private adoption In Usa

[DoulaMelissa]

hello all
happy new years
m y mind has been running overtime on this adoption thing
i been looking up on the intenet and in the usa family or single ladies can do a private adoption it easy but my main issue is money and getting the child back in australia
any one heard of this
hugs
Doula Melissa

[neostudded]

yes i have heard of private adoption there!!

i baby sat the children whilst there mother worked,
the girls would show me photos of there "birth mommy" and other sisters and brothers.

i didnt ask there mother question's about it.
so i cant tell you much,
but it must not have been to hard as she adopted a 2nd child..

[neostudded]

and theres another way to adopt, my grand mother (a foster parent) adopted a 2 year foster girl last year!!!
the girl wasnt up for adoption, but all my grandmother did was get permission of the mother and go though all the legal documents...also i believe adoption is more in favour of you if you foster, as both services are closely conected..

[neostudded]

there mother lived in the usa so it wouldnt have been done though australia..she only moved here very recently she adopted them off a woman in with she was freinds with..and they dont contact there real mother they simply have photos of there family.

[neostudded]

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i know what iam talking about, she also has children in "permanet care", who she has till 18..she has adopted this girl i have seen half the forms and they are adoptive, the girl is my aunty now, she has my last name to.the way you spoke to me was discusting.listen to your self speak!!:laughing:

my grandmother contacted and mother and asked if she could adopt the girl, and she had to do the legal stuff though the adoptive system.

[Ickimum]

Becoming a expat and adopting from the US after being there for 12 month is tech correct, but its not a straight forward as this getting them back to Australia is the difficult part,(I have researched this for years before giving up!!) our immigrantions do not accept US adoptions automatically and private adoption are actually illegal in Australia, so any Adoption that is made privately in the US will be viewed in a poor light here...........I understand the reasons but its frustrating, also our immigration can refuse the entry of a anyperson on health reasons alone, even birth children of Australians have at times had difficulty coming home if they where born overseas with a medical issue or disability. Things such as Hep C, Cronic conditions such as Sickle Cell, heart conditions etc etc can be refused and since Sickle Cell is very common in African American children this is a huge concern if adopting a AA child from the US........I know of one case where the a expat family gave birth to a child with Down syndrome while in the US working, they had to prove that the child would not be a burden to Australian society before they could bring him home(which took months and months of legal fights, support from here and goverment intervention).........and he was their birth child, so its not easy and its very risky.......also last I check America refused to sign the geneva convetions policy on intercountry adoption and the prevention of Child trafficking,:confused: there are many reasons why they will not sign the policy, but the main reason is private adoptions.............ITS huge money in the USA, many, many people have made Millions on selling babies to the highest bidder. Don't get me wrong many many legal and wonderful adoptions happen every day in America. I have the pleasure of witnessing several via my Best friend who lives there...............but the risk with Private is their is NO real way to know if the childs mother has been paid to give up her child, been promised the world, had a car brought for them etc...........its risky.
The best way is to marry a American Valentine and then you can legally adopt via their system with a great agency that sticks to the rules ;o)
As a mother of 2 beautiful adopted boys adopted via the local Australian system...........I say there is nothing more comforting knowning that my kids birth family recieved ever possible chance to parent their children but chose adoption its also wonderful to know that I will not ever have to fight for my kids in court because a birth parent is screaming foul play at any stage.
Also as a mother of a child in PC via child safety, let me just say, its not the same as adoption and its also not a good idea for people who want to adopt to choose this way to become parents, PC doesn't always mean forever (well in our state anyway) and this can lead to heart break.................
I am happy to discuss the pro's and con's of PC v's Adoption with anyone
Regards Ickimum
Mumma to many via birth, adoption and PC.