when to get married...??

[Femme la Phoenix]

:wave: everyone

I thought the best place to ask for advice is here; bubhub is great advice.

We have being thinking about "when" to actually get married. As we are trying now, do you wait until the babies born? or is it ok to walk down the aisle with a baby bump? And if it's ok to walk down the aisle with a bump when would you? if you decide to wait how long after the birth??

Wanting to enjoy the day and still look a beautiful bride is the key...olivia and bella's mum looked goregous and got me thinking does it work that way for everyone??

but what happens if your planning a wedding and a pregnancy and they both happen at once??? I wouldn't post-pone a baby (not at my age) but would you get married anyway or wait till after the bub is born? and how long after would you wait??

sorry about the cute factor, it's not that you would because it's cute or in vogue - why would you do anything because it's in fashion....i believe in indivualism. it's more if I happen to be pregnant and getting married......................what would you do

[Eleroo]

I say get married when ever it feels right, wether it be before your preg or 7mths preg or even after bubs, I don't think it really matters,

I got married 4 years ago when I was 12wks preg, it was a good time to get married, I had only found out 4wks earlier that i was preg so had already organised everything so couldn't really back out of it lol

[iluvmeboyz]

it doesnt matter if you are preg or not you would look beautiful anyway do what you feel is best and go with your heart.

[oleander]

I chose the option 'wait until >6months' only because that's what I would personally do. I think it would be cute to have the bubs in the bridal party:) Plus you wouldn't be all hormonal and possibly act like a 'Bridezilla' when organising things. Really, it's what you feel YOU want to do. Good luck with it!:)

[cheezelkat]

I agree with leilas Mummy.

I think when pregnant you're dress selection will be more limited the bigger you get and you have no idea how pregnancy will treat you.

I would either do it before pregnancy or after 6 months.

[~mia&ryan~]

I picked when bubs is over 6 months, but only because that's what I am doing. Well it will be a heck of a lot over 6 months but it was the closest option.:D Just go with what feels right to you and your DF.

[bronny-jane]

i picked all but the first...whenever your ready....but im not offended seeing a pg women walk down the isle.....:D

[OopsieDaisy]

I didn't vote, I find nothing wrong with being a pregnant bride (I was one :yes: ) but not because I find it "cute".

[missie_mack]

I think it is up to you when you get married. I was 6 months pregnant when I got married (and yes it was a planned baby) The fluid in my legs wasnt great but my skin and hair were. I didnt wear the dress I originally planned to buy and instead had one made by a courtier which worked out cheaper and better than what I was going to buy off the rack. To be honest I think I was more relaxed about the wedding preparations as I had other things going on in my head....

[can'twait]

Hi LJ Harmony,

The downside of being pregnant on your wedding day is that you can't drink! Even if you are not a big drinker it is nice to have a few drinks with famiy and friends on the day.

But seriously though shouldn't marriage come before kids?, or am I just being old-fashioned?

[Lila]

well i was told it takes 6 month to fall preggers after you have taken the pill for a longer period of time....
so that in my mind we thought i would be 3 month pregnant IF at all....

well i was 8months (my dressmaker didn´t like me for that LOL)...6 weeks later we had our first baby :)

[missie_mack]

The downside of being pregnant on your wedding day is that you can't drink! Even if you are not a big drinker it is nice to have a few drinks with famiy and friends on the day.


I think it depends on the individuals decision on that one. My OB said to have a glass or two hasnt been found to cause problems. Its when you cant stop at the glass or two.... But then again theres some non alcoholic wines and that too.

I forgot to add the downside to getting married while pregnant is the comments people make and how everyone assumes your rushing to get married before the baby arrives :rolleyes: (which I wasnt in my case)

[mum2bubba]

Personally I don't think it really matters weather you're pregnant or not, do what you feel is right and what you'd be happy with.

[mum2elouise]

I ticked anytime you're pregnant - but like O&B's mum, not because i think it's 'cute'. I really don't think it matters, to tell you the truth. I got married when i was 32 weeks pregnant - the only difference is that my dress selection was limited and i couldn't drink. Neither of these were a problem because firstly, i don't drink anyway so that was no biggie, then secondly, my Mum is a dressmaker so she custom made a lovely wedding dress to fit my 7-months-pregnant bump:D

[Femme la Phoenix]

Hi everyone....it's great to see such a varied opinion, gotta love bubhub for that!!

yes, i suppose it is traditional to marry first and then have kids., in a perfect world i think that's what i'd mostly do...but, my whole relationship with DP has being 'unconventional':D our main consideration was not missing out on having more kids, second consideration for both of us is formalising it.

we do beleive in marriage, i think that living together is great and today it's more accepted even by the old's but i think marriage has got more appeal because of it....do you think???

olivia's&bella's mum...i wouldn't get married when pregnant just because it's cute either, it was late at night - it's more a case of we want both to have a baby and get married, if they both coinside what would you do - - wait - - or get married anyway

[Becteria]

I say get married when ever it feels right, wether it be before your preg or 7mths preg or even after bubs, I don't think it really matters,

I got married 4 years ago when I was 12wks preg, it was a good time to get married, I had only found out 4wks earlier that i was preg so had already organised everything so couldn't really back out of it lol

I found out 2 weeks before ours - no turning back!

However my preference is older than 6 months so that you can really enjoy yourself;.

[jess_live_die]

it doesnt matter if you are preg or not you would look beautiful anyway do what you feel is best and go with your heart.
i 2nd that

[library-laksa]

well, i got married on saturday at 30 weeks and everyone says i looked great :)
http://s116.photobucket.com/albums/o37/library-laksa/WEDDING/ (http://s116.photobucket.com/albums/o37/library-laksa/WEDDING/)
we planned both the wedding and the baby so it wasn't a "shotgun wedding" even tho some people think so! we got pregnant quicker than expected but we knew i would be pregnant before the wedding anyway.
it was a perfect day and i don't drink anyway so half a glass of champagne was fine with me!

[GiggleBerry]

Hi:wave:

I ticked 6months or older only because both situations I think you would like to enjoy seperately. It would be nice to focus on one thing at a time and really savour that special time. My SIL was 6 months when she got married...they got pregnant the night of their engagment party:laughing: she looked absolutely radiant so like many have said go with what your heart tells you.

Michelle

[Rockett]

Personally I don't think it really matters weather you're pregnant or not, do what you feel is right and what you'd be happy with.

I agree.Whenever the time is right for you,is the time to get married.
I was a pregnant bride,and have had no regrets about getting married when I did.It suited us,so we did it.
Good luck on whatever you decide.

[OJandMe]

I was 25 weeks pregnant at our wedding, but looked like 9 months, coz of the two...

In a perfect world I would have liked to be married before we got pregnant (or before I started showing. The sole reason for this being... I couldn't wear my dress :no: I've still got it, unworn, up the top of my cupboard... roll on ten years, I'll wear it at the renewal of vows.)... but that being said I refused to change the date of my wedding which was already planned just becasue I was pregnant.

I had a lovely day.. the only downside being that I was VERY tired by the end, and the reception hall wasn't adequately spaced for a waddling 6 month with twins woman needing to use the loo.