do i call DHS?

[jessgray]

my mum lives about 15 min drive away and there is a family next door to here that well to say the least no one would want as neighbours. i say that for a number of reasons. the children there is about 4 of them, 3 are school age and never go to school. the school aged kids are often jumping in my mums yard trying to steal my siblings bikes or to steal my mums pet bird. or they throw rubbish in her yard.
their froutn yard is not very nice to look at the whole street ahs kids in it and you expect to see a few bikes etc but not 15 rusty bikes and mattresses and broken bed frames and bike parts and rubbish all across a yard.:thumbsdown:
they seem like really friendly kids but they just dont know how to act with nice ppl. they play in bins and you oftne hear the parents screaming. :(
i want to know what to do i worry if my mum calls the parents might have a go at her and seen as how they dont know me would it better for me to do it? i have heard so much yelling there.just when ia m visiting my mum:(

[bronny-jane]

i wouldnt call....because i yell all the time....and my kids even play in the toilet:o my yard isnt looking great either...dh just spends his day after work drinking beer and on the computer:banghead: .....i do all the house work cook all the meals and look after 3 kids.....im stressed and occasionally people walking past my house would hear me yell...i have a very loud voice:D

its a shame the kids are trying to steal though...probably tight for cash....when was it a crime to be poor.....

and what are "nice" people...

you'll need to elaborate on what the problems are......
maybe the parents are hoarders...its a chronic condition..cant just be fixed by cleaning...

[sugar n spice]

i agree with bronny jane i wouldnt call,
if your worried about your mum calling because she might get hassled who is to say if you called they wouldnt assume it was her anyway. unless the kids are being harmed i wouldnt call

[Hathor]

That being said it IS against the law for School aged children to not be attending school isn't it??

Unless they're being home schooled, in which I'd be worried about their welfare by the sounds of it.

Too often things happen and kids get neglected and people wonder how they slip through the system. Its my belief that too many people just let things slide rather than to bring them to attention, just to 'keep the peace' and not be put out or get hassled.


Do what you honestly think is right, not knowing more about the situation I couldn't tell you whether its a good idea or not to call.

[jessgray]

:no: they arent homeschooled they are always home dressed in there school uniforms but not at school coz they get ready then will wlak home at recess time or not go:eek:
while i was at mums yesturday a divvy van and a patrol car went to their house and spoke to the parents i think the mum called them coz for abotu 3 hours it was like they were yelling in my mums living room they were that loud.
mum is suspecting that one or both of the parents is dealing drugs coz ever since they moved in on certain days cars park out frount of their house and her house 1 person stays in the car and then 2 secs later the person is back in the car.it happens every thrusday and friday. so its not social visits.
it turned out yesturday that the mum had kicked the dad out but by the time we went home she had taken him back.i feel so bad for the kids :(

ETA:they just got a plasma last week so they must not be that strapped for cash coz they havent had a bub or anything to get baby bonus lol

[Shanaynay]

i wouldnt call....because i yell all the time....and my kids even play in the toilet:o my yard isnt looking great either...dh just spends his day after work drinking beer and on the computer:banghead: .....i do all the house work cook all the meals and look after 3 kids.....im stressed and occasionally people walking past my house would hear me yell...i have a very loud voice


BJ, me too, I'm suprised I haven't had anyone make any phone calls about me :o
Half the time DD1 runs around all feral looking with no clothes on (she keeps stripping them off!), she must look like a neglected kid!

Anyway, Jess, I think you can tell the difference between normal stressed- out famillies with just not enough time to keep everything perfect, and ones where abuse and/or neglect is happening. Trust you instincts and keep and eye out.

Surely the school would be looking into why the kids aren't there and/or not staying the whole day? Maybe you could contact them and voice your concerns :thumbsup:

[jessgray]

i think the kids are being forgotten or neglected.the parents dont care their kids arent at school. the kids will eatstuff out of my mums bin :crying: if i knew their last name i could probably contact the school. they go to my old primary school so i know what the school is like. they would be starting to question the absences as well.i think their is a certain number you need to be away before DHS is called by a school.

DOnt woory BJ i know the difference between the normal frustrated stressed parents who cant find enoguh hours in the day to do everything and ones who dotn seem to care.and i think these parents dont care:(

[mumstar]

I have living throught what your mum is at the moment by the sounds of it. The house across the street from us is a rental and we have a a number of families in the house. The first lot were screamers. Now there is a difference between normal everyday stressed yelling and violent sounding full blown yelling. We have called the police on a number of time as these arguments sound really our of control and there were children in the house. A couple of days later child protection was around there. Now we didnt call them. The police observed the situation and called them in, needless to say the children were removed from the house and shortly after the parents moved on.

We have a a few similar familes move through there, one family had the dad dealing drugs, they ended up abandoning the house, the new lot dont seem to care there 16 month old baby keeps running on the road. My experience is to only call if things are really violent, or dangerous, otherwise if you can hold on they will probably move on soon enough. If there is heaps of dangerous rubbish in the yard you can always call the local council and they can send community safety people around.

[jessgray]

:eek: a 16 month old outside by themselves thats not good.

i am not sure if the poilce even know the kids live there coz whenever i have been at mums and the poilice have gone there the kids are outside in the backyard or playing on the street (which gives the impression they could be anynes kids )

[daisyxs]

hmm, dont suppose she's skinny and he's a big fatso and they have 1 older girl, 2 primary school aged boys and 1 younger girl??

[sugar n spice]

your story of your mums neighbours reminds me of the neighbours we had renting the house next door to us where we used to live. Theyd yell and scream and the cops were always there. i think she called them each time, hed leave as i think she'd kick him out and then by the end of the day he'd be back. They had a kid aswell and he would be outside on his own. One time they were having an argument out the front of the house and she had a pair of scissors in her hand. I seriously thought about calling the cops that day but well the cops rocked up shortly after anyway, either another neighbour sore or she called them i dont know.

[jessgray]

the guy is chunky but i wouldnt say fat coz i have seen fatter guys lol he si about my dp's size but way taller. and the lady is about my esitmate sz 10 maybe 12 so she isnt super thin. but they do have a little girl. do you know them?

[bronny-jane]

:eek: this thread could get interesting:eek: :p

[jessgray]

:detective: it could lol but i am pretty sure there is more then 2 school aged boys i have always seen 3 boys in uniforms unless 1 doest live there he is just a friend. :laughing: you never see the older girl i dont think she is home often. the youngest kid is not much older then my ds1 i think so i would say they are 2 maybe younger i am not sure.

[*Chels*]

I would do something.
Yeah sometimes we all yell and let our kids run round in the nude,but I very much doubt any of us here would let our children stay home from school and eat out of peoples bins!!
If they are truly innocent and ARE looking after their kids,then fine,child protection wont do anything but I personally think its worth investigating.JMO

[jessgray]

thanks guys i am going to ask my mum how many children there exactly coz i am not sure how many there are and if i do call i am sure DHS would ask me how many there are:laughing:
i am sure they are nice people and all i am just concered about the fact they will go through mums bins and eat and stuff it makes me wonder if they have any food at home or not :(

[jessgray]

just a quick update spoke to mum its not the family daisyxs is thinking of. the older girl doesnt live there, she is a friend of the mum's.the girl is the daughter of the family who live behind my mums place in the next street if that makes sense.