Missed Abortion (TMI)

[shorty_851]

Saturday night i lost about a teaspoon of blood i'm meant to be 8 weeks today. I raced to the hospital but the blood loss stopped and there was no pain what so ever.

I was checked by the doctors both internaly and extrernaly. The doctor said i was fine adn to go home after he had taken some blood tests.

I was told that i would be called if there was anything wrong. I wasn called.

I went back yesterday for my scan and was told i had had a missed abortion where the baby is still there but dead.

They decided that they were going to do a DC and give me a needle then after the doctor spoke to an ob he said he wasn going to do it but take more blood and i have to go back today at 1pm to see surgical services.

Why would they do this.

Im so upset about this i was fine yesterday but this mornning it has hit me like a tonne of trucks. I can't seem to ope and no one is giving me answers

[Lil X-men]

OMG:crying: Shorty I am soo sorry!
I dont know anything about what you are going through sorry so I wont try to help there, but I am just so sorry you have lost your little bubs sending lots of hugs:hugs: :hugs: to you right now.

Sounds like you have been mucked around a bit which you certainly dont need right now so have you got your DH with you? I'd be bringnig him along to tell them to sort their $hit out and save you anymore heart break.

I hope everyhting goes ok at your appttoday keep us posted.:crying:

[babybug2]

hi
im so sorry to here this has happend to you. this somtimes happens because there is somthing wrong with the baby. i have a friend that lost on at 5/half months. well if you ever need to talk to someone then im here. hope you are ok sorry again. doctors should have done a quick scan when you went in always make it out as worse than it is with things like that and they take it more seriously . erin

[shorty_851]

I asked for a scan saturday night but they said they couldn do one becasue they didn have anyone there to do it.

I just want answers. I want to know why i was told everything was fine.

I was told that everything was fine except my scan that was the only abnormal thing.

[Jinglebells]

:hugs: Shorty, I'm sorry to hear this, your doc will be putting it off just incase you had you dates wrong, and sometimes they may miss the heart beat, have you had a scan before yesterdays one?

I had a missed miscarrage a few years ago, I was supose to be 9wks but when i went for a scan the baby was the size of a 7 and a half week and there was no heart beat :crying:

i'm sorry you are going through this, my thoughts are with you :hugs:

[shorty_851]

The size of the baby was 5w 3d and im meant to be 8w and there was no heart beat.

But i can't stay positive at all.

If you don't mind me asking what did they do to comfirm that did they drag it out like they have with me

[Tinydancer]

Mandi, Im so sorry hun!

The doctors like to drag it out to make sure that your blood test results come back with lowering levels of HCG.

I had a M/C on saturday, they dont know if its a complete miscarraige or not as I wasnt very far along so they took bloods to compare to a test I had last thursday. I think its to make sure that I didnt get my dates wrong.

The original doctor probably checked your cervix, it must still have been closed which means that unless your bleeding heavily there is very little threat of M/C. He still should have given you a scan etc. Emergency depts on a Saturday night arent really the same quality as a doctors visit.

Its really hard for doctors to diagnose without the right equipment available to them. Ive been told that there is still hope for me. I know not as my pregnancy symptoms started disapearing during the day on Sunday.

Perhaps you should speak to your doctor, ask him to write a reeport for your GP's office or ask him to explain it to you in "human form".

Im sorry I have no words to say to ease your pain, :hugs: if you need to talk just pm me.

[shorty_851]

Thats alright.

The thing that bothers me is i still have all my symptoms but i just want anwsers.

[RoarsomeMum]

Shorty, you so sid not deserve this to happen to you. I send you and Jason one Million Hugs. :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: So sorry for your Loss.

[bekkyboo]

If you are measuring at 5 weeks babe - there mightnt be a heartbeat yet. I had my first scan with G at that point and had to come back in 2 weeks for another scan to see what was going on. I also thought i was further along than what the scan said.

Mandi - sweety i am here for you! :hugs: Id be not letting the do the D&C just yet, get answers first...

[LilMissnBoo]

I am so sorry for your loss Shorty.:hugs:

I know how frustrating it can be, wanting answers but not getting any. Hopefully the doctor will be able to tell you everything you want to know today.

My thoughts are with you.

[unhappy]

I am sorry that you have had to go through this.

I had a m/c on the first of december. i was 8 weeks. i too had a missed m/c but i was not 100% sure on my dates so when i had a little bleeding at 5 weeks and went to my ob we decided to start doing blood test every few days to monitor hcg levels. The hcg levels were rising slowly for a week or so and then they started to rise slower and slower. My ob was really good and basically said we could wait it out and see if i bled it out naturally.
Acouple of days after i saw him i started to bleed quite heavily for around 4 days and when i went to have my checkup with my ob he did a scan and i had bled it out naturally.

Make sure they do the blood work first to confirm the hcg levels are not rising and then if the baby was only at 5 weeks in size you may bleed it out naturally. it can take a couple of weeks for your body to tell itself to bleed it out. It just really depends on how you feel about having a d&c, i was against it as i new my body would take care of it as it was so early on.

hope this makes sense, i am very tired! my 6 month old was up all night:sleeping:

alysia

[dylsmum]

Shorty, sorry to hear that :hugs: . i am going through the same sort of thing at the moment. I didn't lose any blood, but when I went for my first ob checkup last Tuesday, he did a scan and said the baby was only 6w3d and it should have been 9w3d. He also couldn't find a hearbeat. He said that if my dates were wrong, it might still be ok, as sometimes at the early stages you can't get a heartbeat.

Anyway, he sent me for a blood test that day and I did another one on Thursday, then went to see him for the results on Friday. All I did for the whole 3 days is cry, and thats not like me at all!!! My hormone levels went up, but not as much as he wanted, so now I need another blood test on Friday and will see him again on Tuesday. If the levels have gone up again he will do another scan to try and find a heartbeat.:fingerscrossed: If the baby is definately dead, then I will go for a D&C I guess.:crying:

Its just soooo frustrating, I'm feeling so down, but it might be ok, but I don't think so , but I don't know!!:banghead: I just wish I knew so I can grieve properly or enjoy my pregnancy. The thing is, I still feel pregnant, but I know my dates aren't wrong. Unless nature was 3 weeks out that month!!

Just hang in there I guess, I know its hard, but at least with all the stuffing around, you will know for sure, not always wonder if you had a D&C with your baby still ok.

[~EmsMum~]

Oh hun
just wanted to send you some of these :hugs: :hugs:

[Tubbychook]

I dotn want to get your hopes up as I know that you must be feeling terrible i know i have been there myself but i think that the drs are doing the right thing. If the scan is only showing you to be 5w3d then the heart beat wouldnt be visiable yet it is usually 6 to 6.5 weeks and then it must be an internal us. It is possible that your dates could be a little bit out and unless you are bleeding heavily and your hcg levels are going down then there is every chance that you are still pregnant especially if you have no pain and still have your symptoms.Ive been through 2 misscarriages befroe having my little man and i know that they were very painful and i had very heavy bleeding and lost my pregnancy symptoms. Im sure that the drs are trying to do whats best for you though they should have explined to you what they were doing as to keep your mind at rest as stress wont help you any. I hope that you have answers soon. :hugs:

[Tan-mumof3]

So sorry shorty that you are going through this, it must be soooo hard not knowing :hugs: .
As tubbychook said i don't want to get your hopes up but my sister had a similar experience she had alot of pain (but no blood) and the gp sent her for a scan, she thought she was 8 weeks, the scan came back showing the yolk sac and couldn't see baby (so dated before 6 weeks), she is now 18 weeks pregnant and it is all going good and her dates are back to what she thought they should be. For some reason the baby started off growing really slow but has now caught up.
:fingerscrossed: all is good with your baby and you get some answers soon :yes:

[Mum&bubs]

I'm sorry that you are going through this Shorty. I had a miscarriage in Janurary this year. I went to the hospital because I had pain & bleeding but they said everything was fine and sent me home too then then the next night I had blood clots so i rushed back to the hospy for them to tell me I had in fact had a miscarriage.

I hope u get the answers u are after really soon. My thoughts are with you, take care of urself hun!

[shorty_851]

Yeah i had no pain and about just over a teaspoon of blood and the baby measured at 5w 3d and was a yolk sac.

I just am hoping and praying everything will be fine. We tried so hard and went through so much dissappointment.

[RoarsomeMum]

Praying for you and Mason Mandy.. Hes a strong little bugger, like his Mum:fingerscrossed:

[Lirael]

:hugs: hun, please please please wait and see, dont get D&C or whatever til you know for sure, the timing and dates might be wrong.

[SamanthaJane]

I just want to send all my love and best wishes to you both. Everything is going to be okay and we are all here for you whenever you need to talk.

xoxoxoxoxoxo

[jcb]

Oh Shorty I am so sorry sweetie....:hugs::hugs:
How are you feeling....Kisses to you and your DP at this time....:hugs::hugs:

[Kayte]

Im really sorry you have to go through this :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: Thinking of you shorty !

[angelickaren]

i hope evrything went ok with your appt with the dr
my thoughts are with you at this time :fingerscrossed: everything went ok
i had a m/c about 2mths ago its not easy at all :hugs: to you

[V8]

I hope you get some answers sweetie, must be so horrible not knowing either way.

[Briannabear]

Good luck Shorty, keeping my fingers crossed that everything is ok for you and the baby. :( :fingerscrossed:

[JuniorMinime]

All I can say is good luck shorty and I hope you get some answers real soon!!!! Also let me send you some of these cause you need them.... :hugs: :hugs:

My friend went for her 20wk scan and when they did it they found the baby was only 8wks. She did end up having a D+C but I am with everyone else on this one. Make sure you get all the answers first before you do anything else.

We are all here for you and if you ever want to talk just pm me.