Do I HAVE to have a bridal party?

[mum2bubba]

....

[zada]

its ure day do what u please...really the only purpose of bridesmades/groomsmen is to sign the certificate as witnesses but you can have anyone do that...think if u go to a registery office u dont have others there usually so it dont matter:)

[mum2bubba]

Thanks Zarasmum, I really want a very small, intimate wedding (maybe in a garden or something) and don't want to invite everyone I know (too many conflicts etc amoungst family members). If it were up to me we'd go to some tropical island somewhere and just elope but Grant wants a proper wedding so I guess we have to try and meet each other half way.

[shed]

Just pick whoever you want. If that is nobody then pick nobody.

I just asked my bridesmaid to be my bridesmaid this morning. It was quite exciting. I asked my cousin. I was her bridesmaid and she is my best friend so she was the obvious person.

I have a sister but she knows that I am much closer to my cousin anyway. I only want one bridesmaid. I am not into the whole matching dress bridal party carry-on.

I also asked my flowergirl this morning. This is my cousins daughter who is seven and I have always been very close to her. I really want her to do this, that's the only reason I am having a flowergirl otherwise I wouldn't bother. I can't wait to see her.

Oh, and its my partner who wants the wedding as well!! I would be happy to elope or go to the registry. What is it with these blokes?

[MissieK]

Legally you need 2 people to witness the signing of the certificate, but you don't need to have a bridal party. A wedding I went to earlier this year, their bridal party was their 2 daughters, and they got 2 close friends as witnesses who came up when the time came to sign.

Melissa

[mum2bubba]

Oh, and its my partner who wants the wedding as well!! I would be happy to elope or go to the registry. What is it with these blokes?

I have no idea, Grant is always complaining about money and when I make a few suggestions for a cheap (but not tacky) wedding (such as eloping or having very few ppl attend etc) he looks at me strange. :rolleyes: :confused:

[zada]

lol mu dh was the opposite. but if i was to do it all again id go the office :yes:

[pookiesossige]

Of course you don't need to have a bridal party! Think of all the $$ and energy you could then channel into other areas of your big day- I love the idea of a small, intimate and personal wedding too. Don't ever organise a part of your wedding a certain way because you feel obligated to someone else, or are feeling pressure from others. Good luck!! And congrats! :yelclap:

[M O P]

We didn't have a bridal party.
I had my SIL as witness, she was also kind enough to organise my kitchen tea.
And my husband had his 2 brothers help him- one held the wedding ring and the other was our other witness. My Dad organised a fishing trip for the guys for a buck's show.

It was so easy and no dramas!

[Becteria]

DH and i got marrie din Sept. I started out with no bridal party, moved on to just a MOH and Best man and ended up with 4 bridesmaids and 3 grromsmen! I wish I had of stuck to my guns.

DONT ASK ANYONE! Once you do the flood gates are down.

My daughter and goddaughter were the flowergirls and were so gorgeous. they really made the day!

[M O P]

terrible pic of me :o , my bro took it,
but this is how it looked with just us in the wedding, Angus' bros alongside
http://i108.photobucket.com/albums/n11/kazcrawf/D1000021.jpg
was a pretty casual wedding though

[mum2bubba]

Kazza: You all look really relaxed and thats how I want my wedding to be (at least as relaxed as a wedding CAN be) I think I will stick to my guns and not have a bridal party (only Hayley and baby #2) and me and Grant of course

[Lollie86]

Just do what you want to do, after all its your day. If you choose your SIL and not your sisters you might offend, whereas if you choose your sisters and not your SIL, you might offend her considering she has asked you.

Alternitavely, you can have all 4 of them, but that would probably be too costly.

My suggestion would be to have only yourself and Grant and when its time to sign the certificate, get 2 of your closest friends to witness.

[jkate]

.

My suggestion would be to have only yourself and Grant and when its time to sign the certificate, get 2 of your closest friends to witness.

Thats what my brother and SIL did, and they had a about 20 people.

[BubbaNoogie]

Its your day, do it the way you want to!

When I got married I didnt have a bridal party, it was a small wedding only about 20 people. I have 2 sisters, one sister was a witness and the other did a reading. It was a beautiful day.

Afterall a wedding is about the Bride and Groom, not anyone else.

[JATS]

We had 4 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen, both my brothers in law were groomsmen, but my brothers weren't. They weren't in the least bit phased by it.

Pick who you want, if its one and you want it to be one of your sisters don't feel bad about the ones who miss out, not your fault you're spoilt for choice! :D

[maybe1more]

I think do what you think is right, its your big day and you dont want to regret it later if you dont have it the way you want it. Having a small romantic wedding sounds wonderful, all the best.

[MrsDribbleDrawers]

From day one, we were only ever having the kids as our bridal party, and close friends were our witnesses. I asked mum to give me away, but forgot to talk to my sister, until she told me one day about shopping for a bridesmaid's dress!! Fortunately, she was okay with the kids as our party, but then I asked my brother to do a reading and he declined at the last minute, so I ended up asking her to do it anyway!! - probably left my sister feeling a bit unwanted (and the tears and tantrums in the days preceeding add up to that!), but at the end of the day, I had the day that I wanted. Make sure you do, too!

[ZarasMummy]

We had a beautiful wedding with about thirty guests in a wedding garden at the back of a local restaurant...sounds dodgy but it is really a classy place. We asked my cousin and dh's BIL to be witnesses, no bridal party. It was a beautiful day and the best thing was we could splash out on the honeymoon cause we'd gone low key on the wedding.

[AliyahBlake]

It's your day....just do what makes you and hubby-to-be happy. We didn't have a bridal party for our wedding, just asked our 2 closest friends to sign as witnesses on our wedding certificate. Don't worry about disappointing anyone, they'll get over it! ;)

[library-laksa]

you don't have to have a bridal party, but you do need two witnesses to sign the certificate. we are having a backyard wedding (IN TWO DAYS!! EEEEKKKKK!!!) and decided to just have one bridesmaid and the best man. i have three very close girlfriends but one is also my cousin so i chose her because i knew the other two would understand, even tho i was bridesmaid for one of them this year. my DF and my bro are good mates so he chose him which i am very pleased about as i adore my brother and i'm really happy he is part of it. DF's bro is kinda useless (on the dole, rarely leaves the house) but his sis is doing a reading so his family is involved too.
readings are a good way to include people who you want to be involved but not actually a bridal party. i have done 3! (tho i am a library person so maybe they just think i am good at reading :D )

[SpecialMumma]

I was having b/maids but they were all under 18, so we were going to get my mum, and micks dad to be our witnesses. That way no arguements and it would have been kinda sentimental. Lots of ppl get their parents to sign it rather then everyone fighting over who does it!

Goodluck and congrats!

[iluvmeboyz]

you dont have to have any bridal party its up to you and what you do my sister didnt grrrr well that's a long story anway