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Harmony83
01-11-2005, 14:41
Hey guys just after some advice or maybe feel like having a whinge...
My brother (Jeff) and his girlfriend (Rach) have 2 little ones (almost 3 and a 7 month old). Rach is a chronic lier (sp?), a drug user and now a thief... Long story, basically a friend of my other brothers (David) asked if he could mind her engagement ring and wedding ring whilst she went on hols as they were very valuable and she didn't want to leave them at home. My brother Jeff and Rach were visiting, and the rings went missing?? And again, the other night my parents house was broken into, (Jeff & Rach live up the road a bit), and my parents were at their house visiting, and Rach decided to go to the chemist to get baby panadol, just after she left my dad went home to get something when he heard someone upstairs, he sneaked up but 'the person' heard them and went flying out the back door before he could see who it was, now my parents back door is a hard one too open it, and unless you have done it before you would be there for quite some time trying to, so it would have to have been someone we know... My mums engagement ring was stolen, and alot of papers gone through, where mum hides money occassionally (again only someone who knows mum, knows where this is hidden)... Rach knew that Dad had over $1000 hidden at home that night (luckily he hid it). My parents have been nothing but nice to Rach, especially my dad who has always stuck up for her and believed in her, and he still doesn't want to believe it, I think he's upset about it (his wallet has been stolen twice before coincedently (sp?) And he has always given her the benefit of the doubt. My parents won't go to the police or confront her as they don't want to cause friction... Any suggestions.... I am just sooo annoyed! She is always hitting my brother, and starting fights with my other brother (he has received many black eyes from her) You know what I always thought she was such a nice girl too...

Mummaof2
01-11-2005, 15:05
I was in a similar situation with my brother. He did an armed robbery at a general store when he was 19 and has been lying and stealing from my parents, breaking into their home and my home, stole from my sister and the list goes on. They all kept giving him chances saying that as long as they are there for him that he will change. Once he started breaking into my parents house and basically blaming my parents for his drug habits etc I gave up on him (me my brother were very close when we were younger). My dad ended up with a heart condition from all the stress my brother was causing my parents and I was sick of him stealing fromt them and my parents not doing anything about it. So I went to the police myself. Yes it was hard and I did feel a bit of guilt for turning my own brother in but i wasnt going to stand by any longer and let him do what he was doing to my parents. It turned out that he already had a warrant out for his arrest as he had broken his parole but he didnt have a fixed address so the police could never catch up with him.

If you honestly believe that Rachael is the one breaking into your parents place and stealing from your family & friends and they arent going to do anything about it then maybe you need to do something about her otherwise her children may grow up to be just like her.

Hope this helps in a way.

Foxymoron
01-11-2005, 15:29
There's precious little you can do about her problems and behaviours if she doesn't want to be helped ( the drugs and lying). However if you feel she is a danger to her children via her lifestyle and her tendency towards violence, you can make a complaint to the local child protection unti. They will follow up and they won't be easy to fob off... As for the theft, that's harder, as the police won't go search someone house just because you have a strong feeling about her. Have you canvassed local pawn shops? Cash converters etc? If your mums ring turns up then get the police involved and the pawn shop is obliged to provide record of who they purchased it from. I'm sorry your family is entangled in this mess! I had a relative who was bad news so I know how it feels :(