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BubbaNoogie
14-01-2007, 19:50
Well I am crying and I am starting to realise I havent fully grieved for my loss. I have been reading and posting in a few threads in this section and all these feelings have started to well up to the surface.

I miscarried in May 2005...twins... it was horrible and what made it worse was when I knew I was miscarrying both my hubby and myself were holding out hope that a least one of them had survived....after an U/S we discovered that they were both gone....so we had to mourn the loss of two babies at the same time....all our hopes and dreams for these to babies gone....we were devastated....

Our wedding was a month away so I just had to get on with it.... our wedding day was very bittersweet....

After the wedding I began to grieve a bit,but was really focused on getting pregnant again and I did a month later.... spent the whole pregnancy worrying about this bub, although I knew our two angels were looking out for her, so my grief was pushed aside again.

There is not a day that goes by that I dont think of them....I try not to let it get to me.

Now I am starting to feel so sad and i cant get it out of my mind....my best friend is pregnant with twins and it is going really well thank goodness....hearing her making plans for them reminds me of all the hopes and dreams I had for my babies....I dont know.... I just feel really raw.... I dont really know why I am posting this....I suppose letting it out might help....

angelickaren
14-01-2007, 20:57
hi brooke im so sorry for your loss of your twins it really must be hard. I think because your friend is now pregs with twins its hit a very raw nerve.
I m/c in oct last year and im still not really over it yet i have just tried to go on with life as i have a now 7 and half mth old i have had 4 m/c over the last 5 years its really hard you will never forget them the pain does go away but really you will always think with if .......
please feel free to pm anytime you need to talk

damien's mum
14-01-2007, 21:01
I don't know to say.... But i wanted to send you a million and more :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: I'm really sorry to hear the bad news... :hugs:

ThreePinkFaireez
14-01-2007, 21:39
Many :hugs: to you!

You need to let yourself grieve.... your friends news of her pregnancy will have brought all those emotions back up to the surface.... stay strong and talking always helps

Jodiee
14-01-2007, 21:44
I just want to give you huge :hugs: for the loss of your 2 precious babes.
Take comfort in the thought that they will be with you later on, and you will eventually get to kiss their sweet cheeks, this keeps me sane during the hard times.

BubbaNoogie
15-01-2007, 15:52
Thanks ladies for your kind words and :hugs: for those of you who have lost aswell. After posting last night I had a good cry in my hubbys arms and felt a little better, made hubby cry though.
I am trying to look at the positives,the main one being if I had had them I would not have my beautiful Amaris, whom I could not imagine my life without. And that I am incredibly fortunate to have the two beautiful girls I have.
Thanks again for your kind words.