How much money do you give for a wedding wishing well?

[Ashleigh<3]

Just curious, one of my good friends wedding's is coming up. When our birthday's come around we usually spend quite a bit of money on eachother, not because it's about money, but we just like to buy eachother a bunch of little nick-nacks and put it all together, which just ends up being a lot in the end.

At my baby shower, people were stunned in how many gifts she put together for Chloe, My Mum and I looked over everything and worked out she must have spent $200 on the present, and she even included a $100 gift voucher for westfield stores. Geez, I was so thankful! But I felt bad that she spent that much.

So, her invitation states a friendly poem, that they're having wishing well instead over gifts.

How much would you give?

I'm thinking we will give $100 but I just have to buy a gift too, because it's something this girl and I have always done for one another, I look it as 'tradition'.

[Becteria]

In your situation i would buy a gift as well so she has something that she looks at and is reminded of you, a personal thing, as well as $100 cash.

For people i love the sky is the limit (oh and my bank balance!!!!!!!0

For people i dont know well i spend what i estimate they would spend per head on the reception.

[HoopDeeDoo]

for someone whose not that close $50, for someone I'm close to $100

[shed]

We usually give a hundred dollars, or sometimes vouchers to the value of a hundred dollars.

Hey, what is the wishing well poem anyway?

I think I want a wishing well at my wedding.

[poshBecks]

$100 sounds reasonable if its a good friend... and like you said... a gift aswell!! Sounds lovely!

[Ashleigh<3]

Their wishing well poem was clever!:)

We hope that you will join us,
On this special day,
To celebrate our union,
In a very special way

To make it easy for you,
And avoid a shopping hell,
We thought that we would have
Instead,
A little wishing well

The option is yours.
There is no fuss,
So come and celebrate
The day with us

:)

[shed]

Fabulous. Definitely will be using that!!

Thanks luv!!

(maybe take out the option bit, lol, nah just joking)

[Ashleigh<3]

Your welcome:)

Hahaa

How about...

If you do not comply,
GOODBYE!

HAHA!:devil6: :devil6:

[Mamaduke]

Whether it's a gift or cash (I don't 'do' cash though :no: ) I've always gone by the rule "you give at least what it's costing them to have you there"
We just went to a Wedding yesterday where I didn't know the bride & groom (DH works with the father of the bride) and he told DH 'they have everything...give them cash'....
:no: :no: :no:
I got them Royal Doulton candlestick holders...they wouldn't have those.

[jamb]

I go by the how much per head they would be spending on having you there, and i usually put that at $50/head.

Given the situation i would prob give a gift as well!

We had cash given at our wedding and more than covered the cost of the wedding which really really helped us out.

[zenifa]

For me, the amount depends on the person, and my relationship to them. For friends or family, it would usually be $50-$100, either in cash for the wishing well or a gift.
Given your ''gifting'' relationship with your friend, you may want to put in $50 and then get them a nice gift as well, or a couples dayspa voucher, so they can treat themselves after the honeymoon.

[damien's mum]

Woah, i didn't know there was such a thing... damn! I missed out, :laughing:

[missie_mack]

Yep Ive always found the golden rule is to cover the cost of having you there. When you have meals drinks and all that stuff I generally would say $70 - $100 per head depending on the reception place. Sorry ladies but unless your having a backyard wedding or one at the local RSL you really cant feed and provide drinks for a person for under $60. Ive never seen (even in a leagues club) drink packages for under $20 a head and where can you go and get 3 course restaurant meals for $30 and pay for the room hire and everything else?

[Tls5431]

I gave a friend of mine $100 in her wishing well... I think if it was family I would give more... :yes:

[*Chels*]

If I was going to a wedding I would prbably give $100 from DF and I.
Like Mamaduke said,you should pay what would cover your costs.
We are having a wishing well,but we are paying $125 a head.No way would I expect $250 per couple.
She sounds like shes been really good to you so I would probably give $100 and buy her a personal gift too

[Niki]

for a good friend i would give $100 and a small nice gift, something like a wedding album

[mumstar]

we did a wishing well at our wedding and asked people to put there money in an envelope and no names, we did not know who gave what that way. We had some people give $20 and 1 generous person $500. we put it toward a bedreoom suite(bed, bedside tables, tallboy) and a few things around the house and then sent out thankyou to everyone no matter what they gave! My BIL getting married on the weekend we have decieded to give them $100 and some champange and glasses!

[ButterflyMama]

I usually give about 50/100$.

[BabyClancy]

wow, i never knew there was etiquette to money giving for weddings. we went to a wedding recently and decided giving a meyers gift voucher as we hadn't seen the couple in a long time and didn't know what to get them. the voucher was for $50 because i had no idea how much you should give.

will keep in mind the cost per head for the next wedding we attend:yes:

[niesl_bug]

we normally give/spend $50 for birthday/engagement gift and $150-$200 for a wedding.

our friends got married in Mauritius (so no gifts!) but we got them a nice pen, engraved it with their initials and the date of the wedding which they used to sign their registry. it was something we missed at our own wedding and they really liked it and it's a little keepsake also.

[jade21887]

It depends, we are going to my husbands cousins wedding in a few weeks, and have been told that they dont expect anything from us because we have had to drive up there (10 hrs drive), plus organise accommodation etc. So honestly I think I might give about $20 or something, because we have shelled out about $700 just to be there

[Butterbear]

I estimate of what is spent for my own dinner/drinks for myself and husband and give that as a gift!

[Ashleigh<3]

So we went to her wedding last week.
We Gave them a big basket filled with about $50 worth of yummy darralea chocolates. Got her a yummy bottle of brown brothers Bubbly, a big bag of Chocolate coated popcorn.
Then we gave $100 for her wishing well.

They were so thankful, I guess not many people gave gifts/money even though it was a wishing well.

[Mummy2Noah]

What a Beautiful gift Ash !!!!
SHe would have loved that to get 100 Bucks and Chooccies and Wine WOW!!!!

[Ashleigh<3]

Now i'm wishing I bought doubles of everything....Me hungry. :)

[~mia&ryan~]

So we went to her wedding last week.
We Gave them a big basket filled with about $50 worth of yummy darralea chocolates. Got her a yummy bottle of brown brothers Bubbly, a big bag of Chocolate coated popcorn.
Then we gave $100 for her wishing well.

They were so thankful, I guess not many people gave gifts/money even though it was a wishing well.
Wow you were generous, what a lovely gift... You sound like you are a wonderful friend to her...:yes: :hugs:

[Ashleigh<3]

Wow you were generous, what a lovely gift... You sound like you are a wonderful friend to her...:yes: :hugs:

Why thank you lovely ladeh :hugs: :D

[Areca]

If someone I'm not that close to...$50.
If it's someone I'm close to (friend/family member) $100 - $200 depending on how close.
I am having a wishing well at my wedding next month and I really hope people don't insist on buying us gifts. Your situation is different, and that is fine (I would be totally ok with that because it's your tradition) but we want to use our money to buy furniture. We don't want or need anything else.

[Mrs J]

i got married in October and i sent a poem out with my invitations, we mostly got 100 off ppl which i thought was resonable and ppl we didnt know that well 50 we had some of mum and dads friends there, both sides. We had a few that gave us enough for everyone but thats my uncle for ya lol actually its my mums uncle hehe, we are a really close family all in all we had 110 guest and we got $ 3000 and of course its all gone. we used it to start our home which was such a big help,it helped us get all the bigger expensive things we didnt have. I think its a great idea to have it seen as most ppl already live together and have everything before they get married the last thing you want is more of it.