How to Convince DH to have another

[ZAKA]

Looking for convincing arguments for three babies any ideas??????. We currently have two beautiful girls and I would like three children. DH thinks two is probable enough money etc etc I know I know it has to be taken into consideration :)

[Lucybelle]

Simple, wouldn't DH love to have a son?, gee I bet he would look just like his daddy.!

Emotional blackmail, I know! But if it would work.......... :p

Lucybelle.

[ZAKA]

Hmmmm tried that one said he is happy with the girls...............My husband is a very very very practical person................................. :p

[Elfin]

Gee it sounds like it is going to be a tough gig Katrina but how about :confused: it is worth buying groceries in bulk for a family of 5. Receive additional family payments, i am stuck now, you just don't feel finished yet with childbearing.

I have three kids and have found that financially the third one hasn't made a great deal of difference as most shoes, clothes, toys are handed down. Foodwise there hasn't been a lot of difference but that will probably change when they are teenagers :eek:

[ZAKA]

We really don't qualify for any family payments as we fall into that dreaded middle income family slot with one partner working. I guess I am the eldest of four and I can not imagine just having one sibling (my husband is one of two) and I really don't feel finished with childbearing. My husband suggested during my last cesaearan how about getting your tubes tied it was a horrible thought :( I also love spending time with my kids and would personally like another. As to the costs of three my mum told me the worst was when we started high school then they were very broke. I guess if DH really does not want another we won't as it is a joint decision but the thought does make me sad.

[Lucybelle]

O.K, O.K , why don't you buy a teeny football jumper, in his club colours...????

Ummm, that you will get the $4000 maternity payment...........????

Or maybe you could just tell him how VERY, VEry important this is for you, and how strongly you feel in yor heart for another baby. If you really feel this way, he would certainly have to take this into fair consideration

[xkwzit]

Hi Katrina
I've been following this thread, but haven't chucked in my two cents until now. I too had been feeling a little blue watching DD2 changing from a newborn to a bigger baby and now almost a toddler. I didn't have it quite as bad as you because hubby and I had always thought that two probably was the magic number. One morning at breakfast I was watching her and became a little teary. When Hubby asked why, I said to him "My last baby". "It doesn't have to be" he said to me and I replied, "But then DD2 will be a middle child and I don't want that for her". (now I'll duck for cover while all the middle child Mums use me for target practice :p ).

But hey, for now both your children have a special place: one as your first born and one as your last (and yes, I'll take cover again as you all say "But all my children are special..." :p ). And another plus, there'll be even numbers on each side in any bickering - no two kiddies ganging up on the third, just the girls ganging up against Dad! And lets face it, he loves being wrapped around his little girls' fingers :D .

Cheers

[noniandlilysmum]

Hi there, I totally here what you are going through... I too have two beautiful girls aged almost 8 and almost 5... My husband was pretty set with just the 2, until july 2003 when his father died in an accident, then his ideas changed, as I guess he wanted that father and son relationship he was missing out on... I had to remind him that the reality is we have a 50% chance we would have another girl, within months he had decided that we would take that risk, and that this would definately be it ( I am telling you, this is definately it, I have never been this sick in my entire life, nausea, vomitting, lethargy, palpitations, you name it I've had it, and I do not want to do it again... I mean I love babies, but I am usually a pretty active person, I haven't felt this restricted in a while, It has got to be a boy, as only a boy could be this selfish...LOL) So anyway back to your situation, I completely understand both sides as your husband is practical and you are maternal, But you do have to remember your baby is only 5 months old, your husband needs time to get over this one before he can think about having another one... Nothing is ever final, just remember that... Give it some time, and enjoy the little one you have now... They grow up far too quickly :p

[noniandlilysmum]

Seen as though I was saying how children grow up so fast, I thought I would share a poem my daughter bought home from pre-school 3 years ago, It still brings a teardrop to my eye... It's called, To My Grown Up Child

My hands were busy through the day
I didn't have much time to play
The little games you asked me to
I didn't have much time for you

I'd wash your clothes, I'd sew and cook,
but when you'd bring your picture book,
And asked me please to share your fun,
I'd say a little later son."

I'd tuck you in all safe at night,
And hear your prayers, turn out the light,
Then tiptoe softly to the door
I'd wish I'd stayed a minute more!

For life is short, the years rush past
A little child grows up so fast;
No longer are they at your side
Their precious secrets to confide.

The picture books are put away,
There aren't any games to play.
No goodnight kiss, no prayers to hear
They all belong to yesteryear.

My hands once busy, now lie still,
The days are long and hard to fill.
I wish I might go back and do
The little things you asked me too... :p

[mykidzrokk]

In my opinion, if you wait til you can afford kids, you'd never have them, you just have to fit them in. We had a girl and a boy and said that was it, but when my son was 2.5 yrs old, I just knew I wasn't finished. It did take me a few months to convince hubby, but eventually he agreed and we haven't regretted it for a moment. Now he is almost 2 and I have no desire to have any more........go with your heart.

Susie

[Mumoffour]

My hubby was the same but after about 6 months of wistful comment on my part (comment now and then, not nagging!!) he agreed. Cost wise I think the first one costs the most and any after that are a lot less. There are after all 3 seats in the back of a car.... :p

[FiveLittleDucks]

It is probably a side effect of having two close together. As the other poster said, give it time, but don't give the impression that you have finished having babies.