Looking for inspiration

[k2ma]

Hi,
I am new to this and could be in te wrong section!
I have two beautiful boys who are 16 months apart and two very difficult but different births. DS1 was born in 2005 and his arrival brought with it 3rd degree tearing which took over 5 months to get right again.
:gloomy:

Toileting was worse than being in labour again.

When I discoverd I was pregnant again last year I had very mixed feelings. I was ecstatic at the thought of a new baby but despondent at the thought of having to go through, not the labour, but the recovery process again. I was quite sure though that I would not want a caesarian.

As DS2's birth approached I became confident that I could do this and was really looking forward to the event. However, my careprovider strongly advised me to have a c-section. Despite being truly terrified of the process I went ahead. We live in a remote area and I had had to travel to the nearest hospital 2 weeks before the due date and was not coping very well emotionally without DH around. (He was with me for the c-section but the to-ing and froing of the decision making was the hard part). We did not know until we got there that we would be having a c-sec and thus were were in a catch 22 as far as choice was concerned.

This is getting long! I have recently found that now 5 months after DS2's birth I feel very gloomy and upset about the experience I missed and the prospect of all other babies I may have being c sections.

I was hoping that out there somewhere may be someone who has had a similar tear followed by a ceasar and then maybe vbac-ed successfully?

thanksfor your time:fingerscrossed:

[brodiebunch]

I have had a differnt experience,but it sounds as though you are in the right place.It does get easier with help.I hope you find some comfort here:hugs:

[mistey]

:wave:
Hi there,
I too had very long labours both for my first son then second daughter. That would explain why there is a 6 year gap, too scared to fall pregnant and go thru it again. I had contractions for approx 4 days and i was exhausted to push in the end as i had no energy. My son had one of those oxygen wires attached thru me on his head as he was losing oxygen and he finally came out all blue (due to my water leaking slowly for 4 days) and scaly...

labour with my 2nd was just as bad and i suffered terribly. I had a catharta inserted and lost that much blood that i nearly needed a transfusion and i had icepacks downstairs for 4 weeks thanx to the tearing and bruising. doctors advised me to elect c section if i ever decide to have another one.
Also, on xmas day last year 2006, a local woman died giving child birth along with her baby (this day and age). She got amniotic poisoning from the placenta. she was in a long labour...
i recommend C section anytime.....not only for the mother but the baby is in distress as well. If i knew myself i would have gotten a c-section...and atleast your pelvic floor muscles will be right as well..

Hi,

I am new to this and could be in te wrong section!
I have two beautiful boys who are 16 months apart and two very difficult but different births. DS1 was born in 2005 and his arrival brought with it 3rd degree tearing which took over 5 months to get right again.
:gloomy:

Toileting was worse than being in labour again.

When I discoverd I was pregnant again last year I had very mixed feelings. I was ecstatic at the thought of a new baby but despondent at the thought of having to go through, not the labour, but the recovery process again. I was quite sure though that I would not want a caesarian.

As DS2's birth approached I became confident that I could do this and was really looking forward to the event. However, my careprovider strongly advised me to have a c-section. Despite being truly terrified of the process I went ahead. We live in a remote area and I had had to travel to the nearest hospital 2 weeks before the due date and was not coping very well emotionally without DH around. (He was with me for the c-section but the to-ing and froing of the decision making was the hard part). We did not know until we got there that we would be having a c-sec and thus were were in a catch 22 as far as choice was concerned.

This is getting long! I have recently found that now 5 months after DS2's birth I feel very gloomy and upset about the experience I missed and the prospect of all other babies I may have being c sections.

I was hoping that out there somewhere may be someone who has had a similar tear followed by a ceasar and then maybe vbac-ed successfully?

thanksfor your time:fingerscrossed:

[ImSethsMum]

I cant help with a VBac after c/sect experience sorry. I had a VB with DS and it was a nightmare and because of it I really didnt want more kids. The fact that you want more kids is (I think) a great sign that you are emotionally healing and getting stonger as a person. I think that with the right support from a Dr you trust that you will have a positive experience next time - whether vbac or another c/sect.
Luv Kel

[flib]

I felt very sad about my c-section with my first baby. I have since had 2 VBACs and they were worth it. There's no reason why you couldn't have a VBAC especially since you've birthed vaginally before.

What you would need is really good support - both emotionally and medically when the baby crowns. Another tear may not be inevitable if the baby is born slowly with the help of an experienced midwife or doctor.

Good luck

Flib