What am i doing wrong?

[Shiny95]

Why is it that going down for a day nap or the evening sleep always involves a screaming crying fit?
How do you get your baby into the cot for a sleep without tears? Is it possible?

[the_queen]

:)

a) I don't put him in a cot
b) I feed him to sleep
c) After he's asleep, I cuddle him for another little while, then put him down on his day-bed (a mattress on the floor in the hallway)


:) There's not one "right" way to do anything; perhaps you could try doing the opposite of what you're doing now? :) I recommend feeding to sleep, falling asleep on the boob (and letting her stay on for a while) is a great way to keep that supply up, too.

[belinda1976]

I've PM'd you

[britchick]

have you tried pick up put down? you pick them up when they cry shush in there ear and pat there back, no jiggling up and down be very carm the min they are settled put them down, you may have to do it 50 time the first night but it gets less and less till they feel happy that you will be there if they need. its kinder than controllied crying but means they can fall asleep with out you.

[Babymakesthree]

I feel your pain - my DD is very similar. During the day I do my best to get her to have naps but she just doesn't seem to be interested. Once she has fed and been awake for about an hour or more, I watch for the tired signs - yawning, grissly etc and then pick her up and nurse her to sleep. It usually works (emphasis on the "usually"!). But she may only sleep for half an hour at best. At night time I bath her and feed her late - about 6.30-7pm. Again, watching for the tired signs and nurse her to sleep. However lately she has been wanting to feed - which works wonders!

Despite all the advice and suggestions, do what you feel is right - forget what people say you should or should not do. At the end of the day, if it gets them to sleep and they are happy, safe and comfortable then it is worth it!!

Good luck!!

[keenansmummy]

I feel your pain I am also going through this at the moment - it is driving me up the wall!!!

I used to feed DS to sleep but now he wont have a bottle, so then I was rubbing his back but doesnt want a bar of that so now I am sitting here listening to him screaming in his cot because he is an hour and a half past his normal nap time.

things have been fantastic up until a few days ago so I think I have to be hard on him to break his cycle of refusing to sleep...

[Shiny95]

We've had a fantastic day, with limited fussing at sleep time.
I'm learning. I think i was letting her get over tired!
Fingers crossed that it continues.
Thank you for all your suggestions, i will certainly give them all a go and work out which method suits us the best.

[bluey]

You aren't doing anything wrong, every bubs is different.

This is what works for us.

I don't feed to sleep - dd won't have a bar of it anyways :)

I wrap her up tight - 2 wraps now, so she doesn't escape.
Cuddle and sing twinkle twinkle
Dummy in her mouth - only if you use one of course.
Tucked in nice and tight
Say time for sleeping and walk out.
Darkish room as well - and temp just right, air con at the moment, cause it's so darn hot.

Occassionally she'll not think it's time, and have a little whinge, but I go in an pat for a bit, and wait until her eye get that sleepy look. If she's really upset, I pick her up, calm her down, sing twinkle twinkle again, and put her down. Most days she's down to sleep in under 10.

Oops forgot to say, sometimes it's hard to pick when she is tired. But rubbing her eyes and that keening whinge, is usually a dead giveaway.

Don't wait till she's overtired. Her first morning sleep is generally 1 1/2 to 2 hours after she wakes.

Hope that helps.