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okay heres #1 problem
and adding on to that I totally went off at DH tonight cause his sister in melbourne couldnt do something for me cause she is lazy and I took it out on him.. Im virtually happy most of the time really Iam but I get teary and I dont know if its just my personality or what... My Dh thinks seeing someone about the above post would b silly cause we cant really afford it but I think I need to see someone but I dont think I can... I cant really talk to DH about it and he isnt a #ick or anything... I think its just me...
I cant get on top of ANYTHING! it gets over whelming and if DD is too hard to handle I get frustrated and she isnt hard to handle she is really good!!!
whats wrong with me?!?!
Hey sweetie, firstly saying something is a huge step. Your DH doesn't sound very supportive, although i imagine it would be hard for him to grasp exactly how you feel about motherhood and not being able to BF etc. Have you got a child health clinic near you, they shouldn't cost any money especially if you are on a low income. But i found my Child Health nurse to be invaluable for me in the first year, she was excellent and very supportive of my BF after having so many problems i wanted to give up at 4 months, but then continued until i decided to wean him at 13 months.
Even talking to someone over the phone might help because usually when you leave hospital you are given a 'baby health' book and it should have different phone numbers for your state aswell, that do free phone counselling. If you still don't feel like you are getting anywhere see your GP and ask to see a psychologist, you can get a referral and you get it heavily subsidised by medicare. I see one and she costs $88.00 an hour, but i only pay about $17.00after i get money back from Medicare.
You need to relax aswell, being a mother is an extremely anxious time, but it truly is a learning experience, it's not something that is automatic, i think you have to learn to be a mother and cope with all it's challenges and tribulations.
Goodluck and hang in there.
I posted a reply to your thread in Bottlefeeding.
I also want to say that there is nothing wrong with you. Everyone has bad days, especially with a young baby.
I have had (with DD) and have PND again (with DS) and am going to counselling. I just want to tell you not to be afraid to ask for help. There is nothing wrong with admitting you can't do it sometimes. Everyone goes through it but most won't admit it. We feel we need to wear a mask when we talk to others so everyone thinks we are coping, no problem. But behind closed doors I think we all could use a little help from time to time.
Ask your Dr, ask friends, seek help..you will feel better within yourself and will realise you are sooo not alone.
Under new bits of the healthcare system, you can now get 12 sessions a year with a psychologist covered my medicare. You just need a referal from your GP.
There is professional help out there if you feel you need it :yes: Talking things over with someone totally neutral might help.
I really appreciate the support! I went on the beyond blue site and answered the Q's and was told to see womone about it as I answered yes to all of them xept the ones about death :crying: and broke down in tears to a friend who knows me very well.... Im going to a drop in clinic tomoro morning I havent taken DD in a while cause I was too scared coz I get SO underminded because of my age...so im going to a different one on the other side of town :rolleyes:
Also, I don't know your Minister but I find that my Pastor is always willing to be a shoulder to cry on... or maybe he could point you towards someone at the church who can help you. At mine, we have a Family Support Worker, so someone like that could maybe help you.
:hugs: Men tend to... a) not see depression as a real problem, they think it's just "feeling sad"; and b) when they do see a real problem, they just want to fix it. They don't see that sometimes it takes time and patience.
:hugs: And your CHN will definitely be able to point you towards someone who could help you. And yes I have heard about the medicare-covered psychologist stuff. Try your GP, I was able to be sent to a bulk-billing psych, and I never paid a cent.
Hey thanks queen, we have apretty small church and Im VERY good friends with my pastor, the only thing is the person I would probly get reffered to my mum cause she is actually a qualifed counsellor but works as leiasoon for department of families and health for the minister, ive had a chat to her about it and she agrees I have somesort of depression and could prescribe something to me but wants me to go see someone else..thanks for the suggestion though...
I did the test they do on you at the clinic today and got 21 :eek: the lady sadi that was actually pretty high and was very concerned about me... Im booked in to see my GP on monday and should get a social worker calling me before wednesday.. I didnt want to go to the gym oday cause I was SO teary... I did but left after the first class I usually go for 3 classes on a friday morning... So yeah Im hopein il get some answers soon.... I dont feel like myself I actually hate myself at the moment n Im a christian! Im ALWAYS the one who works out peoples problems not the other way around... AH I should just stop thinking cause as I write this I start crying....
:hugs: Leah... I hope you can find a councellor that will give you the help you need. You know where I am if you want to chat
hey there we met last week and i can see where your coming from i have been there and i still am there now so if you need to talk just call me and we can meet up if you like and i can help with a good psychologist and councellor hope you feel better soon:hugs:
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