Soon to be Single Mummy

[Shell811]

Hi there
This is the first time I've posted and I need some advice.... I'm in the process of splitting up with my DP of nearly 2 yrs and am having a real hard time coming to terms with it all.

I want us to stay together and work things out, not just for us but also for our DS. We still love each other but not in the right way and not enough (his words) to work it out. We'd started counselling but things went pear shaped over the weekend and he now sees no way back to make it all good.

I'm going through all the emotions at the moment but mainly hurt :gloomy: . I'm very sad and confused and just want to do the right thing for my DS. I'm taking DS home to NZ for 10 days just so I can get some perspective on it all. I'm hoping that DP will miss us both and reconsider...... I dunno, am I just hoping for the impossible? Any advice would be really appreciated.

[babyboo]

I really feel for you......I know what its like to have their partner not want to try.

Its hard!!!!! sometimes these things happen for the best even if we cant see it at the time.

Im now glad things went the way the did for me and ex, so I can have the life I always wanted with the right person.

I dont really have alot of advice except....let yourself cry and cry and cry if you want to (i did). Take your trip have some time to yourself and see how you feel about it after that. Maybe you guys just need some time apart for a little while.

If he doesnt want to continue the relationship then just remember that we are here as a shoulder to cry on.

[*Meggie*]

Sending :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: your way.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe its just not meant to be. If you two don't get back together, you will come out of this a much stronger person. Take the trip away and just try to enjoy the time with your DS, you never know what might happen over there, you might meet someone special. But if you don't, don't worry becuase these are all small stepping stones that will lead you on your lifes journey. :hugs:

[oleander]

It really depends on his reason for wanting to seperate. With my ex there was really no hope to get back together as he had another woman although I didn't find out about her till months later. Could he have someone else?

[OneBabyBoy]

Hi Shell
I have gone through something extremely similar to you very recently.
At the start of this year I was engaged to a man I loved and TTC. I got pregnant and we were going to be a family. Then 3 months ago (about 32 weeks preg) my fiance decided that he had changed his mind about all the commitments and responsibilty and he left.
I have gone through (and am still going through) a rollercoaster of emotions. I still love him very much but I'm trying to move on because it doesn't look like his feelings have changed.
If you want to talk and PM me I will understand all your feelings because Ive been there so recently.
Iwould also like to give you lots of :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: cause I know how much you need them right now.
Good luck with everything - I honestly know how hard it is.