upset with sisters copycat pregnancy

[Mumof2+1]

Would love some advice please.
I feel my sister can't let me have a bub without her having one also.
I gave birth to my daughter 19th July 1997. Soon after my sister anounced she was pregnant at 16 and she gave birth later that year to her daughter born 16th December 1997. At this time I was very happy for her and thought nothing of it. Two years later I fell pregnant with my son born 19th April 1999. Once again my sister fell pregnant and had her second daughter 14th October 1999. I was starting to get alittle sus about the timing as she was no longer with her partner and as far as I knew had no intentions of having a second bub. I never made a big deal out of it and love my sister dearly.
My husband and I have been trying for along time to have a third child and I am currently 19weeks pregnant. I got a phone call from my sister today , informing me, (you guessed it) she is 6weeks pregnant to her new partner.
I just couldn't believe it. I feel she can't stand the attention not being on her.
Am I being silly??
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. :mad:

[willsmum]

I don't think you're being silly. Pregnancy is the one time ALL the focus is on you and you should enjoy every bit of it cos goodness knows once they pop out, you certainly take a back-seat in the attention-stakes. You are justified in wanting the limelight to yourself. And no matter how logical you would like to be about all this, the hormones will get you all weepy and irrational at the best of times - a touch of paranoia about your sisters perceived copy-cat actions is only to be expected.

Unfortunately your sister seems to like copying you - not the best reason to bring kids into the world but it's too late to change that now.

All you can do is deal with your own life, enjoy your own pregnancy and kids and try not to let her get to you too much. After all, in 10 years time who will know or care about this. And at least your kids will have heaps of cousins their own age to play with as they grow up.

Your sister sound a bit selfish, but remember she now has 3 kids to raise in what sounds like a pretty unstable life (3 kids / 3 partners?). You and I both know how tough it is raising kids in a stable home, so what on earth must she be going through?

Good luck to you with this one. Is your mum around? How does she deal with this? Can you talk to her?

[BJelly]

Ditto what Will'smum said. She might be craving attention, and drama, but I think it's all the wrong kind. She's not doing herself or her kids any favours in the long run.

If she is doing it on purpose, it's more than a little sad. I think pitty would be a better feeling to have towards her, rather than annoyance - although I can understand your frustration.

On the up side, at least you're getting in first! :p

Hope this helps.

[Hokey Pokey]

Hi!

Were you and your sister close?

Sounds to me like she envys you, maybe even a little jealous that you have a husband etc and she doesn't, so for her to feel that love maybe she feels being pregnant fills that gap...

Maybe you need to pay her a little more attention if this could be the case, if you guys were ever close etc, maybe she feels left out etc etc :o

Mind you, you have every right to feel peeved off, pregnancy is a time for YOU to enjoy without having others trying to take away that special lime light off you!! :mad: