is it wierd to

[jessgray]

propse to your dp? i'm getting sick of waiting:laughing:
has anyone propsed to their DP? how did you do it?

[Zada]

no one here actually proposed lol..I just said come on ure buying me a ring :laughing:

[jessgray]

:laughing: thats almost as good as my idea of making a top for ds1 saying "daddy make mummy an honest woman":laughing:

[~EmsMum~]

I think its weird but its getting more and more common these days... I say go for it :D :thumbsup:

[jessgray]

:D
for some reason im worried he'll say no coz he is in the mind set " a wedding is just a piece of paper" lol

[Lozie]

i dont think so i just told dh we were getting married and a month later we did

[jessgray]

:smiliedance: i think i'll do it on valenties day. should i go get him a ring to be all tradtional:laughing:

[missie_mack]

I dont know about it being weird. Im sure theres a custom about asking your man to marry you on a leap year or something. You could start by putting the thought into his mind about how you think its more than a piece of paper... "oh some girl on bubhub..... Isnt that lovely I would love you to do that" :ecomcity: and then the isnt that ring nice thing...

Me, Im a little modern with this kind of stuff. When we got engaged we both got engagement rings. His wasnt a diamond style or anything I gave him a Claddagh Ring I bought while I was in Ireland. These are traditionally wedding rings but it depends on which way you wear it. It was nice to both have rings.... Good luck!

[jessgray]

i think next yr is a leap year iknow next leap yr dp's nan celbrates her 21st:laughing: so dotn want to take the spotlight off her 21st hehehe

[oleander]

I wouldnt do it:no: maybe talk to him about why he dosent want to get married first. Some men are afraid of the whole commitment of marriage and he needs to sort this out first.

[jessgray]

i already know its not the commitment he just views marriage as a piece of paper. i dont think it really helps that his parents divorced when he was young. he says he isnt going anywhere and that he's here til he dies or i get rid of him lol i just think it be nice to make it all foral IYKWIM?

[AngelGirl]

I don't think it's weird at all, if you have been together for awhile and know that this is what you both want, then go for it! :thumbsup: However, if you think he has some reservations, then maybe talk it over with him, it sounds like his parents divorce may have had a big impact on him?

I noticed that you are 20 years old, is he the same age? Even though he may be totally committed to yourself and your children, he may simply not be ready for the big 'M' yet. If that's the case, give him some time, it will happen.

Personally I am a little old fashioned and waited for DH to propose to me. We had been together 8 years when he proposed. Neither of us were in a hurry, we were totally committed to each other and knew it would happen when the time was right. We've been married nearly a year and expecting our first baby in August.

Best of luck to you.

[jessgray]

thanks :) my dp is 21 turning 22 this year.

[bekkyboo]

Ashleigh<3 proposed to her DF.... :D

[Mum&bubs]

Yep Ash proposed to her now DF. I think in this day & age its getting more common for women to propose :D

[damien's mum]

Lol, not at all... go for it girl! Bring in a new century :thumbsup: Just make sure u use his wallet :laughing:

[BabyClancy]

i think AngelGirl is right.

DF and i have been together for nearly 7 years and have only been engaged for a month. we talked of getting married and engaged for years but it took years for me to feel ready (i think i was about 22 when i really knew i was ready) and then i waited for DF to really feel ready (he's 27). it was a matter of being patient because it's a personal thing to really know if you're ready. you wouldn't want him to along with getting engaged if he wasn't really ready for it because he wouldn't feel comfortable and happy with it.

but...communication is the key i think. we talked about it a lot. sometimes seriously and sometimes not very seriously, just talking about what we might want for our wedding. he knew though when i felt ready and he knew that i respected that he wasn't ready and was going to wait so that there wasn't pressure. sometimes pressure can be a killer.

this is just my opinion. talk about it and if you both feel the same way, you think he's ready just a little unsure about what he's supposed to do with proposing (some have no idea) then go for it!

[Ashleigh<3]

:D I asked mine, luckily he said yes. Otherwise..:devil6:

Marriage takes two people, so when it comes down to who should propose, when you think about it, it's only tradition that's telling us that it's the mans job. If you feel like you want to propose, you do it! It was something I had been thinking about for a long while, so I did it.
:D YOU CAN DO IT!!

[bubsone]

I asked my DH to marry me, but in a round a bout kind of way.We had been together 2 years, and I knew after about 3 months he was the guy for me.
I said "do you think we will get married one day?"
DH"yeh one day"
Me "which one day?"
DH " oh april next year"
Me "I think October"
Dh " no april is better"

...and that was it, we were engaged. That was 12 years ago this April, I was nearly 22,Dh 23.

Good Luck-I say GO FOR IT!!!!