Makes Me Wanna Elope

[*Chels*]

SO...
DFs family comes round for a bbq,and all talk is of wedding.
Firstly,we are discussing suit hire.MIL and FIL are rabbiting on about how expensive suits are just for ONE day.
So we are talking about what DF will wear-black suit,vest,shirt and white tie and hankie thingie.
MIL makes a DISGUSTED face like shes eaten somethin gross and says "all black?!??!!!That SO morbid!"
Im like "our wedding,our choice-hes wearing that-thats all i have to say!!" and proceed to go fill up my wine glass:laughing:
Then DFs bro arrives and we talking bout suit hire.Hes in a b*tchy mood and goes "well what if I dont wanna pay $200 for a suit?" in a stupid sarcastic tone.
So Im like "if ya wanna be like that-dont be in the bridal party-my bridesmaids are paying way more than that for everything and theyre not complaining!!!"
Then stupid MIL is bleating on about what she will wear and how she doesnt wanna out do the bride(like she ever could:rolleyes: )and how she wants something to wear again.
It just ****s me!!!My bro isnt even in the bridal party(but hes giving me away)and hes already organised his $200 suit hire.My mum is travelling from NZ AND paying for my sis to come.
And all DFs family is worried about is saving their pennies.
I cant stand them!

[the_queen]

All I can advise is to keep a good supply of wine handy :laughing: wedding planning is a fricken nightmare IMO

[*Chels*]

Thanks queenie..whenever the inlaws are round Im on the wine.But then I get **** about drinking too much and theyre worried bout riley:rolleyes: I cant win!
Yup wedding planning sux!Im just trying to leave them out of it as much as I can!!!!!!
Im gonna need a good champagne supply on the day LOL:p

[the_queen]

Yes, leaving them out is the thing to do. Just get it all organised, and TELL them what they need to do. And practice running around the room with your fingers in your ears going LALALALALALALALALALALALA and let them think you're crazy. You're allowed to - you're the Bride, it's your day etc etc And hey, you could always pretend to turn into a Bridezilla, where you get really angry, then burst into tears, if something doesn't go exactly how you want it. "WHAT??!!! The table napkins are CREAM???? I wanted OFF-WHITE, you idiot, OFF-WHITE!!!!! HOW DARE YOU :mad: :crying: oh this is my one special day, i will only get married once and i just want the day to be perfect, how can i relax and enjoy my special day if the napkins are not perfectly matched to the tablecloth and the chair covers and the centrepieces? Don't you want me to have a special day??" :p

And yes, plenty of champagne DEFINITELY necessary :D

[*Chels*]

LOL you crack me up!!!!I will take your advice....I like that sound a being a crazy bridella B^TCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!:devil6:
Champagnes all round!!:party:

[the_queen]

:thumbsdown: no champagne for me :no: full-time breastfeeding still here... but I'll have a Maison Rose with ya! *tries desperately to pretend that a fake fizzy cordial is just as exciting as real champagne* :p

[the_queen]

See, when you're planning a wedding, you're allowed to be a total spoilt b!tch because there is NO COMEBACK to when you say "But it's my special day, I just want it to be perfect" etc.


(Hey, I also might be a little cynical, my wedding was the beginning of a downhill slide to cr@pville...)

[mikaylasmummy]

All I can advise is to keep a good supply of wine handy :laughing: wedding planning is a fricken nightmare IMO


LOL yes kee filling those glasses up :laughing:

[mum2bubba]

Tell them to p!ss off, its your wedding day not theirs if they're so worried about sh!t don't invite them, if we all had our weddings the way other ppl wanted them we'd never be happy. I've had a few ppl try and give me advice and I just tell them "my wedding, my way end of story".
I think ppl can be very selfish when it comes to weddings, fair enought a little advice doesn't hurt but when they start sooking about certain things it theres just no need for it.

[shed]

I have come up with a line that seems to be quite effective:

I say

"Well, I don't want to be a Muriel but there ARE a couple of little things that I HAVE always imagined and one of them is ____________ (insert whatever it is you want them to do/are trying to defend)".

This seems to be working for me.

[Butterbear]

No matter what with planning weddings, there is always issues. :mad:

I was stressed to the Max trying to make people happy in every possible way!!!

BUT, I received advise from my future sistyer in law..... "Its your day, your wedding. MAke sure your happy and don't worry about everyone else, they will get ober it"

It was the best advise, i may have put noses out of joint, but me and DH had the best day:smiliedance:

As for your brother in law ( i had similar situation with another futrure SIL), i said to her "Well, if thats teh way you feel, dont be in the wedding party and YOU can explain to people why your not in it!"... it shuther right up!!!

Just remember its your sprecial day.... don't let anyone destroy it!:yes:

[V8]

DH and I just went and got married, (registry office) told the In-laws after we did it. Not much they could say to us then! lol

We did have a 'renewal of vows' and a joint naming day later that they were invited to, but only MIL came, so i was happy with that. I know otherwise it would have been a complete and utter nightmare!

Family can be such pains in the rears - oh and if your inlaws want to have a say in things, remind them of who is paying for your wedding!

[munchkin05]

never planned a wedding but reading stories like this makes me think that when the time comes in going to elope :yes:

[Percy]

Sorry your having a rough time chel.:hugs:

I understand completely. Wedding plans are such a nightmare. I was so close to eloping as well, but at the end of the day i really think i would have regretted it.

Hope things start looking up for you soon.

[Leez]

I think people should have two weddings - the one you want, and then the one everyone else wants - paid for by everyone else of course (whoever 'they' - the main players, happen to be) - now, this day would not be about enjoyment on your part, it is simply an exercise in shutting everyone up - the MIL, FIL, your mother - whoever it is that's being irritating. I said to my DH when his Aunty was having too much to say about our wedding "listen, I'll dress up in a gorilla suit and come down the aisle doing the macarena if that gets her going - as long as she's paying for it".

We ended up getting married in Las Vegas, we had the BEST day, and have never regretted it!:thumbsup:

Of course the cheaper option is to just stay slightly p*ssed over the next few months....:laughing: