Can I get a different Brother and SIL???

[ElizaDee]

I am getting really sick of these two. We have to do everything that they want, or they chuck a mental and refuse to do anything with the whole family.

Its so irriating, my DH and I wanted to do something nice for my Mother so we decided to have Christmas lunch at our house, give mom a break. Well my Brother sent me an email that says "Thanks but we don't want to!" What a pig! :mad:

We do live about 1hrs drive north of them, but my parents came up last night for dinner, why can't they come up, it is Christmas and its the time for family!

Sorry but I am just really upset by thier selfish attitude! Thanks for listening...

[whatwasithinking]

Your brother reminds me of my sister!

A few years ago I wanted to organise a picnic in Newcastle (where I lived at the time) for the whole family. Everyone was happy to come up from the Central Coast (again same as you one hour drive) except my sister who told me she would only come up if I paid for her petrol.

I told her to shove it and cancelled the whole thing!!

Haven't organised a thing since!

She also got poopy with me when I wouldn't travel from Melb to Syd for my grandmas 80th surprise birthday party - reason I couldn't go - I was due to have my DD number one on the same day as the party (which I did too :) )
- go figure!!!!

[sonlou73]

I have a painful brother also.

Everytime we invite him to a party or for dinner his reply is either "What are you cooking?" or the most annoying one is "Um, maybe", then he leaves it to the last minute incase something better comes along - what a nerve hey! But I let him get away with it as he hasn't got many friends or a girlfriend.

And he is very opinionated, he is always right, which drives me insane but I keep inviting him.

My mum and I laugh between ourselves on how he needs a 'woman' - to put him in his place!

[brooke]

scrapie thats awful what your brother has done too you.. ots so rude!
Have you called and asked why he doesnt want too....???

Family can make our lives so hard sometimes!

I have told my BIL and SIL we wont be going to their house this xmas as I dont feel comfy driving all that way with a new born bub.... thats if she arrives on time!
They werent too happy about that but i figure its my right to say no to them at least once...

[H&B'sMum]

Oh Lara, how selfish of them.
My brother and SIL has done this. Not wanting to drive 2hrs up to see us from Syd. My reply was well you'll miss out on a great day.
If you know his fav foods tell him that's what your having and make them think they are missing out on a great day.
I've had to travel down to Canberra for the last two Christmas's. In 03 when I was 26 weeks pregnant with Harry and then in 04 when Harry was 8 months old. I didn't want to go either times but felt that family Christmas's together was more important that my feelings, so I went.
Just tell them that they are going to miss out on a wonderful day and you'll still have fun with or without them.
Good luck.

[ElizaDee]

Karena I wish I could but it looks like it is all cancelled and now mom will have to cook and do everything at her house :mad: The selfish butthead!

Fair dinkum I would love to ring him up and tell him that the world does not revolve around him! I hope his little girl does not grow up to be selfish too. :(

[Mum2Tyla]

Hi,
We can't even have a family xmas as my brothers partner does not like our family so will set foot in our house and we are not welcome in hers. It drives me insane because I would never let my partner tell me my family was not welcome in my home but my brother has no backbone, the sad thing is it is also my mothers birthday on xmas day. She is a bit wierd she thinks everyone hates her, I think she just likes to keep my brother isolated from all the people who care about him. Well I am not going anywhere for xmas as I am due on the 22nd of december and do not intend to drag a newborn all over the place on boiling hot day so they can come see us.
Kelly

[Peaceangels]

"You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family" - sad but true unfortunately!
Do they listen to what you parents say, maybe get them to say what they would really like to happen at Christmas?........................