1st baby C/Section 2nd Baby VBAC

[Pixie]

OK first off no not pregnant.

But I am doing a lot of reading into VBAC's as I am leaving for the UK and it looks like my 2nd child will be born there, and I hope via VBAC. I have in writing from the head of OBS of the hospital where I had Eliza I am good to go for a VBAC.

I would like to express my annoyance at people who say.
once a c/section, always a c/section
Can you do that?
why would you do that when the opening is already there
why do you want a baby to tear you open
do you think you will cope?
wow if I had a c/section I'd want anotherI am no Gauss but I like to think I am not thick as two short planks.

I am aiming for a VBAC I did fully dilate and push for 2 hours with my first. I know I am capable of birthing a child vaginally.
I didn't find contractions that bad and got to 6cms I am pretty sure it gets worse at the end!

But I want that pain I wanted it then I still want it now.

I am not so closed minded that should a 2nd baby come along and I am unable to birth them vaginally and I need a c/section then that shall happen but it will only happen under my choices. I know more now, and if at 34 weeks I am told things look bad for what ever reason I shall wait until 38 weeks and be re-assessed and book an elective with a C/section birth plan.

why do people have to look down upon you for
having had a c/section
choosing not to have another one
Saying you have looked into itughh sorry just venting

I am also sick of people judging me for having a c/section I feel like they look at me like I am some kinda "to posh to push type" & end up explaing to people no I wanted a natural birth, then being looked at like "why"

you can't win, women who have children should be respected no matter how they had their child.

(ohh and could the mods change ! to 1 thanks)

[phineas]

I hear 'ya Pixie!

Especially:wow if I had a c/section I'd want another

It's true, you can't win, no matter what you choose/don't choose, there are always people waiting to tell you that's what you shouldn't do/have done :thumbsdown:

[MrsMiggins]

I am still hoping for a VBAC for #2 (hopefully my u/s in a couple of weeks will give the all-clear!! :fingerscrossed:)

I personally feel a massive disappointment that I never had a contraction last time, never had that "honey, it's time" moment, never had the excitement of driving to the hospital in labour, never felt what it was like to be in labour, etc. etc. etc. I could go on & on about all the things I feel I missed out on.

I mean, don't get me wrong, I sure as hell don't live in some fairy land where I think every vaginal birth goes like this, but I would have at least liked to have had a shot at it, you know?

So therein lies my desire to VBAC with this bub. In my circumstances, if I do end up having a second c/s, and go on to be PG again, the chances of me ever being able to experience a vaginal delivery are very slim.

On the other hand, I also understand that some women do prefer the peace of mind of having that second c/s, and so I try not to take those sorts of comments to heart too much. Yes, I do find it a bit grating as well, but I figure - they obviously don't understand my situation, nor I their's.

(PS: Pixie, I fixed the title up for you too! :thumbsup:)

[becca74]

:hugs: Pixie

hope you dont get as much flack in the UK, i dont remember getting anything like that back in 2001 when I had my vbac (heck, just called it a vb in the UK, didnt even know that the term 'vbac' existed, noone called it that).

You have grown wise from your experience, it has been such a priviledge to follow your journey online....heck, I remember you posting that you wished you could have a glass of wine the night before you went for your induction....

You will birth your next bubba beautifully.....you wont have to trial and error through 3 children like I did, to finally get the birth I wanted, as you have so much more knowledge than I did after my 1st c/sec :yes:

I know what you mean about people's comments....gee, I still get comments that I was crazy to have a homebirth - even though it ended up to be the safest option for me! some people are just divvies.....just give these idiots a :rolleyes: , pat them on the head, and say "dear dear.....honey....you have so much to learn....so much to learn" and kiss em on the forehead :laughing: thats what I feel like doing to 'em!!

much love to you x

[shed]

Your next birthing experience is going to be so different from the last. How could it not be with all that you know now?

Whatever happens, it will be on your terms and you will feel ecstatic and powerful no matter which door the baby comes out.

Its going to be great and I can't wait to rejoice with you!!!