Some people are just ****ty

[FourAngelKisses]

A lovely boy in Brookes class is changing schools, so his mum had a farewell party for him yesterday. I get on really well with her, she is a lovely lady, but she had 40 kids to entertain and couldn't just talk to me as that would be rude.
Anyway, it went from after school until 5pm at the park next door to the school. She said the boys could go too, but Matthew was sleeping, so I left him home and just took Jacob and Brooke. They had an absolute blast though.

Anyway, there were 5 other mums there, so you'd think I would have had someone to talk to for the 2hrs I was sitting there wouldn't you?? But no, I was totally ignored. One lady congratulated me on the pregnancy, which was nice, but then the others all piped up with things like "oh, you're going again?" and "having Caitlin cured me" etc etc. It made me feel like absolute sh@t and I just wanted to go home....but because of the distance, I stayed. They were the only things that were said to me the entire time.

I really couldn't wait to get the kids and go home. I told the lady whose son is leaving that when I have the baby I would take him up so she could have a cuddle etc. (She only has one child and was unable to have more.) But she is the only one there who was supportive of me having another one. Everyone else acted like it was a bad thing.

Why can't people just learn to keep their mouths shut if they don't have anything nice to say.

[poshBecks]

Why can't people just learn to keep their mouths shut if they don't have anything nice to say.

Here here!!

I am continually amazed at people's rudeness!! :banghead:

:hugs: :hugs: for you!

[jasminesmum]

They are probably just jealous of all your gorgeous kids.

Try not to worry about it and ignore them, they are so not worth it.

[*Chels*]

aaww sorry they were so rude.Whats with some people?:shame:
Dont even worry about it,youre so much better than them anyways!

[A Party of Five]

:hugs: Big Hugs for You:hugs:

And good luck with the rest of your pregnancy!

[twistwantsabub]

Hi there... i havent had a baby yet, but would really love to start a family. EVERYDAY i get asked..... When are you going to think about a baby???? How many kids do you have... what ou mean you don't have any????

I"m 26.... Sh*t, That's not old or anything... I would love to be a mother and i think it's the most important and life changing thing ever.

I try not to care what others say, but it's hard sometimes. Some people just don't get that it's none of their business what you do, when you have kids or how many you have.

I say.... forget the **** people throw at you, i have no doubt you're an awesome mum and any child born into your family would be loved and well cared for. When people criticise you, it says more about them as a person than what it says about you.... Just love your kids, that's all that really matters.

oxoxoxoxox

[mum33]

DP's parents didnt congratulate me when i was pregnant first or second time around.

this time they said "are you pregnant again?" like i am not an adult and DP and I arent old enough to make our own choices when we decide to concieve our children. sure, there is a close gap between DS and the next baby but we wanted it that way. we are pregnant again not them so what is it of their business?

many :hugs: because i share your annoyance.

[FourAngelKisses]

DP's parents didnt congratulate me when i was pregnant first or second time around.

I didn't get that off my own mum for my 1st, 2nd, 3rd of 4th pregnancies. With my 4th I actually got criticised.

What happened yesterday just really reinforced the reason WHY I don't go into the school grounds any more. I just drop my kids off, let them cross the road and then wait for them in the same spot in the afternoons.

It sucks how people place so much more emphasis on WHAT people are rather than who they are and that if you have more than 2 kids and don't come up to their standards, then they wont take the chance to get to know you, let alone talk to you.

[FourAngelKisses]

And thanks for all of the words of support. It means a lot. :)

[mum33]

I didn't get that off my own mum for my 1st, 2nd, 3rd of 4th pregnancies. With my 4th I actually got criticised.

What happened yesterday just really reinforced the reason WHY I don't go into the school grounds any more. I just drop my kids off, let them cross the road and then wait for them in the same spot in the afternoons.

It sucks how people place so much more emphasis on WHAT people are rather than who they are and that if you have more than 2 kids and don't come up to their standards, then they wont take the chance to get to know you, let alone talk to you.

those are the people you dont want to be friends with, they are doing you a favour by not talking to you.

at the end of the day the only people you have please is you, your DP/H and your kids. no-one else matters.

[FourAngelKisses]

Hopefully by the time Matthew starts school in 2009, all the crappy people would have left.

If I never have to see one of the nasty ones again, I would die a happy girl. :)

[Sheer Bliss]

:hugs: it's ridiculous that people have such small minds! I can imagine what it must be like - i plan on having 3 kiddies, and i often get told that after this one (#2) i might realise that 2 is enough. It's like WTF? I would actually like a bigger family, but don't think i could handle the pregnancies! Being part of a big family is great (i was one of 4)! :thumbsup:

[jessgray]

pay no attention to them they arent worth your time.enjoy your prregnancy:hugs:

[kiah]

Its happened to me before..thats why i take a good book with me or catch up with others on the phone....more interesting anyway...hugs for u:hugs:

[Fitmumma]

It makes me mad how people can be so rude:banghead:
I remember when I was PG with my 4th bub & we would all be out at the shops, the looks I would get from some people was incredible, what frigin business is it of theres???
Its not like they are gonna help raise em!:laughing:

[LittleBoysRock]

All that you need to know is that you and your DH are happy to be having another baby together! Bugger what anybody else thinks!

Personally I think big families are wonderful. Just imagine how lovely your Christmas times will be when all your children are grown up and bring their children home.

Enjoy your pregnancy and your family! :hugs:

[Jif]

forget them! I was an only child and would have and still would love to be part of a big family, what a wonderful family you are building for all your bubs, to have each other against anyother pooheads in the world:yes:

[theycallmemum]

Hugs honey. I had #3 in July and so many people were shocked that this baby was planned and very much wanted and not an 'oops'. No family came to visit us in hospital and there has been very little interest in him in general, makes me very sad to be honest. Our friends have been different and lovely, but family? Forget it.

[bronny-jane]

their probably just amazed at how you cope...
i wouldnt worry about them....i only have 3 dd's but if i talk about trying for another people look at me like im a maniac...maybe those mums just prefer to have more time to themselves then have more kids:confused:

[FourAngelKisses]

What good is time to yourself when you don't have little people to share it with? :D

I got a heap more comments off total strangers at a birthday party for one of DH's friends last weekend. Stuff like the usual no tv, I will have my hands full etc. But the one that annoyed me the most was "she's got half a dozen and wants more". I was so ready to walk the 50km's home just to get away from them, but I spent the next 2hrs with the kids, DH, or sitting by myself. Couldn't bear to be around them. I'm going to have to buy some courage somewhere and make a few comebacks to people like that.