What kind of birth are you hoping for?

[OopsieDaisy]

Do you have a set plan for what kind of birth and delivery you would like to try for?

[WeloveHarriet]

Don't believe in birth plans - fine for other people but not for me IYKWIM. So hopefully we just have whatever birth is required for me to safely deliver a happy baby. Harriet's birth was 15hrs long and included them removing stitch urgently, gas, bath, breaking my waters, pethidine and an epidural. But do you know I loved every minute of it........can't wait to do it again.

[OopsieDaisy]

I am hoping I can have a vbac. We see the Dr at 36 weeks and discuss it then, so for now we are taking it as it comes. I don't want to be stuck to a bed like last time either. Would like to be as active as I can if that is how I feel.

[Tanya1985]

I am hoping for a fast one!:laughing: :laughing:

I am hoping for a natural birth and hopefully I can go without a huge amout of pain relief.... this is merely hoping I am no idiot, and if I feel I need drugs I am not going to go without! But we will see what happens!

[mysteeq]

I was also hoping for vbac but seems im having twins looks like i'll be having another c-section which i dont mind.Which ever ways the easiest i guess.

[charlis_mum]

I am hoping for a natural birth when bubs is full term! I thought a birth plan was not for me with DD, but i will have one this time. Not a set of direct rules, just a few things to remind me of what to do to help. I told the midwives last time that i didn't want an epidural unless absolutely necessay & they were great in convincing me i didn't need it, so i'll trust them on that again. But i did have an anterior lip last time (bubs head hit against cervix making it swollen & not dialate the last cm - middy had to hold it back for 2 contractions - OUCH!) but if had been on my hands & knees more, it might not have happened - so my plan with just have little things like that to remind us. As in the moment - all rational thought seemed to leave my head! I've got no probs with having Gas or pethadine again if i need to, and if bubs looks like he/she is in danger at any time - there is no plan other than do exactly what the OBs/midwives say!! It was only 7hrs for my first labour - so i am also hoping my second one will be something like that too - or maybe even 5-6hrs!
And i want a mirror to see bubs crowning (i think) as i didn't see that last time. Not sure if i can handle seeing it or not, so we might have to wait for a final decision on that!!

[GummyBear]

I'm going to try and not be too rigid about it. I would prefer not to have an epidural or a c/s, but if they become necessary, ok.

I've seen too many friends be very focussed on what they wanted to happen and were so thrown out by the unexpected that it affected their bonding with their baby after the birth, and I don't want that.

I would actually like to stay at home as long as possible. Not a homebirth, definitely not for me, but not go into the hospital too early. I'd hate to be stuck on the bed being poked and prodded!

[marlie]

I'm reading Kaz Cooke's "up the duff" at the moment and in the diary section at about 28 weeks it says something like "I don't want a vaginal birth and I don't want a c-section... both sound scary! Thinking of other places it can come out, such as elbow... " :laughing:

I'm with her!! Both options scare the begezzuz out of me!! But given the preference I am going for natural (whimpers in fright!).
..... But really I just wish I could magic it out - voila! :wizard:

[Foxy]

I will be having a planned CS. I have researched VBAC and have decided that it is not for me (although I greatly admire those who try for it!).

I am worried how I will go with recovery as I will also have a two year old this time, but I guess I will cross that bridge when I get to it.

[doin'mybest]

I'm hoping for another VB. Ideally i will have some gas but want to go as long as possible without any other pain killers. If it becomes necessary though i will - probably after the first hour I'll be screaming for more pain killers :laughing: In the end i'll just do whatever is necessary to get me through the birth.

[WeloveHarriet]

And i want a mirror to see bubs crowning (i think) as i didn't see that last time. Not sure if i can handle seeing it or not, so we might have to wait for a final decision on that!!

Tan, my midwife did this - so funny - DH screwed his eyes so tightly shut so he wouldn't see anything and all I could think about was geez should have taken the time to shave my bikini line so it didn't motivate me at all. And this time I will be more organised and from 30wks onward will make sure my bikini line is tended too - just in case this bub decides to come 4wks early as well!!

[borntobemummy]

I'm going for a VBAC:yes: I'm so excited and so nervous at the same time. We meet with the Ob from the hospital next week to discuss my options, then I think I might even be hospital shopping if I don't like what they say. Ideally, I would love a home birth, but it's just too expensive for us...so for now, I need to do as much research as I can to prepare and be well-equipped. And this time, I think I will write a birth plan, I thought they were just silly last time and wouldn't even be read, but now I feel I need one as back up. I'm trying to educate DH as much as possible to so he can be a strong advocate for me... and maybe we'll get another likeminded support person too.

[Rin Tin Tin]

My last birth was drug free, vaginal and pretty much un-assisted - it was the most empowering and proudest moment I have ever had. I am hoping for the same this time BUT at the end of the day my aim is for a healthy baby.

[miss ani]

i'm aiming for natural birth, gas only and hypnobirthing. my mum is a midwife, and will be my 2nd support person (with DP of course!) - she's been an aboslute wonder helping me with making birthing decisions. she had my 2 sisters and i naturally with gas only - my youngest sister she tried hypnobirthing and says it got her through the tougher bits of labour.

i also want to try and walk and keep upright-ish as much as possible.

[doin'mybest]

i also want to try and walk and keep upright-ish as much as possible.

This is what i want to try and do this time. Last time i had pethidene and it made me so sleepy that i slept between contractions. I think this slowed things down alot.

[lilpearl]

Regarding birth plans (for those that "don't believe" in them): Just keep in mind that a birth plan is a legal document, for your and your baby's protection. A birth plan is not a stage production, stating what will happen and when, but a very important list of things that matter to you in all situations that may arise. While a natural birth is the ideal that almost every woman truly hopes for, once in a while (not as often as is carried out!) a caesarean is necessary, and a birth plan should include your wishes for the things you can control in any given situation, including a caesarean. Also, a birth plan can include things such as "I will not be induced simply because I am over my due date, unless a test confirms that my baby or placenta are not thriving, as this is the safest option for me and my baby", that way, dramatically decreasing your chances of a cascade of intervention taking place - that's the real thing to avoid....more often than not, one thing leads to another, and unnecessary intervention can cause many damaging effects for both mother and baby, both physical and emotional. A birth plan is a really great tool, and if a care provider tells you "oh, birth doesn't go to plan", know that they are simply trying to control you and they have no idea of what a birth plan truly is. This is YOUR birth, and most often, intervention is carried out as a convenience for a member of staff, not because it's the best thing for you. Your giving birth - your a consumer, not a patient. Be empowered and enjoy! :)

[miss ani]

This is what i want to try and do this time. Last time i had pethidene and it made me so sleepy that i slept between contractions. I think this slowed things down alot.


gravity is good! i'm hoping that it will help speed things up a bit!!

just curious doin'mybest, but are you coming to adelaide to deliver, or staying in the country?

[nats]

Hi Ladies
Good luck for May :thumbsup:
I went to my labour with a "que sera sera" attitude and ended up with a c/s (epidural slowed things down)
If I did it again I would heed this --- watch out for transition! I've never felt so much self doubt as transition in labour. (I ALMOST made it :banghead: )
and make sure DH knows to stick up for my rights as I wasn't able to........

[twitch]

I'm not "hoping" for a c/s, but I do think I will end up having one. I had a cervical cautery 10 years ago for CIN 1 and the ob reckons that could mean I won't dilate properly, so we'll see. Whatever is best for me and bubs, I'll be happy with :yes:

[doin'mybest]

just curious doin'mybest, but are you coming to adelaide to deliver, or staying in the country?

I'm staying in the country. I've got a really good doctor and the hospital is great too. The midwife i had last time was fantastic too, so hopefully i get her again this time:fingerscrossed:

[mum2bubba]

I hope its a safe, quick (but not too quick) delivery like with Hayley :thumbsup: :fingerscrossed: