Alone & Pregnant Update 20th Jan 2005

[Kristy&Alex]

Hello mummys & mummys to be & happy new year to everyone ! It has been so long since I have visited this site & for that I must apologise. I have been frantically trying to find a rental place for me, partner & bubby to move into but I am not having much luck. Everyday I am getting closer & closer to having him & my frustration levels are peaking !! I am 27.2 weeks now & am amazed at how fast it has gone, I just can't wait to meet this gorgeous little boy that has been kicking me these past few months

I know that smoking is a BIG no-no when your pregnant & I will prolly get my throat ripped out by concerned readers of this site but I would just like to know if anyone is game enough to admit they have the odd puff. Let me clarify this before you all notify child services on me :rolleyes:

When I found out I was pregnant I quit ciggies straight away & didn't touch them for 4 months, however my partner smokes too & sometimes I beg him to let me have a drag or two of his. Is this really really wrong of me or will such a short amount be 'not that big of a deal'....?? I have heard of women who continue to smoke all through their pregnancies (not that, that is what I am doing) & have a perfectly normal baby. I have also heard of women who don't smoke at all & end up having babies that have all types of problems with lungs & asthma etc.

Please dont get me wrong I am not saying that this happens with everyone & I know that me posting this topic will cause a lot of controversy, but I just wanted to be honest & see what everyone else out there thinks & feels. I was never a big smoker anyways & I only smoke 2mg but again its sounds like I am trying to make excuses & believe me I am not.

My next question is that my partner & I have continued to have sex all throughout my pregnancy & was wondering how this affects my baby especially when I have strong orgasms. Does the baby feel these sensations as I do?

I am continuing to enjoy everyday of having this baby growing inside of me & I thank-you all for taking the time to respond to this post.

I will brace myself for the battering I am going to get about the smoking thing :eek: & once again thank everyone for their honest replies.

Smiles to you all & I hope everything is going well for each & everyone of you & your gorgeous growing bubbies

Kristy 26 & png with first bubby 27.2 weeks now ;)

[razzle]

Hi Kristy,

I think it's very brave of you to come out and admit your smoking - no doubt you'll have opened a huge can of worms. But I'll be brave with you to face all the battering - I smoked (8mg) all the way though my pregnancy, I did cut down in the beginning with every intention of quitting but never got around to it. Bad, very bad, I know. Thank God, Eloise was/is perfectly healthy. I gave up the day she was born. I was just so busy looking at her that I forgot to smoke and before I knew it, I had given up. My DP smoked as well but gave up on quit day (31 May 2004).

The odd puff here and there isn't going to do anything drastic, although I'm sure a million people will jump on me say that it does.

My advice - give up if you can, it's better if you do. Good luck :)

[Elfin]

Hi Kristy, welcome back. I agree with Boomtish that you are very brave to admit to smoking. I think it was great that you gave up during the first trimester as this is probably the most important time for your baby's development. The odd puff is most likely not going to hurt but it is probably best to give up altogether. Just make sure that when the baby is born that you or your partner don't smoke around the baby as this increases the SIDS risk. It is also not good to smoke whilst breastfeeding. Hope I don't sound too preachy but I am not a smoking fan.

With regards to sex, you can't hurt the baby. Unless you have abnormal bleeding or on the advice of your doctor there is no need to stop.

Easterlily :)

[Lucybelle]

Good on you, I cut right down to 2 a day, but found it so hard to stop a puff in the morning because I got a bit constipated cos of the iron supplements, and SORRY EVERYONE but it helped me go. Yes I know the nicotine irritated the bowel etc etc.

The worst thing was that after son was born, the midwife was showing me the placenta and she could tell that I smoked (NOT MUCH AT ALL OK). I felt like sh*it and this bub was a lot smaller than my first and I did not smoke at all with her. It took me awhile to get over the guilt.(actually I'm not over it and I deserve it)

What annoys me now is that everyone that told me they gave up when PG or soon after, NOW most admit that they didn't, although they did cut down A LOT, so I was feeling like an even bigger **** as I felt like I was the only one that couldn't completely stop.

By the way these were the other things I was dealing with during my whole PG

* long, stupid, irritating, drawn-out divorce settlement.
* moving house
*car wrecked
*ptrs house burnt down.
*my brother died.

I had enough stress without feeling useless. On ya Boomtish for speaking out, but much more importantly WELL DONE FOR GIVING UP.!!!!!!

Lucybelle

[razzle]

Thanks Lucybelle. It was actually pretty easy :o . I guess I'm one of those lucky ones who wasn't that hooked on it despite having smoked on and off for around 20 years. I still have the odd social cigarette, but to be honest, when Eloise was born I didn't have time to sit down and have a cigarette, let alone crave one!! And I know how you feel about that morning ciggie too! I don't care what anyone else says - IT HELPS!!!!

And yes Easterlily - its terrible to smoke around the baby. I remember my DP still smoking after she was born and after he came in from outside he absolutely STUNK! My sense of smell came back with a vengence! They say that even smoke clinging to clothing is dangerous to a baby, and that you shouldn't co-sleep if one of you is a smoker because of the increase of danger for SIDS.

Give it up if you can Kristy!! :)

[Lachlan's Mum]

Hi everyone

I am not a smoker...so this is "hearsay" but someone I know smoked throughout her pregnancy and had a baby that was 10 pounds 3 oz. !!!!!!!!! and as far as I know he is healthy. Now I'm not saying everyone who smokes whilst pregnant is that lucky...there are certainly plenty of examples out there re babies effected by it - but what I am trying to do is put Kristy's mind at rest a bit by saying that a couple of puffs is not necessarily going to end in disaster!

I do agree with the other mums re SIDS after bub is born.

Kristy...obviously you are feeling a little "guilty" to have come out and confessed...so maybe try and make an effort to stop now.....it is the most you can do because you cant take back what has already happened..but maybe try and be a little stronger for the last part of your pregnancy...which if I recall correctly is when bub's lungs fully develop.

[jakobsmum]

Hi :)

I have been wondering how you have been going. I can't believe how far along you are now.

I too had the odd smoke whilst pregnant. I had some very stressful times and it helped me through. I don't anymore, as Rach said, I'm too busy now to worry about them. Healthwise Jakob is a very energetic, happy chappy. He weighed 8lb 1oz when born. I have heard though that some children will have an increased risk of having asthma and other respitory problems.

Re. sex. Hubby and I did it until a few weeks before Jakob's birth. Just be aware that around you due date it could help to bring on labour ;)

All the best sweetie. Hope you sort out your living arrangements soon. Take care xx

[H&B'sMum]

Hi everyone,
I'm not a smoker and never have been. So I'll try not to get onto my soapbox here. Smoking whilst pregnant or breastfeeding is not good. It can cuase the bub to have low birth weight and/or breathing problems later on. We all know of cases where women have smoked, drunk, or taken drugs, during pregnancy and their babies have been fine but this topic has been heavily researched and there is a link. Also smoking around a baby is a risk factor of SIDS. It was very brave of all you mums to admit to smoking during pregnancy and well done to Rach and Sarah for giving up. I hope you both feel a lot healthier because of it.
Kristy I'm glad you are doing well and wow hasn't time flown quickly. As to having sex, we did up until I gave birth, it even started labour for me. You have to be aware of any bleeding and you may have to become inventive of new positions but it doesn't harm your baby. In fact your baby feels really good afterwards just like you. It has a good sentation when you orgasm as well. So it's all okay.

[shaelerda]

I cant imagine a couple of puffs are going to damage your baby! although i think not smoking at all is best, i dont think you should worry so much, if it were a pack a day i think youd have a problem but there really are so many things going on in pregnancy i dont think you should torture yourself about a few lapses.
And i had sex all the way through pregnancy- as long as your tummy isnt hurting I think its fine. The baby only senses your general mood so any happiness is good :).
My husband is in the navy and im alone all the time with my baby it sucks but i visit family all the time and i cope. I didnt know i was so strong till i had my baby.