Wedding RSVP etiquette

[shelle65]

I have been invited to a wedding that is being held in the country (2 hours drive) when I will be 37 weeks pg. I would really love to go, although this is my first bub so I have absolutely no idea if I will be able to drive out to the country and go to a wedding at 37 weeks!

What is the right thing to do by way of RSVP? :detective:

Should I say yes, but warn them that I will be 37 weeks pg so I may have to pull out at the last minute? Or should I just say no straight up so they don't pay for us and waste the money if I can't make it?

What is the etiquette with presents if you say no - give them one before hand, or still go to the registry and have it delivered to the wedding...? :confused: I've only been to one wedding in the past 10 years, so I have no idea how these things work!!!

[razzle]

I would accept, but let them know you may have to cancel at the last minute in case you pop. The cost of a couple of meals isn't going to make much of a difference to the cost of the wedding at the end of the day.

As for the present - do the registry thing. Then it will get delivered at the right time and you don't have to worry. Make sure you take your own card to attach to the present - David Jones only give you a teeny little tag to attach to the gift.

[shelle65]

Yay, thanks for the advice Razzle! :hugs:

[Niki]

i would do as Razzle said, im geeting married soon and have a few really pregnant ladies coming and they have said the same thing

[shed]

I would probably decline. 37 weeks is heavily heavily pregnant and chances are you won't want to go.

If you do the yes-maybe-no thing then just make sure your present is really really nice because they will have to pay for your places, and that could cost them over $200. That's alot of money to go to waste and if it was me I might be a bit annoyed since you knew you would be 37 weeks along, its not like a last minute emergency that prevented you from going, iykwim?

Maybe give them a ring and tell them the situation and ask them what they would prefer that you did.

[JorBai]

I would personally ring and tell them how your feeling and explain you would love to go but dont know how you will be. Chances are they will probably offer you to make the decision on the day. As Razzle said, a couple of meals wont really affect the cost.

Its up to you, but im sure the bride and groom would understand your indecision:yes:

[damien's mum]

I would probably decline. 37 weeks is heavily heavily pregnant and chances are you won't want to go.
Maybe give them a ring and tell them the situation and ask them what they would prefer that you did.

I agree :thumbsup: