Moving 17mo to a new room and cot - how??

[Mummabear]

Hi girls,

Well, with the upcoming arrival of #2 we have finally finished painting the spare room for DS and we now need to move him into the room before bubs arrives (which is 3 weeks away).

DS loves his new room and has a ball in there during the day, we keep taking him in there and showing him all his stuff and telling him that it's his special new room, we put him in his new cot during the day (not to sleep, just to be in it) and he seems to love it, but tonight we tried to put him to sleep in there for the first time and it was a disaster. He just screamed and screamed. I can't let him 'cry it out' so that's not an option for us. I tried going in there and cuddling him without leaving the room, I sang a couple of songs to him and he calmed down and was nearly asleep in my arms but as soon as I put him in the cot he screamed again. I took him back out into the lounge and cuddled him for a while and then I put him back into his old cot in his old room and he went straight to sleep. I know this is a massive transition for him - he's only ever known the one cot and now we want him to get used to a different room (he's moved house with us once so he's done the new room thing) and a different cot, but I really want to get this sorted out before I have the baby as I don't want too many things to be going on for DS at once - his whole world is about to be turned upside down by the arrival of another little body to the family and I want to make the transition as smooth as possible for him.

How have others dealt with this issue? I was thinking of perhaps going into his room shortly and picking him up from his cot and taking him to his new room and putting him in there and then seeing how it goes when he wakes in the middle of the night for his bottle. Do you think this is a good approach or should we work on an 'all or nothing' approach?

I know we should have moved him ages ago but we didn't have the time or the money to get his room ready until this week. I'm so mindful of making too many changes to his world at once and I know we need to give him time to make the move as he's ready, but I also want to take some positive steps to help him get there.

Any suggestions or ideas would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks :)

[the_queen]

Hi Riss !!! :wave:

If it was me, with Vallerie at that age, I would put her in there after she's fast asleep. I guess you can try it, and see how it goes. If it doesn't work, well, cross that bridge if you come to it.


(yes, I have no real advice :laughing: :o)

[reAllytee]

Awwww sh!te i was hoping the tricks you have been using would be the way to go !!!
We still have to paint & set up Boofs new room no hurry not due till July anyways but errr yeah i thought letting them play & the likes would work.
Cr@p :eek:

Maybe can you lay down on a mattresse next to him while he goes to sleep ?

How about a nite light ? Might not make the room so strange & scary being nite time.

Will be watching this thread with interest cause i need the help too lol !

[Mummabear]

Ally - where the h#ll have I been??? Did I even know you were expecting? I can't remember, lol. Oh dear, I really miss my brain.

I thought we were onto a winner also as he loves his room so much during the day - oh well.

Queenie - I think we're on the same page, I think I'll try shifting him into there shortly and then see how he goes when he wakes in the middle of the night.

We also have a bed in the room for him but won't be taking that step for quite a while, but DH said that he would sleep in there for a few nights while DS gets used to his room - not that he'll get up and do the feeds though - I swear that man pours concrete into his ears before bed, lol.

[*Sparkles*]

Where is the "Super nanny" when you need her? lol

Actually, the reason I am posting in here is because there was an episode of super nanny that covered something like this. They did the "little but often" stradegy to get the child's confidence up. They also used rewards that he would get if he stayed in there such as special toys, favourite TV show etc) and they started by having the child take a daytime nap in there first, before doing a full night.
I hope this might help you.

[Mummabear]

Cool - thanks for the suggestions Hels. I will definitely try the day time naps first if my theory of moving him tonight doesn't work, lol.

[Shakey]

mummabear have you thought of putting a big boys bed in there? or even a mattress, that way you can lye there with him while he goes to sleep, he'll feel more secure then having you there right beside him, that way getting him used to going to sleep,

[reAllytee]

Ally - where the h#ll have I been??? Did I even know you were expecting? I can't remember, lol. Oh dear, I really miss my brain.


You just arent around often enough these days :(
But yeah silly me got herself knocked up again still not sure how it happened but i think sharing the toilet had something to do with it ! ;)

Oooooh i like Hels suggestion even though im not normally a fan of Super Nanny but that sounds great ! Rewarding them seems like a fantastic way to go !
Although possibly its bribing :laughing:

[Mummabear]

Rewarding them seems like a fantastic way to go !
Although possibly its bribing :laughing:

Bribing - you mean like when I give him tiny teddies and put the wiggles on so he'll be quiet for 15 minutes and I can get some peace :laughing: :o

[reAllytee]

Bribing - you mean like when I give him tiny teddies and put the wiggles on so he'll be quiet for 15 minutes and I can get some peace

I wish the blooming Wiggles would give me peace !!! The child demands them to be put on but doesnt watch them he just likes them as background noise :rolleyes:
My bribing is definately the food though :laughing:




:laughing: damn toilet.

Its seriously has a lot to answer for thats for sure !!!!

[Mummabear]

Its seriously has a lot to answer for thats for sure !!!!

I'm still trying to work out if this baby is mine or not. I don't remember getting any action or rolling into any wet spots. There's going to be some serious DNA testing going on soon, lol.

[reAllytee]

I'm still trying to work out if this baby is mine or not. I don't remember getting any action or rolling into any wet spots. There's going to be some serious DNA testing going on soon, lol.

Im the same !!!!

Even my sister said " thought you had to have sex for that to happen " when i announced it :laughing:

But then again if the newbie is as cute as the gorgeous Ozzy then im pretty sure it belongs to you :p

[Mummabear]

Well, here's an hilarious update on the moving rooms issue.

DS fell asleep on DH's lap on the couch while I was out today, so DH put him down in his new room. I arrived home while DS was still asleep and we waiting to see how DS would react to waking up in his new room. Eventually we heard laughter and chuckling coming from DS's new room so DH went in there to get him up, thinking that he was just playing in his cot with his teddies, which he often does when he wakes. He was in for a rude shock, lol. DS had managed to get to the changetable that was at the end of the cot and get hold of the vaseline. DH walked in to DS covered from head to toe (including the cot and all the linen). DS thought it was hilarious and was having a ball. DH & I laughed so hard we were in tears. We're now hoping that DS thinks his new room is okay considering there's fun stuff to do when he wakes up, lol.

[reAllytee]

LMAO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thats awesome even if messy hehehee.

Dont ya hate it when they do things like that cause it means mess etc for you to clean up but they are so cute & giggly you cant be mad !

Good luck for tonite :fingerscrossed: