lizzoi
07-12-2006, 06:21 PM
Well... here we are again...it's strange how life goes sometimes. Two weeks ago we thought we had our precious babies, but then a twist of fate took it all away... here's our story.
DH and I have been together for 5 years. Ever since we met it was like finding each others soul mate and we have enjoyed a loving and close relationship ever since. We do nearly everything together and love to mountain bike in the bushland around Sydney.
From quite early on in our relationship, having children seemed like a natural extension of our partnership. I have one son age 20, but DH doesn’t have any children and he so wants to be a Father. We have everything we could want in a material sense but there is nothing to compare with the joy of sharing parenthood together. It's hard imagine what it would be like for us to share the rest of our lives together without any children of our own to share our lives with. Becoming parents together would be the most incredible happiness.
We always knew, because of maternal age issues, that we would need to find a donor if we were going to achieve our dream of a family, and we started our search for an ED 2 years ago. Finally, in February 2006, we found a wonderful donor who gave us 2 blastocyst embryos.
The first embryo was transferred in August 2006, but unfortunately it was unsuccessful. Our second embryo was transferred on 6th October and resulted in identical twins. Oh my god!! What a miracle it seemed and how great was our joy!! DH and I were so excited we could hardly believe it had happened. We knew it would be a high risk pregnancy, but nothing prepared us for our ultrasound at 11 weeks, when they were unable to detect any heartbeats heartbeats due to a condition that sometimes affects identical twins called Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome (TTTS).
We are still devasted and trying really hard to come to terms with our loss. It’s hard to describe the confusion, disappointment and grief we felt (and still feel) when we were told the news. This has broken our hearts, but at the same time, it has brought us closer together and made us even more determined to keep trying for our family. DH has been a tower of strength and support throughout, and I feel blessed to have such a wonderful partner.
Our original donor has just told us that she won’t be able to help us again because she is trying to get pregnant with her new partner, so we are placing this advert to see if there is a wonderful person out there who would consider helping us realise our dream of our own family. If you are under 35, have finished your family and are willing to help us, we would love to hear from you. All expenses will be paid.
An open donotion is very important to us as we consider the child has a right to know who it's biological parents are. If we are lucky enough to ever have a child together, we would expect some form of contact with the donor afterwards, whatever seems comfortable to all parties.
If you would like to know more about us, please send me a P.M. message on this forum, tell us a bit about yourself and we would be happy to answer any questions you may have, and also give you our contact details and phone number if you want them. We would like genuine enquiries only as we have already had enough heartache recently.
Lizzie - living in hope
DH and I have been together for 5 years. Ever since we met it was like finding each others soul mate and we have enjoyed a loving and close relationship ever since. We do nearly everything together and love to mountain bike in the bushland around Sydney.
From quite early on in our relationship, having children seemed like a natural extension of our partnership. I have one son age 20, but DH doesn’t have any children and he so wants to be a Father. We have everything we could want in a material sense but there is nothing to compare with the joy of sharing parenthood together. It's hard imagine what it would be like for us to share the rest of our lives together without any children of our own to share our lives with. Becoming parents together would be the most incredible happiness.
We always knew, because of maternal age issues, that we would need to find a donor if we were going to achieve our dream of a family, and we started our search for an ED 2 years ago. Finally, in February 2006, we found a wonderful donor who gave us 2 blastocyst embryos.
The first embryo was transferred in August 2006, but unfortunately it was unsuccessful. Our second embryo was transferred on 6th October and resulted in identical twins. Oh my god!! What a miracle it seemed and how great was our joy!! DH and I were so excited we could hardly believe it had happened. We knew it would be a high risk pregnancy, but nothing prepared us for our ultrasound at 11 weeks, when they were unable to detect any heartbeats heartbeats due to a condition that sometimes affects identical twins called Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome (TTTS).
We are still devasted and trying really hard to come to terms with our loss. It’s hard to describe the confusion, disappointment and grief we felt (and still feel) when we were told the news. This has broken our hearts, but at the same time, it has brought us closer together and made us even more determined to keep trying for our family. DH has been a tower of strength and support throughout, and I feel blessed to have such a wonderful partner.
Our original donor has just told us that she won’t be able to help us again because she is trying to get pregnant with her new partner, so we are placing this advert to see if there is a wonderful person out there who would consider helping us realise our dream of our own family. If you are under 35, have finished your family and are willing to help us, we would love to hear from you. All expenses will be paid.
An open donotion is very important to us as we consider the child has a right to know who it's biological parents are. If we are lucky enough to ever have a child together, we would expect some form of contact with the donor afterwards, whatever seems comfortable to all parties.
If you would like to know more about us, please send me a P.M. message on this forum, tell us a bit about yourself and we would be happy to answer any questions you may have, and also give you our contact details and phone number if you want them. We would like genuine enquiries only as we have already had enough heartache recently.
Lizzie - living in hope