Feel so Sad

[Manxie]

Hi

Just need to share.....

One of my dearest friends has just had an eptopic pregnancy and they had to remove on of her tubes. This was her first pregnancy :(

I just feel so devestated for her and so useless as she is in the UK and I am here. She seemed fairly upbeat when I spoke to her last night but I think she is still running on adrenaline and the reality of what has happened hasnt sunk in. I dont know what else I can do other than be a long distance shoulder to cry on when she is ready.

How easy is it to conceive after something like this, she's 35?

Why is it always the people who would be the best parents that these sorts of things happen to?

Cant stop cuddling my little girl and thinking how lucky.

[tyler's mum]

sorry to hear about your friend, must be hard you can't be with her, my sister has had a lot of miscarries and there is nothing you can ever really say or do, i look at my daughter and just feel so lucky she is here with me and i just think its so unfair that this happens to woman, every one should be able to feel the joy of becoming a mother... i wish all the best for your friend

[brooke]

big hugs to your friend that is awful!

I agree it always seems to happen to people who would make the best parents!
I have a friend who would do anything to become a mother and she has lost two bubbies and had to deliver both because her cervix isnt strong enough to hold them until they are old enough to survive! The lasty baby was about 4 days off being old enough for them to try and save.. she lived for 45mins! its so terriable
she has since been to qld and had a stitch put in and hope it works for her
she is now 8wks pregnant and i really hope this works out!

I wouldd suggest just being there when ever your friend needs to talk!
sometimes this is all they need and it may be easier for her over the phone!

[jaydensmum]

Hi Manxie, im so sorry to hear about your friend. It must be hard on you just as much as it is for her. I cant answer your questions as i dont know the answers. Maybe someone else here knows a lot more than i do and hopefully they can help you out. All i can say is just offer her some support. I know she lives overseas which can make things difficult. Maybe just talking to her is all she needs for support. Sorry i cant help you in any way but just know that we are all here for you if you need someone to talk to about it.

jaydensmum

[Jamily]

Hi Manxie

I am so sorry to hear about your friend. I am in a similar situation with my oldest friend who had a molar pregnancy earlier this year. Unfortunately not only did she lose her "baby" but she has also had to endure 6 rounds of chemo as the molar spread. She now has to have a years worth of clear hcg results before trying again and so far she is on her second month of all clear - hurray!

To be honest this was very hard for both of us as I was 5 months pregnant when she found out she was preg and of course we both had all these plans that we discussed.

Long story short, all I can do was be there for her and listen to her when she wanted to vent/shout or cry. I bought an alpha card so I could call Europe for a few cents a min and I tried to call as often as I could.

I'm sorry I can't help but just wanted to let you know that I understand how you must feel :(

[kimmy]

OMG that is so sad, i'm sorry about your friend it most be really hard for you :(

[Manxie]

Thanks everyone for your support. God, dosent it make you realise how lucky you are when you read these heartbreaking stories.

I am hugely relieved as I'd ordered a copy of Up the duff to be sent to my friend, fortunately I was able to cancel it in time, can you imagine.

Thanks again