some young drunk guys come on to my property. I asked them to leave and they swore at me and told me to get off. I went down to the shed and got the chainsaw out and started it and ran after them screaming. They bolted very quickly. I heard them saying that I was crazy! It was very empowering. .

OMG - that's like out of a movie.....i love it. you should feel empowered after that.

Elizadee - you feel this way because you're insecurities are heightened at the moment and your imagination is running away with you. all the same , it pays to be extra vigilent when looking after your children as well. when my DH is away, I bring DS into my bedroom (in his portacot) because it just feels safer with him next to me. it's unlikely anything will happen, but just in case, and i think i sleep better with him there.
hang on, I have to go back and reread your post again....be back

Ok , i'm back. until your working and living arrangements improve, you could maybe act stronger around your boy, for your benefit and for his, because they pick up on your insecurities and emotions and then it becomes their insecurities and they replicate your emotions. funny how my DS is scared of spiders just like his mummy.
do what you have to do to feel safer. i tell my neighbour when DP is away, I bring DS into my room and i have the phone next to my bed.......and put on a show of strength and guardianship for yor bub......

[ogilberry]

i dont blame you for not being happy with it...is it going to be forever cause if it is i think you need to have a little chat and if it is not then there will be an end to it...come along to our outings that everyone is organising i have met some really nice ladies we are having one on the 23rd if interested pm ...dont be sad though i too bring my three old in to bed with me when my hubby is away on the odd occasion and leave the dog inside downstairs that makes me feel better...think the dog would lick anyone to death and the same with the male outside but makes me feel better...

cheer up chic...

fee

[bearsmummy]

Aw hun thats no good :hugs:
I know i have sure felt like that at times.... as time has gone on i am feeling a little more confident practically living alone, but sometimes the odd noise freaks me out still.
Do you have a dog? Having mine here really puts my mind at ease... and family or reliable neighbours you call call on at night if need be?
I once had someone try to break into my house and one of our close friends raced around and checked i was ok as soon as i rang.....he went around and made sure everything was ok again.

I hope you feel better babe, we are here to listen anytime :hugs: