HELP needed!!

[bub7]

my sister has a 2yr old little boy and everytime she walkes away from him he crys and screams ect. She has no idea what is up with him and i thought i would write on here to see if any of you have any advice to give to her? She cant go to the toilet with out him screaming and banging on the door, She has to tell him everything she is doing so he doesnt freak out and think she has left him. She is finding it really hard at the moment with him being like this, as he is usually a really cruisey kid any advice would be much appricated (sp?)
She also has a 3yr old girl and with her having to spend so much time with her DS her DD is missing out on the time with her

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[damien's mum]

I can't really help, as i havent had this problem. I know the more she does leave him, the more he will get used to it.... Hope things get better for her :fingerscrossed:

[joshs_mum]

Sorry to disagree with the PP but I have been told (haven't actually been there yet though) that if it's separation anxiety the best thing to do is actually respond, so that he becomes secure in knowing mum will come back when she leaves, then eventually he will settle.

[FourAngelKisses]

Sorry to disagree with the PP but I have been told (haven't actually been there yet though) that if it's separation anxiety the best thing to do is actually respond, so that he becomes secure in knowing mum will come back when she leaves, then eventually he will settle.


Totally agree. My son started separation anxiety at 9mths and didn't grow out of it until he was almost 2.5yrs old. The worst thing you can do is to ignore them as they are left feeling like you don't care.
Reassurance is best. If she has to pee, she should tell him and leave the door open. If she showers, put him in the bathroom with some toys or on a chair or something. It is hard when you have other children to care for, I couldn't even leave Matthew with my husband to go and hang washing out as he would scream the house down. He became a total clingon, where I went, he went.
As a result though, I now have a totally loving child, totally different to how his siblings were at the same age.

[bub7]

She does tell him where she is going and that she will be back very soon other wise she takes him EVERYWHERE she goes. She leaves the door open some times but she cant do so when she has people over. And he usually showers with her other wise sits and watches her.
She doesnt ignore the fact, she is forever comforting him,telling him its ok that mummy isnt gonna leave him.
So if it is seperation anxiety, is there anything inparticular that she can do to help him through it.

[FourAngelKisses]

Nope, just wait till he outgrows it really. Lots of reassurance and making sure he can see her at all times.

[iluvmeboyz]

i hope things get better for you.

[V8]

My DS has pretty bad seperation anxiety, i reversed a car on our driveway the other day and he screamed his head off, i didn't even go anywhere i was just moving the car. It's really hard. DS is still too little to understand as he's 13months. I didn't know it could go on till they are like 2.5 y/o! Goodness!

[FourAngelKisses]

I didn't know it could go on till they are like 2.5 y/o! Goodness!

Usually it doesn't.

[jess_live_die]

my younest was like that and sometimes still is i just show her wat im doing and say im comming bak walk behide a door or something were they cnt see you and wait then come out and say im bak. and start small then they get used to im comming bak and dnt worry so much.