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mauve
30-12-2006, 09:29 PM
Never one to rush into anything....finally I am posting my ad. After 15 months of learning all I can about ED and 16 and a half years on this rocky road to motherhood.

Desperately seeking a bright and very healthy female 21 – 35 yrs who leads a clean and stable lifestyle to donate an egg to a fabulous, financially secure woman from the NSW Central Coast.

:o Hmmmmm, a bit 'out there'...start again....

Here is the short version of my story.

My XDH and I tried, unsuccessfully, between 1990 and 2001 to have a child. 11 years of IVF, natural therapies, hypnotherapy and whatever else claimed to be the answer, yielded no child for us. We went our separate ways five and a half years ago, he has since remarried and has three step-children. I spent four years soul-searching and number-crunching and in 2005 I decided to pursue my quest to be a mum on my own. I had two unsuccessful ICSI cycles last year using anonymous donor sperm. This year, thanks to the DH of a very special egg donor, Angela, David became my known sperm donor. I travelled interstate to avoid quarantine rules and cycled in August this year - again no luck. Didn't even make it to transfer.

I am currently waiting for my 'supply' to come out of quarantine at the end of January. I'd like to do one more cycle with my own eggs but am yet to speak with my specialist about that. I have a feeling he may not be 'on the bus' with that idea - considering my age - 44.

Yep, that's the short version :rolleyes:

I really do feel very awkward about advertising for someone to help me. I'm not one to tug at heartstrings - I tend to head in the other direction and joke all the way. Joking about the most important thing in my life seems somehow in bad taste though. Like every other IP in the world, all I have ever wanted is to be a mum. It's so easy isn't it? Meet the love of your life, get married, have a child and live happily ever after. Right? Well, somewhere I took a wrong turn and now, here I sit. I didn't waste my childbearing years on my career, travelling or living the high life - circumstances just landed me here. Yes, I'd love to have a DH to share parenthood with but, biologically, I just can't afford to waste any more time looking for him. I also have very strong views on bringing a child into a couple's home where that home is less than happy. I want a loving, peaceful and nurturing home for my child and am happy and confident about embarking on this path to motherhood alone. I am a mad gardener and can't wait to have a child to play mud pies with! I'm very much an earthy free spirit.

So, if you're reading this and think you might be interested in helping me on the next phase of my journey, please contact me via PM or email me at suziqad@hotmail.com .

You will be fully compensated and accommodation, travel and friendship support provided. I'm willing to travel to you if need be.

DO SOMETHING SPECTACULAR!!! :)

wa mum of 4
30-12-2006, 09:33 PM
Hey mauve,
Unfortunatly I am unable to help you but just popped in to wish you all the luck in the world to find your :angel:
:hugs:
Sarah

jo-anne.36
30-12-2006, 10:24 PM
hello mauve good luck with your search for your :angel: as iam in the boat as you by the way have i see you some where else xxxx jo-anne jojo whos the gogo:)

jess_live_die
30-12-2006, 10:44 PM
good luck hunni

Mum2Bug
30-12-2006, 10:47 PM
Just wanted to wish you all the best in your search.:hugs:

leisurly
31-12-2006, 09:29 AM
Hi dear SQ

That is a lovely ad and I wish you all the very best in finding your :angel: I'm sure you won't wait long as many donors already know you so well and will be jumping in to help.

Good luck in 2007 in finding your donor and I'd change dr's if he isn't keen as I felt my old specialist didn't try to hard just took the cash and did the motions. Find someone who really wants to give it a shot, I know you've been up to QFG and I'm also with them and they have been so wonderful.

If you need donor sperm and egg would you consider advertising for donor embryo's then you'd be having your embryo's from one family. I've been very lucky with my embryos

hugs to you Lxxx (AKA Tink)

sarahstarfish
03-01-2007, 04:38 PM
Hey Suzi

Well, you finally did it.....wish you hadn't had to but knowing you it will be onwards and upwards until you hold that longed for babe.

I donated to a single lady and didnt' for one minute regret it - I agree that it is the quality of the parenting rather than the sex quotient that is the most important factor - am sure there are lots of other women who are thinking of donating who feel the same way. A 'couple' does not necessarily a wonderful family make.

Good luck lady - it's been a long and bumpy road but I hope 2007 is the one that makes it all worthwhile.

Love

Cindy

kiah
03-01-2007, 04:42 PM
just want to say good luck...:thumbsup: u deserve it....:hugs:

Lil X-men
03-01-2007, 04:49 PM
What an honest and open ad.
I would willingly donate my egg to you if I were able.
I believe you sound like a very deserving person who has tried and tried and not yet been blessed with a child. But you will soon.
I am currently pregnant with no.2 baby and if this one is a girl it will be our last child (we may have one more if we have another boy this time).
I look so forward to be able to help one of you lovely ladies.
I only wish there was a way to help now, everyone deserves the chance to be a mum.
Best luck with your ED journey I hope you get your baby soon!:fingerscrossed:

mauve
03-01-2007, 07:35 PM
Thanks so much ladies for all your lovely replies. Your kindness has brought a tear to my eyes - just knowing that some of you would donate if you could has lifted my spirits enormously.
Yes Jo, you and Tink do know me from another board.
And Cindy - it's been a long time coming I know :o
Thanks again - the kindness on this board really brings a smile to my face :)

jo-anne.36
03-01-2007, 08:24 PM
hey ok xxx jojo:wizard:

MnM
12-01-2007, 02:16 PM
Hi Mauve

Thank you for sharing your story - you are obviously a courageous person and that is a great quality to have and also to be able to share with others. All the best in your journey to meet your future special people!

MnM

mauve
12-01-2007, 04:52 PM
Hi M and thanks for your kind words.
I'm not courageous all the time though :o I just usually think "now, what is the absolute worst thing that can happen if this goes pear shaped?". Then I go ahead and do it anyway :yes:
Do I 'know' you from another board?
Cheers
S

Melanie&Lucky
19-01-2007, 09:18 PM
Hi :wave:

Just wanting to wish you all the best with your search. You deserve to be a Mummy so much and should not have had to go through so many years on this rocky road. :fingerscrossed: fingers crosssed :fingerscrossed: that you will find your special :angel: soon.

jo-anne.36
19-01-2007, 09:31 PM
:wave: mel have'n see you on bub&hub for a while and good luck to you hon with your :angel: and cycle in oct i hope:wizard: comes your way xxxx jojo:)

mauve
20-01-2007, 09:38 AM
Thanks Mel :)

kandd
23-01-2007, 11:33 PM
Hi Sue,

Just dropping in to see how your search is going...

I hope that you find your donor :angel: soon.

Diana:hugs:

mauve
24-01-2007, 05:47 AM
Hi Diana
My searching is still happening. Rolling along slowly.
Patience is a virtue, so they say, and I have had plenty of time to practice :yes:
Thanks for popping in, drop by any old time you like.

xkwzit
05-05-2007, 09:31 PM
I have been told that Mauve has found her egg donor :angel:. That is such fantastic news and we all here wish her the very best as she continues her amazing journey. I will close this thread for her now, so that others can search for their donor angels.