any suggestions about keeping lil'one in bed!?

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[ONT]FONT=Fixedsys]:confused: HELP ME HELP ME HELP ME--(PLEASE!)
I have a 2.5 yr old who has no trouble at all going to sleep in her own bed & by herself but the problem is she just want sleep all night, when she wakes up she heads straight for our room.
Half the time i do hear her come in & i get up & put her back into her own bed- i can do this up to 4,5,6,-8 times a night!Other times i dont hear her & just wake up in morning to find her there :mad:
i leave her night light on, I dont shut her door because (never have from day 1) i have been using that as a form of punishment ( putting her in her room with door shut for 5mins,or until she can behave).so when i do shut door she freaks & screams & i cant settle her down...
Bellah is toilet trained but still wearing a night nappy which i want to get her out of but seems pointless if she wont stay in her own bed - she has the protective sheet not us!-IYKWIM!
Her dad is getting fed up with it as i am.Maybe i need to just shut her door & bite the bullet & put up with screaming????? any suggestions???
~Amanda~[/F

[Elfin]

Hi Amanda

One of my daughters is the same age and she is going through a scared of the dark and monsters stage so maybe it is that. I feel if you shut the door and let her scream she might become frighten of her room and her bed which could breed more problems. My only suggestions are could you put a mattress on the floor in your room so she could sleep there in the middle of night. Put her in her own room to start with then if she comes in you have a place for her. Alternatively could you sleep in her room even for a few nights. While this might not be ideal the object is for everyone to get as much sleep as possible and this is probably only a phase she is going through.

Good luck
Easterlily :)

[ZAKA]

Hi,

My old next door neighbour had the same problem with her two year old and had to do something as a new bub was on the way. She was just very firm and would not let her in the bed in their room returned her to her own bed and was very firm about her staying there. She said the first few nights she would stand at their room door crying but by the end of the week she was staying in bed. I think she got her husband to do some of the returning to bed as some kids find dad less easy to defy and when they put her back they said the same bed time goodnight as when she was first put down.

Katrina

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[COLOR=DarkSlateGray]Hi there,
Thanks for the replies...
well closing her door was not a great idea!Bellah really does hate it when her door is closed.
I have been closing our bedroom door just a little & puttting something behind it so when she opens it i can hear it! this has been waking me up & then i just sternly tell her to go back into her bed.. but still happening quite a few times a night- but i think while i am doing this hopefully she will get the picture & just one day stay put!!
I wish her dad could do it more but unforunatley he works away in the mines so we only get a few night a week with him
As for the mattress, i really want her to stay in her own room & out of ours all together- but the idae is a good one & have heard of that before.
I just want to now....... WILL IT EVER STOP!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL!

[juenmel]

hi Bellahs mum
We dont have quite the same problem as my daughter (22m) stays in her own bed and gets herself to sleep quite well but we do have the problem that she wakes 2 or 3 times a night crying and wont settle till we go to her. A simple pat on the back and shes back to sleep but it is a mystery as to why she is waking and screaming so - does anyone have any ideas other than the oldwives tale about cheese? As for your own daughter and staying in her bed could you introduce a special character who needs her in her room who she can locate easily. My little one has always had a rabbit and she knows hes not allowed to leave the room so neither is she. I have to admit some sharp words when she first wandered did also help. Apparently i was a wanderer till five years old and it was only two nights of screaming and wit to wit combat that solved the issue. Neither me nor my daughter ever had a nite lite and i wonder if that would put your daughter off from wandering as its too dark to see?

good luck as i know how those nights feel!
Jue :)