Rainbowbrite
31-10-2005, 20:37
I need to vent & get this off my chest before i go to bed or i'll never sleep. Sorry for the length, I got carried away.
Just got off the phone to my dad, and DH & I are ready to cut all ties with them. All they ever do is call to upset, undermine or question my parenting skills. This coming from people who live 20mins away & have seen us 5 times since MJ's birth. They didn't even see MJ till she was 2 months old. :mad:
ANYWAY - He called tonight to tell me that his wife is upset and not talking to me because i didn't let her pick MJ up last time they were here (3 weeks ago) :confused: While they were here she said not one word to me, and just mumbled when i offered her tea or coffee. The reason i "refused to let her pick MJ up" is that MJ is a very sensative, shy baby. All I did was lay her on the lounge next to me so she could get used to seeing & hearing them before they held her. Its what i do to everyone because if i don't & they just walk in and take her off me, she gets upset, ends up screaming & crying hysterically because people do not have the common sense to hand her back once she starts.
It happens all the time which is why i let her relax first, then i have no problem with people holding her. After about 5 minutes I picked her up and handed her to my dad where, after starting at him, she started to smile & talk to him. Then his wife - who is not the prettiest creature - took her. MJ wasn't sure of her & when she layed MJ down in her arms she started to stress a little. I told her "please don't lay her down, she doesn't like it." I asked her to just hold MJ infront of her so she can see around.
Is it so wrong of me to not want my baby upset?
It ended up getting heated on the phone so I said "she is MY daughter, i know what she does and doesn't like."
Another thing that always comes up with them is MJ's weight. She is a little girl, she always has been. The Dr's see no problem with it but because his wife had big FF babies, she assumes that MJ is unhealthy. They talk through MJ to me, saying "if your mummy would feed you, you'd put on weight." :eek: Little do they know she's having 2 meals a day :p
They also told the rest of my family that I don't bf her for long enough. I feed her for as long as she'll feed, I can't force it. Its never taken MJ longer than 10mins per side, its usually only 5. Again she's never bf a baby in her life, & neither did my mum so dad's never seen it.
Its just really getting beyond the joke. I'd rather never see or talk to them again. All his wife's ever done is try to cause trouble between us and my mum. Telling DH & I that my mum hates DH, which is a blatant lie. They never talk to my mum so how would they know. They expect us to go there which i will not do. They are not clean people. They have dogs all over the furniture, DH gets bad allergies everytime we go there cause of dust, and their house flooded with sewerage not long ago.
I've never stopped them coming here to see MJ, infact I call & let them know when to come over, but apparently their shopping is more important.
I'm gonna go now, thanks for reading. Sorry it was so long but its really stressed me out. I don't do things to hurt people, I do things to keep my baby, who is my life happy. Hope I can sleep now that i've got this off my chest.
RB
Just got off the phone to my dad, and DH & I are ready to cut all ties with them. All they ever do is call to upset, undermine or question my parenting skills. This coming from people who live 20mins away & have seen us 5 times since MJ's birth. They didn't even see MJ till she was 2 months old. :mad:
ANYWAY - He called tonight to tell me that his wife is upset and not talking to me because i didn't let her pick MJ up last time they were here (3 weeks ago) :confused: While they were here she said not one word to me, and just mumbled when i offered her tea or coffee. The reason i "refused to let her pick MJ up" is that MJ is a very sensative, shy baby. All I did was lay her on the lounge next to me so she could get used to seeing & hearing them before they held her. Its what i do to everyone because if i don't & they just walk in and take her off me, she gets upset, ends up screaming & crying hysterically because people do not have the common sense to hand her back once she starts.
It happens all the time which is why i let her relax first, then i have no problem with people holding her. After about 5 minutes I picked her up and handed her to my dad where, after starting at him, she started to smile & talk to him. Then his wife - who is not the prettiest creature - took her. MJ wasn't sure of her & when she layed MJ down in her arms she started to stress a little. I told her "please don't lay her down, she doesn't like it." I asked her to just hold MJ infront of her so she can see around.
Is it so wrong of me to not want my baby upset?
It ended up getting heated on the phone so I said "she is MY daughter, i know what she does and doesn't like."
Another thing that always comes up with them is MJ's weight. She is a little girl, she always has been. The Dr's see no problem with it but because his wife had big FF babies, she assumes that MJ is unhealthy. They talk through MJ to me, saying "if your mummy would feed you, you'd put on weight." :eek: Little do they know she's having 2 meals a day :p
They also told the rest of my family that I don't bf her for long enough. I feed her for as long as she'll feed, I can't force it. Its never taken MJ longer than 10mins per side, its usually only 5. Again she's never bf a baby in her life, & neither did my mum so dad's never seen it.
Its just really getting beyond the joke. I'd rather never see or talk to them again. All his wife's ever done is try to cause trouble between us and my mum. Telling DH & I that my mum hates DH, which is a blatant lie. They never talk to my mum so how would they know. They expect us to go there which i will not do. They are not clean people. They have dogs all over the furniture, DH gets bad allergies everytime we go there cause of dust, and their house flooded with sewerage not long ago.
I've never stopped them coming here to see MJ, infact I call & let them know when to come over, but apparently their shopping is more important.
I'm gonna go now, thanks for reading. Sorry it was so long but its really stressed me out. I don't do things to hurt people, I do things to keep my baby, who is my life happy. Hope I can sleep now that i've got this off my chest.
RB