I don't think my child will ever sleep through

[jocr]

I have just been reading some threads about these babies that go to bed at 7.00pm and sleep through to 8am!!!! I am so green with envy. My DD has been so inconsistent with her sleep patterns from birth, despite the fact that I am the queen of routines and that is very much how our house is run!!! Some nights I get up once to her, other nights like last night I was up every hour from 1am. I have tried everything from CC, extra bottle, sitting beside the cot, her sleeping with us, sleeping on the couch with her (all over a 10 month period) and don't really know where to go from here. I am particularly stressed about the whole sleep issue at the moment because in a couple of weeks I have to face a classroom full of kids for the first time in over a year and am really concerned about how I am going to cope with the sleep deprivation! Meg has no trouble with going to bed, falls asleep almost instantly, but then wakes up anytime from midnight onwards. And no matter what time she goes to bed, she thinks that 4.30am is an acceptable time to start our day. Sorry about the long vent, I am just feeling like I am the only one with this problem, and I feel like the problem is effecting the way I am able to interact with my little girl the following day. Any advice/feedback would be appreciated. Thanks for listening to me!!!!:ecomcity: :ecomcity: :ecomcity:

[motherlylove]

sounds all to familiar

[Pixie]

Hey I am off to bed now but know how you feel on the sleep deperavation we have a march mummies thread under birth groupd if you want to chat to other mum's of 9-10 months olds, I think only a few sleep through, not mine! her teeth keep her awake oh that and her her passion for breast milk lol

Remember all babies are different, some are good sleepers some are not, I will book mark this and tomorrow I will give you some advice on what I do and what works!
xx

[melfunction]

Mine started sleeping through at 15 months when I was that tired, I slept through his noise.
The next night I listened outside his room and he grizzled for 15 mins and then went back to sleep.
I don't hear him again at night unless he is sick.

[Shell811]

Hi ya
Completely understand how you feel - I'm due to return to work and had same problems. Finally found some info on a website that really helped. Basically said to get bub up before you go to bed, do quick nappy change, cuddle and back to bed. If bub woke during night, resettle without picking up and do CC with bub.

Absolute miracle.... it worked the first night, second, third night slept through. Still doing this routine and bub and I are sleeping a whole heap better. Let me know if you want the website.

[Buddha Bubbas]

I dont have any advice for you because im in the same boat. And its is sinking!!!
Just know you are not alone :hugs:

[SweetSerenity]

Like everyone else...I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL!!

My boy is just over 2 now and still wakes around 3 times a night!

He goes to sleep between 8:30pm and 9:30pm and then wakes generally 12am, 3am, 5am and wakes for the day between 6:30 and 7:30am....

I miss my sleep:sleeping:

[Mummabear]

My DS is 18 months old and he still wakes constantly throughout the night. He has at least one bottle overnight, usually two and some nights he wakes every hour just like yours. Unlike yours, getting him to go to sleep can be a major issue also, but then again, some nights he's a dream to put to bed. They're such hard creatures to work out - I eventually stopped trying and now have just resigned myself to the fact that this is how it's going to be. Worst part is that DH won't do any of the overnight stuff and I'm due to have #2 in 3 weeks so this shall be interesting!

When DS was about 5 months old we did go and see a sleep doctor who gave us a routine and the advice of 'let him cry it out'. I wasn't impressed with this but DH was adamant that we would follow it, so I went out when it was bed time as I couldn't handle to listen to my baby cry and scream for me. Long story short - it took one, maybe two nights and he started sleeping through - but their little bodies go through so many changes that it wasn't long and he started waking again for various reasons. Like I said above, I can't listen to my baby cry so I just went back to getting up to him all the time. If it is any sort of consilation you do get used to the lack of sleep eventually - I fell pregnant with #2 when DS was around 10 months old, and by the time he was about 12 - 13 months old I was so used to being up several times a night that those rare times when he does sleep through I still find that I wake up, so then I go and get a drink instead of getting his, lol.

Sorry, I guess I don't have any real advice for you - just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. You do have choices though - you can either just cop it on the chin as being part of early parenthood and know that one day they will grow out of it, or you can seek support from many sources. In Adelaide we have Child and Youth Health, which is a government run agency helping parents and they run a place called Torrens House which is a 3 night sleep in for parents and children where they assist you in working with any issues that can't be dealt with simply by giving you a book to read. We went there for help with feeding and they were awesome. Try calling your government authority, or your local public hospital and find out what support is available to you if you really want to nip it in the bud.

Good luck - I know how soul destroying lack of sleep can be.

[redman]

Sounds very familar here also.

Trust me, it will get better.

[jasminesmum]

I have a 20mth old dd who only started sleeping through a couple of months ago. Even now she still will wake up once or twice a night most nights.

:hugs: to you.

[Issey]

There is a good book called 'Solve your Childs Sleep Problems' it worked for me along with CC.

:hugs: hugs to you as I know that early wakings are a pain, my 1 yo wakes between 4.30 - 5.30. When it is early morning I feed him, change him and put him back in his cot. I think he is waking at that time as he seems to be very wet & hungry & of course wants to play :banghead: . We are slowly changing that now by making him stay in his cot a little longer each time after doing the above, I am now able to get him to go back to sleep to 6-7am.

If you tried CC before was there a reason it did not work for you?

[mummy2sophie]

Oh my God....you poor thing! That sounds simply awful and incredibly familiar at the same time.

My daughter was born the day before yours!! And she has never slept well day or night.

At least night time we're waking about once maybe twice a night with the occasional sleeping through. Recently though, when she was sick (on Christmas Eve can you believe it???) she woke several times and then at 3am even with panadol she would not sleep until daddy was driving her around from 4:30 til 6.

The day sleeps are horrendous. Only recently does she sleep more than 40 mins. And that was with a great deal of help from Tresillian.

Still our situation is not as bad as yours but we are thinking the same thing - is she EVER going to sleep through!

The worst thing is, my friends at mothers' group all have babies who have been sleeping like little angels and have little idea how the sleep deprivation over months and months affects you.

I'm a SAHM so at least I can take a break. It must be awful going back to work.

I found Tresillian a HUGE help. What's great is that they can take your family in for a few nights so they can take care of bub while you sleep through. This might be an idea for the week before going back to school.

You know what else is freaky? I'm a teacher too!! Or was a teacher. You secondary or primary?? I was secondary but don't plan on going back until DD is in kinder. I can't imagine functioning well on this much sleep. Those poor kids would have to deal with a very stroppy and brain thick English teacher whose vocab has gone out the window!


Many hugs to you. Email me if you want further sympathy, lesson plans or whatever....

sjxhenry@yahoo.com

[mummade3]

& i thought i was the only one having problems.. lol!!

my son i s nearly 19months and t he past few weeks have been terrible.. he has gone back to wanting milk during the nite and being awake n screaming as loud as he can.. his behaviour during the day was affected by his lack of sleep too..

he sleeps wit me so i for last 2 nites i have offered him water only n rub his lower back til he goes back to sleep... (i think i fall asleep before he does)

i've been to the dr's with im but they cant find anything that would bekeeping him awake etc.. one even offered the thought of add or adhd n i said i dont think u could diagnose that on a 19month old!! he then replied he doesn't kno much about children n referred me to a child psyche...

i dont know whats normal anymore n whats not??

[munchkin05]

I have just been reading some threads about these babies that go to bed at 7.00pm and sleep through to 8am!!!! I am so green with envy. My DD has been so inconsistent with her sleep patterns from birth, despite the fact that I am the queen of routines and that is very much how our house is run!!! Some nights I get up once to her, other nights like last night I was up every hour from 1am. I have tried everything from CC, extra bottle, sitting beside the cot, her sleeping with us, sleeping on the couch with her (all over a 10 month period) and don't really know where to go from here. I am particularly stressed about the whole sleep issue at the moment because in a couple of weeks I have to face a classroom full of kids for the first time in over a year and am really concerned about how I am going to cope with the sleep deprivation! Meg has no trouble with going to bed, falls asleep almost instantly, but then wakes up anytime from midnight onwards. And no matter what time she goes to bed, she thinks that 4.30am is an acceptable time to start our day. Sorry about the long vent, I am just feeling like I am the only one with this problem, and I feel like the problem is effecting the way I am able to interact with my little girl the following day. Any advice/feedback would be appreciated. Thanks for listening to me!!!!:ecomcity: :ecomcity: :ecomcity:

dont have any advice cause my 19mth old still doesnt sleep at night
just wanted to give you :hugs: cause i know exactly how you feel

[munchkin05]

been to the dr's with im but they cant find anything that would bekeeping him awake etc.. one even offered the thought of add or adhd n i said i dont think u could diagnose that on a 19month old!! he then replied he doesn't kno much about children n referred me to a child psyche


my step son wad diagnosed with adhd at just under 2 years old

[mummade3]

oh really... do u kno what they based it on or where i could find out more info thx..

[munchkin05]

oh really... do u kno what they based it on or where i could find out more info thx..

doc refered to a phycoligist (sp) and they went from there
i dont really know how they came up with the final diagnosis but you have to fill out lots of questioneers and stuff
if you are really a bit concerened ask to go see someone that specialises in that field
i honestly think that 2 is a bit young for a proper diagnosis but step son is nearly 16 and is on med to help

[Jenko]

My DD is 2.5 and still hasn't slept through the night. I'm just about to have number #2. I'm hoping he's a better sleeper :fingerscrossed:

I hope it gets better for you soon. :hugs: