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i started a thread a week or so ago about big babies and c-sections and this is an update. well i had my midwife care appointment today and it seems like they are keen on me either having an induction or a c-section because i'm now measuring 5 weeks ahead.
i've been labeled as 'high risk' because bubs is a bit big and now i can't see my middies anymore and they switched me over to OB care.:crying:
i was so upset that they are making such a big deal considering everything else is perfect and there is a possibility that the dates are wrong. the baby's heart rate is perfect, my blood pressure is perfect, fetal movements are perfect, my urine is perfect (sorry TMI, but i don't have elevated protein is what i was saying) everything else is on track and they are labelling me as 'high risk'.
i questioned the midwife on the accuracy of the measuring tape and she told me its 'very accurate'....pffft.
we discused my options and she said i could still have a chance of having a vaginal birth.....of course i'm having a vaginal birth :banghead:! as if i would let them cut me up because there is a possibility i have a slightly larger baby (which by their definition is a 9 pound baby, by the way). i felt like the only option they were really going for was me having a c-section. i feel so let down and i just want another opinion but the middies and the OBs are not being supportive of a natural birth at all. whats the obsession with c-sections?
:crying: i've really had enough. can anybody offer any advice at all right now because the hospital is against me going for a natural, intervention-free birth.
Can't offer advice, just hugs... :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
Hi there
No one can do anything to you without your permission for a start but you shouldn't have to fight for your rights to choose. Women birth big babies. Have done for years. If your dates are wrong baby is likely to come early but if they are really concerned they should be monitoring you regularly to check all is well with bubs. There can be complications if you dates are wrong but they should be explaining these to you and the risks involved, not just throwing interventions at you adn I would have thought this would have been picked up sooner - babys dont tend to shoot up 5 weeks worth of growth overnight.
If I were you I would:
1.Write a birth plan outlining what you want and that you want support in your choices. Give it to your Ob to put in your file for the midwives who will be attending you in labour to see.
2. Get yourself good birth support (friend, doula, mother)......someone who is calm and has faith in your ability to birth a baby and who is going to cut out the outside distraction and negativity if need be and be your advocate if you need it.
3. Get yourself the book "birthing from within" and give it a good read. Get your support person to have a good read of the section on giving support as it has all the right questions to ask to help you avoid unwanted intervention and explains the role they need to take really well.
The reason I suggest these things for your labour is because I have seen women with babies less than 9 pound told they have big babies and are coerced into epidurals and c/s's. If you think the labour room may be a negative place for you, safe guard against it as best you can.
Best of luck to you! :hugs: I hope you end up with fantastic midwives during your labour who support your rights to choose.
Mamaduke
04-12-2006, 14:28
I don't really have any suggestions other than maybe employing the services of a private midwife or a birth attendant/doula.
The hospital cannot perform surgery on you without your consent.
Another thing, I don't know about this 'measuring tape' business but I had an ultrasound a week before Jesse was born (he was 4wks prem) at which I was told that he was around the 7.5lb mark - he was born at 4lb 1oz...so, these sure fire ways of telling a baby's weight can be wrong!
Jinglebells
04-12-2006, 14:37
aparently the tape measurements can be out by a cm or two, have they scaned you to estimate the weight? I don't see any reason for birthing a 9lber, heaps of people birth biger babies than that, when I had my DS2 at the birthing centre I went to there was a lady there that had given birth to a 10lb 5oz baby, he was huge :eek: all natrual, think she only had the gas
SalTheGal
04-12-2006, 14:39
Hi, I don't have any more advice really, cept to say that I gave birth to a 10lb bub completely naturally and everything went perfectly.
What I find interesting is that my ob told me bub would be atleast 9lb, I measured 3-4wks ahead, but there was NEVER any thought about c/s- it wasn't even mentioned.
Maybe your ob is a tad c/s happy (some are as they get more money), maybe get a second opinion.
But as annsam said- write a specific birth plan, and have support person there who know exactly where you stand so you don't get pressured into anything in the heat of the moment.
Good luck!:hugs:
FourAngelKisses
04-12-2006, 14:41
My measuring tape measurements have always been out by about 5cm. My last one was done at 19wks, I was measuring 23wks.
If you want a vaginal birth, go for it. If it doesn't work out, the OB can have their CS then.
i was measuring 6 weeks ahead at my last appointment, they sent me off for an ultrasound which showed i was only about 2 weeks ahead NOT 6. then again at my appointment today they are saying i'm 5 to 6 weeks ahead. i'm sick of being jurked around. i will now be monitored every week by an OB because i'm 'high risk' :banghead:. i just hope i get a good one.
i really want to stand up for myself and say 'keep that freakin knife away from me' but i have no support from the hospital staff! i can't afford a private doula or midwife, i wish i could.
on top of all this ****, i've been having contraction-like pains on and off for the past two days and today its intensified that little bit more and the frequency is also increasing. they had the dates wrong with owen by a month because i had my period with the first month and its possible the same has happened now, according to their 'measurements' i'm 39 weeks which would make sense if the dates are wrong. but if i do go into labour now, i will be classified as early labour and will be hoocked up and plugged in and God knows what will happen.
sorry its all so complicated, i have no idea whats going on, they have no idea whats going on. i guess i just needed a good cry and a vent.
annsam, i'm going to see if i can get my hands on the book. thanks.
and thanks to everyone who replied, you guys are the ONLY support i'm getting right now. (other than DH's sympathetic looks. poor thing can't do anything and doesn't know what to say).
dragonflyblu
04-12-2006, 15:17
I am so sorry it has gone like this for you. It makes me so mad that doctors think they can question the mother.
I dont have much advice but wanted to offer my support. I know the health care system in each state is different so its hard to say. I would definately go into it expecting a natural birth. Write the birth plan and ignore the obs. You actually need to show up at the hospital to be induced or to have a c-section IYKWIM, trust yourself, just go into labour naturally... if it becomes a medical issue when you are in labour well then at least you know you tried to let nature do its thing...
It seems pleanty of women birth big babies. I found this web site regarding the risks of birthing a big baby. It is specific to a home birth but has some good research on the 'rare' condition of the shoulders being stuck http://www.homebirth.org.uk/shoulders.htm
maybe you could take some of the research to the obs and ask him/her specifically about the risks of a natural birth and the high risks in a c-section?
Before you go in to have a c-sect you have to sign forms, correct?
Don't sign them!! Wait! Labour and see if the bub will come out on it's own! IF there's an issue with baby's health then they can whip you into theatre, until then don't sign a thing!
Hey Andrea :hugs:
It seems like you feel a bit check-mated...
At the end of the day, it is up to you, but I just want to share what I might do if I were in your position.
I firstly would not let them book a c/sec date, I would insist on going into labour first. There is research to back this up, which I can give you if you need to print it out to show it to them, to prove it to them. If you want to keep them 'happy', only discuss c/sec in the light of planning a positive c/sec experience, and spend time negotiating how they would make the c/sec experience a sacred one for you (check out www.birthrites.org for info on this). This is definately worthwhile, if worse comes to worse if they are going to be too much for you fight against, at least you and your baby will end up with a more sacred meeting when the time comes for bubs to come out.
When you do go into labour, labour at home for as long as possible. If you are worried about being too far away from hospital, go and walk around a nearby park, or the hospital grounds while you labour, until it all becomes too much, and only then book yourself into the labour ward. This way, it might be just too late for them to slice and dice you, iykwim.
Sending you huge beautiful birth vibes :wizard: it is just so unfair that you are being treated so hideously, especially when there is no evidence to back up what they are putting you through. It makes me soooooo :mad:
(It is soooo strong of you to put yourself through this hospital experience - I was too scared, and had I not been able to get a doula/indie MW, I was seriously considering free-birth :laughing: )
oh Andrea, :hugs: hun!
I would be sticking to my guns and saying NO C/SECT!!! There was a time when I was labouring with Kailah they mentioned a c/s cos she was stressing and I said no way! She was oerfectly fine just sick of all the contractions I'd been having for days! She was 9lb 2oz and they said she was no bigger than 8lb in utero. They have no idea! I birthed her fine! Only a few stitches, she didn't get stuck and I only used the gas for about 2hrs (pushing).
You have already birthed owen who was a big bubba right??
You can do it again! Tell the OB what you want/don't want and say that is that! You are not having a c/sec unless bub is in REAL danger.
:hugs:
hayles86
04-12-2006, 15:37
Hi, I cant believe that your docs wont listen to you. I had a 8lb 13oz baby and no stitches. I know thats not big but i got told i was having a 7lb 5oz baby :). On the other hand my mum had a c-section because they thought she was having a 9lb baby and he end up being just under 7lb. But he was very long. I agree with Lunar you should tell your ob that you want to give birth naturally. At least you would have tired to give birth naturally and if it doesnt happen then have a c-section if bubs gets stressed. But im sure you'll do fine. Good luck but i know you wont need it :)
BubbaNoogie
04-12-2006, 15:49
I was measuring 5cms over for the last 10 weeks of my pregnancy. My OB decided not to go past my due date, because I had a 9 pound 5 ounce baby before. I was induced 4 days before my due date and had a VB. She was 9 pound 5 ounces, the same as her sister, whom I never measured over with.
My point is it is not entirely accurate, nor is ultrasound in working out size (my OB said they are a waste of time!)
Stick to your guns, if you dont want a C/S dont have one!
Good luck, heres hoping it all goes well for you.
thanks for the article gargonlfyblu. just reading it ****es me off because the baby is not estimated to be much bigger than 9lbs. when i did see the OB last time he said its likely to be the same/similar size as owen which ws 8lbs12oz (just under 4000g). i can't believe how much they are over-reacting and they are so 'concerned' about the size :banghead:.
becca, you described it perfectly, i do feel like i've been check-mated. do you know what the likelyhood of me beign induced will mean that i will end up with a c-section because i have heard that it increases your chances. and thanks for the webiste too, i had a good read. i was wondering what the difference was between a general and an epi when it comes to c/s.
i just know they will try and convince me to book an induction or c/s, they are preparing me for it already by asking me to do some more blood work to check my iron levels etc. which i have refused.
my middy also suggested i can have an epi if i wanted because i had one last time....why aren't they listening? i said i wanted a natural, intervention-free birth, they are already assuming i can't birth a big bub and i'm not even in labour!
i think i have to have faith that my body can handle the birth, they are really not helping my confidence by suggesting the alternative everytime i mention 'intervention-free'. bugger the lot of them, i will end up birthing at home and driving in last minute and they won't have the time to do anything.
forgot to add that i have already written a birthplan, they have a copy of it. not like it matters though because last time they completely disregarded it and went against everythign i requested or questioned me as to why i chose cetrain things etc. :banghead:
FourAngelKisses
04-12-2006, 16:00
i think i have to have faith that my body can handle the birth, they are really not helping my confidence by suggesting the alternative everytime i mention 'intervention-free'. bugger the lot of them, i will end up birthing at home and driving in last minute and they won't have the time to do anything.
I have seen an OB once....when I was pregnant with Matthew and I wanted a c-section because he was going to be a large baby. He said these exact words to me "You have proven to yourself and everyone else that you can give birth to big babies" before going on to tell me that if I wanted the CS, I could have it, he would leave it up to me.
I feel that you have enough faith in yourself that you can deliver a big baby. It's very sad that no one else seems to feel the same way. I wish you all the best.
I feel that you have enough faith in yourself that you can deliver a big baby. It's very sad that no one else seems to feel the same way. I wish you all the best.
Thank you. i have to try and keep everyone's positive comments/posts in mind and stick to my guns.
heres a pic of my supposed massive belly
http://i100.photobucket.com/albums/m14/andreabalint/35ishweeks.jpg
http://i100.photobucket.com/albums/m14/andreabalint/35weeks.jpg
YOur belly is beautiful! It is not huge in any way! I think I was bigger with both my girls than that! I think that the Dr's and middies there are all on drugs! Oh, hun, I really do have loads of sympathy for you.:hugs: Just stick to your guns and do what you feel is right. You'll know, I'm sure, if it really needs to be done... the c/s that is.
dragonflyblu
04-12-2006, 17:40
stay strong. :thumbsup:
Becca74 had some very good tips.
I mean for goodness sake if you had to you could give birth anywhere. Does the ob really think the female population of the world with supposedly big babies are all laying around with 'stuck' babies or struggling to push them out. Thats just ridiculous, the majority of bubs are born without any issues no matter what the size - maybe a bruised and sore mum but not as sore as after an C/S!
YOur belly is beautiful! It is not huge in any way! I think I was bigger with both my girls than that! I think that the Dr's and middies there are all on drugs! Oh, hun, I really do have loads of sympathy for you.:hugs: Just stick to your guns and do what you feel is right. You'll know, I'm sure, if it really needs to be done... the c/s that is.
thanks :) i just took it today and thats at 35 weeks, i'm about 5'6. my mum looked at me today and said i didn't look big and that she was a whale at this stage....lol. mum also told me to stcik to my insitincts because i'm pretty good with listening to my body and right now by body tells me everything is perfect, this bub is not as big as they think and i'm very calm about having a natural birth. if i had a small niggling feeling that something is not safe, i would ask to have more tests done. honestly my heart tells me everything is fine which is probably why i'm so upset about them making such a big deal. the fact that they are not listening to me.
Good for you! :smiliedance:
That's one smart Mum you've got there.
Sheer Bliss
04-12-2006, 18:47
:hugs: :hugs: to you! the other girls have already given some great advice & I hope you get your natural birth!
I just wanted to add that from your pics you don't look huge at all!
FourAngelKisses
04-12-2006, 18:55
Not big at all compared to my 20wk shot in my avatar, lol. I think you look lovely!!
hayles86
04-12-2006, 20:16
You are so not big at all. http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g173/hayleemcinnes/36weeks.jpg
theres a pic of my belly at 36 weeks and i was a whale :)
I'd stick my guns and tell them what you want and if they keep going on about it ask for another ob.
dragonflyblu
06-12-2006, 12:18
my closest friend just had her baby last night he weighed 8lb12. She had a high risk pregnancy- last time the placenta did not seperate- this time her placenta was really low, some highBP and she has an autoimmune syndrome which gives her weak muscles. But no csection. Mum and bub are well even though he was a "big baby", different hospitals have different policies. It seems its nothing to do with the size of the baby or the perceived risks!
LotusMum
06-12-2006, 13:01
I would just like to say that at my last middy apt (last week) I was measured and came up at 42cm, she then went and got another middy in for a second opinion which came at 39 weeks. Big difference. I would be very very wary of your midwives and all that nonsence about big babies.
~Emmylou~
06-12-2006, 13:09
What a load of rubbish they're telling you!
You've already birthed a baby, so your pelvis is "tested" as they like to say. You already know that there is no anatomical issue with you that will prevent you having a bigger baby...what is their problem? This whole thing is really really rough IMO.
You stick to your guns and don't let them bully you. This is truly disgraceful.
Do what you feel you can do!!
They are wrong all the time.
I got told bubs was 7 poundish a week after my due date & 1 week later I gave birth to an 11pound monster Vaginally, sure it was hard but I got her out(I must have one big pelvis:laughing: ) & before getting pregnant I was quite small.
Good luck & stand your ground :fingerscrossed:
I had a 7pound 10 the first time and 9 pounds the second. I also have Gestational diabetes and i am only 5 foot 2. No - one ever mentioned a c/section and my second was only 1.5 hours from first contraction to end , with the pushing stage lasting 2 mins ( actually i think i breathed his head out ).
Also I was with my friend 2 weeks age when she had her second baby - 10 pounds 2 oz , no pain relief just self hypnosis and it took 50 minutes from beginning to end.
Good Luck
Pickles
DD 02/03
Ds 03/05
jojojonsey
06-12-2006, 15:33
I just had my 30 week mid wife appointment today and I loved the fact my she scoffed at the note where the OB had suggested a scan at 36 weeks if I looked bigger than average to see if I needed a CS.
She said "you delivered a 10 pound 1oz baby unassisted! You're a legend" and said that the best thing that they could do was just let my body and the baby do what they know best to to do.
all these posts are just adding fuel to the fire and making me so much more confident in my decision and they will help me stick to it too!
i'm really confused right now as to why they would make such a big deal then. i'm young (not that it has much to do with anything :D), fit, healthy and have no other complications and they have labelled me as 'high risk'. what a load of rubbish. i'm really angry with them right now and i'm getting fired up for my next week's appointment. i think i will look at him in the eye and say 'mention an elective c/s or induction and you people will not be seeing me again'. i will also mention the research that bubhubbers have given me and ask them why they are going against scientific findings.
something tells me their c/s rates are going down and they need the money or something. nothing else makes much sense to me.
thank you guys, keep the stories coming. you're all getting me fired up and excited that i CAN birth this little man.
werdxela
06-12-2006, 19:53
With ds2 i had the ob saying "your going to have a huge baby" (i has gestastional diabetes) I had a scan at 36 weeks cause they where worried about his size. The Lovely ultrasound lady said he was the smallest "large" baby she had ever seen.........lol. He was 7lb 12oz when born at 39 weeks.
Now 2 weeks ago this stupid ob goes "you have type 2 diabetes" (proven to be wrong last week when i got my test results back) "your baby is going to be huge" (this stupid woman seemed to think my son was a giant at 7lb 12??????) So she sends me off for an ultrasound. Again for me to find out no my baby is perfect for my dates and I am just carrying lots of extra fluid. Well Duh i did try to tell her that but she is the Dr and I am just a stupid patient.
With ds2 i had the ob saying "your going to have a huge baby" (i has gestastional diabetes) I had a scan at 36 weeks cause they where worried about his size. The Lovely ultrasound lady said he was the smallest "large" baby she had ever seen.........lol. He was 7lb 12oz when born at 39 weeks.
Now 2 weeks ago this stupid ob goes "you have type 2 diabetes" (proven to be wrong last week when i got my test results back) "your baby is going to be huge" (this stupid woman seemed to think my son was a giant at 7lb 12??????) So she sends me off for an ultrasound. Again for me to find out no my baby is perfect for my dates and I am just carrying lots of extra fluid. Well Duh i did try to tell her that but she is the Dr and I am just a stupid patient.
just makes you want to :banghead: doesn't it?
werdxela
06-12-2006, 20:44
I just wish they would LISTEN. Good Luck at your appointment next week. Read them the riot act!
I have another story to give you strength:D
My friend is 5ft 1 she is 42kgs, she has the body of a 10yr old, she gave birth to a 10lb 8 baby boy vaginally(she is a naturopath & I swear the vitamins she put us both on before & during pregnancy made both our babies HUGE :laughing: ) So there you go she birthed a baby almost as big as her & they are both fine!!
alicesmum
07-12-2006, 14:22
owen's mum
i can't believe stories like yours. makes me so :banghead:
my DS (who was 9 pds 3 oz) had a 39.5 cm head :eek: and was posterior. i pushed him out after a long labour with 4 stitches and no drugs! (just lots of screaming!)
i told them in no uncertain terms during my labour "I DON'T WANT A C/S!"
my middies were stressing a bit because of the mec in the waters, elevated baby and maternal HR, and big posterior baby. they had me on drips and monitors. i couldn't use the shower or even move around much adn I had planned a water birth!!!
I knew in my heart, like you do, that it would be ok. And it was.
A friend had her first last week. Her (Kn)ob told her that because she was a small build and because the baby was posterior she would have to have a c/s, which she accepted without question. she ain't that much smaller than me and her baby had the teeniest little head and weighed 6 pds 8 oz. :detective:
Again with the :banghead: emoticon.
Stand your ground. Set a precedent for women who follow you okay!!!!
All the best!!!
oh the story is not over yet. i'm determined to take them on, i'm so glad i'm pregnant and i get ****ed off easily which makes me more likely to stand up for myself. normally i'm a bit of a push over :D. people telling me i can't do something is also a great drive so i can prove the lot of them wrong and then write a nasty review to the hospital afterwards.
my OB appointment is on tuesday so i will post afterwards and let you all know how it went.
i'm so angry that i can't see middies anymore and i have to switch to OB care because i'm 'high risk'. you go in, wait 3 hours and they only look at you for 10 minutes......i want my midwives back :(. don't get me wrong, i respect OB's and their work but i persoanlly don't feel that i need their care with my pregnancy because i KNOW i'm fine. just wanted to clarify :D.
alicesmum
07-12-2006, 15:09
good on you!!!
don't let them bully you into something you don't feel you need.
:fingerscrossed: for you!!!!
FourAngelKisses
07-12-2006, 15:11
Print out this thread and take it with you, lol.
Print out this thread and take it with you, lol.
you know, i seriously considered that then i realised all the horrible things i said about OBs.......:D
reAllytee
07-12-2006, 20:38
Thats fine just black all those parts out hehehehe if they ask what they are you can say at this stage in time those sections arent available not even under the freedom of information act.
LMAO how many of the gverment agencies do that :p
Astonsmum
08-12-2006, 06:26
I was told i was having a big baby based on measurements and a scan. Turns out they can get it SO wrong. They estimated 4.5kgs plus but my bubba was only, get this, 3.003kgs!!!!!!!
bekkyboo
08-12-2006, 06:45
G was always measureing weeks ahead and i was told he would be large average to large. But c/s was never discussed in relation to his size, but to do with my heart.
He was 9lb 1 oz at 37+6...
FourAngelKisses
08-12-2006, 06:47
C/S was never discussed with my pregnancies either, until I said I wanted one with Matthew. But I changed my mind when I realised I'd have no one to look after my other kids and drive them to school etc because I wouldn't be able to do it.
i can't believe that they are taking these measurements as gospel. based on others' measurements and experiences, surely the doctors would know that they are not reliable. i'm startig to think there must be some weird reason why they are encouraging c/s at my hospital. do they have too many people booked in for january and december or something? its more and more bizzare by day.
alicesmum
08-12-2006, 16:12
OM,
U R right. They are SOOOO not reliable!
Several of the mums in my high SES playgroup who have top-notch (kn)obs ;) had elective c/secs because they were told "big baby". when i asked them what they ended up with, they were all 7 pds something :eek:
my story: day before i went into labour with DS, my middie went the other way and told me I was measuring average and that he would be about 3.3 or 3.4 kg.
TRY 4.21kg :eek: :detective:
this is so common. i don't know why they haven't realised themselves that they are often wrong....??????????
reAllytee
08-12-2006, 16:18
I kept being told my baby wouldnt be huge or anything maybe a bit long because daddy is tall but dont stressed.
I was stressed cause in the last month i was huuuuuge.
I kept being told not to be silly etc.
Yeah just off 10lbs & 57cms later they all had a heart attack & apologised profusely !!!!!
I dont think they get it right either way i just wish they would listen to us mums !!!!!! :( :mad:
FourAngelKisses
08-12-2006, 16:24
my story: day before i went into labour with DS, my middie went the other way and told me I was measuring average and that he would be about 3.3 or 3.4 kg.
TRY 4.21kg :eek: :detective:
:yes: I was told "8.........maybe 9lb", he was born weighing 11lb.
No one knows anything, but I think that we as the mums, have an idea of what sized baby we are carrying.
Milliner
08-12-2006, 16:43
I was told that DS would be in the high 6lb - low 7lb and he was 5lb 14 so they are not always right. I would keep pushing for a VB and keep telling them that you don't want a C-sec they can't force you to have one just because.
well i had my OB appointment this morning and i'm glad i got to see a different guy to last time. i'm happy to say this time the experience was much better :thumbsup:. when i asked him about an induction and a c/section, he was very much against both of them. i had a big smile on my face :D and told him what happened at my last appointment. he wasn't even sure why i had that ultrasound to chek for size considering they are so innacurate so he told me not to worry and just let bubs decide when he wants to come into the world. if he gets stuck then we will deal with it, was his advice. this guy is a keeper! first person to support me in a natural birth.
i also had to do the GD test :thumbsdown: which i previosuly declined because i didn't have any of the risk factors but he suggested i do it because my fluid levels were high and bubs is measuring so big still. so hopefully the test will come back negative and they will leave me alone with my big bub. there is no protein in my urine and i haven't gained much weight at all other than bubs. i did get really sick after the drink though and i have a killer toothache but at least i had an overall postive experience with this OB.
just had to share :o
FourAngelKisses
12-12-2006, 17:33
That's terrific news!!! I wonder if he will tell the other guy off?
That's terrific news!!! I wonder if he will tell the other guy off?
i hope so! the other guy was much younger. i just loved this older gentleman. when i first saw him, i thought 'great' he looks very old-school but he was awsome. so friendly and loved the fact that i asked a million questions about every procedure they thought about doing. some like it when you question them, others don't.
:smiliedance: my little happy dance for having a good day with the OB. going back next wednesday to hear the results of the blood test.
Great news Andrea! I'm happy you finally got someone to listen! Hope that has eased your stress a little.:hugs:
littlepickle
12-12-2006, 20:05
I was induced because obby thought that bub was getting too big. I was induced on my due date and dd was 7lb 9oz which in my opinion is not that big. I have been reading up on this since, and apparently predicting the size of a baby before birth is not an exact science even when using ultrasound. It all depends on the expertise and experience of the ob/middie.
I wouldnt change anything about my birth and I cant say that in hindsight I wouldnt have been induced as I have a gorgeous healthy bub and I am feeling great, and thats the main thing, so I dont really do "what if's"
I hope you have the birth you want, dont be bullied into anything you dont feel 100% comfortable with :hugs:
hayles86
12-12-2006, 20:58
Im so glad that this ob was against c-section and inducing you. You do what ever feels right for you and your baby. Which hospital are you going to?.
i do feel a lot more confident in the hospital, even if i can get one person to listen to me. i'm also seriously considering a doula.
as for the hospital i'm at, its the geelong hospital. they have a bad reputation for just about everything esp surgeries going wrong which is another reason why i don't want them unzipping me. i had a lot of problems with them last time too, they can be neglectful.
unfortunately there are no other hospitals nearby that are equipped to handle as much as they can. i wish we lived in melbourne where there is a choice in hospitals.
lilpearl
13-12-2006, 13:07
owens_mum - measuring big with the tape measurer means absolutely nothing! It COULD mean your having a big baby, or it could mean you have lots of fluid, or it could mean your uterus is nice and roomy, whatever, but it certainly is not a definite indicator of a big baby. I've ALWAYS measured big. In my last pregnancy, I was measuring 26 weeks at 20 weeks, and my daughter was born naturally at almost 39 weeks, weighing 7lb 5oz. Relying simply on what the tape measurer says is really dangerous in my opinion. I'm now 16 weeks pregnant, and my uterus is past my belly button (i.e, measuring past 20 weeks). Am I concerned? Not in the slightest. My first baby was only 8lb, 3oz , born at 41 weeks, even though I measured big throughout. He was a caesarean, but certainly not because he was too big. Trust in yourself, get a second opinion, and do what you know to be right. Good luck with it all! :)
when i was talking to my OB yesterday about the accuracy of the tape measure, he fully swore by it too. they (hospital staff) just weird me out when i hear stories like the ones mentioned in this thread. the OB told me that bubs is now full-term size and when i asked him what that meant, like 8lbs, 7lbs he didn't give me a definite answer. so what is a full-term sized baby?????
i did like it when he said an indiuction would be pointless because there is no point in an induction two weeks from now because size-wise, there won't be much of a difference between a 38 weeker and a 40 week baby :thumbsup:. he said to just relax and let baby come when he wants to. i like the way this man thinks :D.
how great would it be if i did have another 8 pounder and they can all go and jump.
FourAngelKisses
13-12-2006, 19:10
I think the tape measure thing is a load of BS. ATM I am measuring just over 25cm at 22wks. I know that in a few weeks from now, I will be measuring the same amount of CM as I am in weeks.
our little treasures
14-12-2006, 14:57
Hello
I just wanted to say good on you for sticking up for your self.. It is your own decision, also with the GD test I never have them as I wqas told by my first obs that if your urine has no raised levels than it is impossible to have GD..
With DS I had him with nothing fully natural (they turned the gas of and lied to me , damn it!!) he was 9pnd 14ounces and although it was a long labour so was my dd who was 8 pnd 8 ounces..
I think Midwifes and the likes arew scarred of being sued!~
with the GD test I never have them as I wqas told by my first obs that if your urine has no raised levels than it is impossible to have GD..
thats what i though! i've had my urine tested 3 times in the past month and it came back negative each time but they insisted on me getting tested. it annoys the **** out of me because they keep telling you 'its your choice if you have it or not' and when you make the choice NOT to have the test, they harass you about it every time you go in there. :banghead: they annoy me.
ChubStar
15-12-2006, 21:26
If you have a full bladder, supposedly this can give you a false reading.
Maybe, like with me and ds, they just got the dates wrong? So, like my ds, your bub might arrive "early" but actually be perfectly cooked...
Maybe, like with me and ds, they just got the dates wrong? So, like my ds, your bub might arrive "early" but actually be perfectly cooked...
well i was kind of hoping for that (it happened last time) but that would mean bubs is due now :eek:....well tomorrow really and tomorrow we are driving down to MIL's for chirsitmas. she lives 3 hours away from here. the plan is not to have her anywhere near me when i give birth or when i'm in hospital so bubs better stay still for the next two days so we can get the whole christmas thing out of the way with her.
aaronismine
20-12-2006, 12:43
Good Luck with keeping bubs inside. We all know they come when they want to!
Merry Christmas!
i got my results for the GD test today...surprise surprise it was negative :banghead:. i hate blood tests. now i have to have another ultrasound so they can measure bubs again and check out the fluid.....this just seems to be going round and round in circles.
my OB said they can't figure out why bubs is so big and why i would have a lot of fluid (look at his father for goodness sake! 6ft 3). she said everything looks perfect and there is nothing that seems to be casuing this rise in size.
its actually becoming quite amusing, watching them flick through their notes every week, scratching their heads......its a big baby people get over it! they look so perplexed like they have never seen a big bub. the OB was saying this bub could end up being 10lbs! wow like its never happened before! i'm so over it.
the OB said the ultrasound is more to put me at ease, i laughed and said i think you guys are more nervous than i am!
so off i go to another ultrasound in two weeks. bubs will be out by then i recon ;).
thanks to everyone who has been 'listening' to me winge. its great to get some support, if it weren't for the encouragement i get here, i think i would be a nervous wreck! they would make me nervous.
oh and the OB said that they have no reason to keep me from going back to midwife care, they can't label me as 'high risk' if they can't fidn something wrong with me and bub size is not enough for them. i may get to go back to the birthing-centre approach i was with to begin with! awsome news cos they don't use drugs through that program :thumbsup:.
aaronismine
21-12-2006, 12:12
Thats fantastic news! :thumbsup: Hope you have a great christmas and the best birth that you could hope for!
ShadyCharacter
21-12-2006, 21:54
Great news Andrea - I was just wondering today how you were going :)
That's great news OM!!! :thumbsup:
It's so wonderful to hear of a strong mum making INFORMED choices and not being bullied by the medical profession! I myself had to fight for my natural birth even though there was nothing wrong with bub or me.
They never threatened me with a c/s, but every time I went they would ask me about an epidural and then totally patronise me when I'd say I'm going natural with no drugs at all, I often got told "well, you ARE a first time mum so you don't really know what you're in for...". One midwife even had the audacity to give me the epidural consent forms, telling me they were just "an information package" and that I should sign them and bring them back. When I asked if it was a consent form, she said no. But when I got home and read them guess what?! They were consent forms! :banghead: I tore those forms up and ripped into that midwife the next time I saw her, how dare she try to trick me?
In the end for my last middie appt. I got a brilliant mid. who not only supported my choice for a natural birth, she also told me to stay home as long as I could to ensure I got that natural birth! So I stayed home for 12 of my 15 hours of labour and I got my beautiful drug-free natural birth.
So OM you keep standing up for yours and you bubs rights! You will know when the time is right and you will know when to ask for help.
:hugs: and :reindeer:
Carly.
its sad that we have to stay at home till the last minute because they don't like you being there for a 'long time' and would rather speed things up for their convenience. i'm going to stay at home till i don't feel safe/comofrtable being at home anymore.
i hope i get a good middie that supports my choice in a natural birth too because i've met a couple that were a little patronising and told me to be open to all options. i said i already was but i was going to go natural unless there was some danger involved. i don't know whether its because they hear it often and women do turn to drugs, but thats no reason to be so sour about it to everyone who would like to attempt drug-free. meh.
i just hope i go in there with lots of energy and zest so they can't push me around.
i'm also going to be very careful about what i sign too.
dragonflyblu
22-12-2006, 15:18
I hope you get a good midwife for the birth. I have been having some odd experiences as well, for no particular reason the midwives keep saying to me that i should be prepared for an epidural and not be dissapointed if I dont have a natural birth. I get so sick of it. Yesterday i just ended up saying to one midwife that the majority of the women in the world give birth at home and dont even have drugs as an option! No suggestions of a c/s for me but have had the 'think about induction' talk even though I am 39 weeks. Seems to me that alot of the talk at hospitals about supporting a natural brith hasnt reached the staff yet!
I hope you get a good midwife for the birth. I have been having some odd experiences as well, for no particular reason the midwives keep saying to me that i should be prepared for an epidural and not be dissapointed if I dont have a natural birth. I get so sick of it. Yesterday i just ended up saying to one midwife that the majority of the women in the world give birth at home and dont even have drugs as an option! No suggestions of a c/s for me but have had the 'think about induction' talk even though I am 39 weeks. Seems to me that alot of the talk at hospitals about supporting a natural brith hasnt reached the staff yet!
thats exactly what happened with my first pregnancy too. they start the induction talk at 38/39 weeks. well, i've had the induction talk at 33 weeks this time but they can jump :)
hi all,
this thread has really helped me. my ob started talking induction at 38 weeks as he said I wasn't putting on enough weight (still around .5kg a week) although bubs was showing weight gain on the ultrasound estimate which, as he said himself, is not nec. accurate. I went again at 39 weeks having gorged myself over chrissy and we'd both put on weight so now he's saying he wants to induce me at 40 weeks cos he's going to be too big! At 39 weeks the estimate was 3.5kg (7.7lb) so I can't see what the fuss is. Initially he said he wouldn't 'let' his 'patients' go over their due date - like I had no choice. This time I said I didn't want an induction unless there was a good medical reason and he backed down and said it was my choice so I was worked up for nothing. I still feel like I have to push for what should be natural anyway. He's done two internals to check my cervix and the midwive at the hospital said they wouldn't do that until 41 weeks! I'm wondering if he's trying to start things off without telling me? Each time there has been a bit of light bleeding afterwards. I've had absolutely no problems in any way during the whole pregnancy so why do they feel the need to intervene right at the end? I agree they're scared of liability and like to keep their schedules well spaced!
anyway, sorry for the rant and thanks for the great discussion and support everyone.
Freddie, i would be very weary of your OB :detective:. why on earth is he giving you internals at 38 weeks? or is this normal for OBs? the first internal i got was when i was in labor, if they tried that on me before then, then i would have something to say about that and it would not be pretty.
and your bubs sounds like a nice size, not even near big IMO, he sounds like a nut job to me.
melissa.r
30-12-2006, 10:38
Not sure if you have an independant midwife or doula, but this is an option. I know you are due in only a few weeks but there is still time. Of course, you could always change Obs.... Statistically, the chances of you delivering a baby too big for your pelvis is very low. You can of course stand firm in your feelings of having a natural birth, the challenge is that unless you have a very strong, well informed advocate your chances of having what you want and being listened too, is greatly reduced. The medical establishment is very versed on how to make women feel inadequate. Stand strong, your body will do exactly as it is built to do perfectly, and if you need medical backup it will be there in the background. Don't be bossed into doing something your unconfortable with. Good luck!
Not sure if you have an independant midwife or doula, but this is an option. I know you are due in only a few weeks but there is still time. Of course, you could always change Obs.... Statistically, the chances of you delivering a baby too big for your pelvis is very low. You can of course stand firm in your feelings of having a natural birth, the challenge is that unless you have a very strong, well informed advocate your chances of having what you want and being listened too, is greatly reduced. The medical establishment is very versed on how to make women feel inadequate. Stand strong, your body will do exactly as it is built to do perfectly, and if you need medical backup it will be there in the background. Don't be bossed into doing something your unconfortable with. Good luck!
well said! the only way i'm getting cut up is if the baby is stuck or if there is some other emergency. thats it, no other reason and i can be a real cow when i'm in pain so i won't be going easy on anyone.
hi all,
this thread has really helped me. my ob started talking induction at 38 weeks as he said I wasn't putting on enough weight (still around .5kg a week) although bubs was showing weight gain on the ultrasound estimate which, as he said himself, is not nec. accurate. I went again at 39 weeks having gorged myself over chrissy and we'd both put on weight so now he's saying he wants to induce me at 40 weeks cos he's going to be too big! At 39 weeks the estimate was 3.5kg (7.7lb) so I can't see what the fuss is. Initially he said he wouldn't 'let' his 'patients' go over their due date - like I had no choice. This time I said I didn't want an induction unless there was a good medical reason and he backed down and said it was my choice so I was worked up for nothing. I still feel like I have to push for what should be natural anyway. He's done two internals to check my cervix and the midwive at the hospital said they wouldn't do that until 41 weeks! I'm wondering if he's trying to start things off without telling me? Each time there has been a bit of light bleeding afterwards. I've had absolutely no problems in any way during the whole pregnancy so why do they feel the need to intervene right at the end? I agree they're scared of liability and like to keep their schedules well spaced!
anyway, sorry for the rant and thanks for the great discussion and support everyone.
Freddie,
If you are worried about the path you Ob is going down, which it sounds like you are, I would be looking into getting a doula asap, or doing your own research.
An internal this early, IMO, would be to stretch the cervic and start labour, why?
My bub was 3.3kg born at 37wks and a completely natural and active labor(we stayed at home till transition), you have the right to stay at home as long as you like and feel safe to. You have the right to your own birth plan and requests on you labor.
This is your body and your journey...you decided what is right for you!
One of the hardest things about being a mum is all the unwanted fear that is placed on you, trust your body and your own feelings.
I found Active Birth by Janet Blaskis (?) and Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering by Dr Sarah Buckley really great, to empower and help with the labor and beyond.
I would be making an official complaint as to why this was done.
You have so many rights, they simply don't tell you about them, you have to be very proactive.
Owen's mum,
You could post a request for a student midwife or doula to support you, I know that I would love to support a birthing woman, though I am also aware that my knowledge, that I have at the moment is only as a mother and from my own research. I'm sure you could find someone that shares your views.
If you ask for a student they should be happy to volunteer, what an amazing experience it would be for them and life has funny little ways of working itself out.
I'm sorry to hear that you have to fight for your own birth experience, I'm also amazed at your strength and courage through this, while still being a partner, mother ect.
Sarah Buckley as I mentioned above has alot of amazing research on birth, I would start reading her birth stories they are on the internet and they are so moving and inspirational, though I did cry.
Thanks shell, i would love to have a doula but DH said no. he is very private and believes that the birth is something he does not want to share with a strainger :banghead:. i guess i have to accept that he is just as part of this journey as i am.
i had another ultrasound and appointment with another OB yesterday. apparently bubs is between 9 and 10lbs at the moment. they think he will be no more than 10lbs by his due date.
AGAIN we had the 'consider a c/s' talk and 'do you want an epidural' (in my opinion, that just screams intervention to me and with a large bub, a c/s) i got a bit huffed and said 'trust me, it would take an emergency for anyone to be cutting me up and from my last experience with an epi, i'm not taking anything'. i think he thought i was rather amusing and i think he must have either been impressed that i was willing to birth a 10 pounder or he thought i was crazy and that i won't go through with it.
lucky for me i got the official go-ahead for birthing at the birthing unit i wanted which does not encourage drugs. they have a completely different set of middies to the rest of the hospital. hopefully it will be like a little sanctuary from all the drug and intervention obsessed medical staff.
:fingerscrossed: for the next couple of weeks. i'm due next week!
FourAngelKisses
04-01-2007, 07:46
If I can give birth to an 11lber with no epidural, you can have a 10lber without one. I have faith in you........even though I don't know you, lol. Good luck!!
melissa.r
04-01-2007, 08:38
Good luck, you have a positive attitude so this will go a long way. Loads of women have 10 pounders naturally so there is no reason you won't. I think its great you are thinking through all the 'what ifs' and have a clear birth plan about what you want. Even if things don't go as planned and some intervention is required, (which is unlikely) if your clear with how you want any intervention to be undertaken you wil be happy with the outcome. I respect that your DH doesn't want a doula present and that this is also his journey, but at the end of the day it is your body. You need to do what is right for you.
pookiesossige
04-01-2007, 09:17
I have faith in you too... :hugs: I love the strength and conviction that is coming through in your posts- I think that we are going to hear a beautiful, inspiring birth story from you soon! :yes:
FourAngelKisses
04-01-2007, 09:23
I think that we are going to hear a beautiful, inspiring birth story from you soon! :yes:
I'm sure she is thinking "the sooner the better". :laughing:
Best of luck! I can't wait to read you birth story!! :D I'm sure it'll be an empowered one!
Thanks shell, i would love to have a doula but DH said no. he is very private and believes that the birth is something he does not want to share with a strainger :banghead:. i guess i have to accept that he is just as part of this journey as i am.
I just wanted to commend you on this, and your thoughts here. So many people forget that their hubby, or baby's daddy, is as much a part of the bub as they are themselves. :)
:o thanks seekrit, i do love that big dorky DH of mine and i feel bad for him that he has to be a by-stander in all this, even though i'm the one going through the pain. it wouldn't be nice being in his shoes so i have to respect him as much as he respects me and is letting me have my way in a lot of other things (like not letting MIL in after the birth).
oh my goodness, you ladies are so lovely!
i really hope this will be a great birth story, i wouldn't want to dissapoint now :D. this baby is coming out naturally, i had a bit of a chat to him this morning ;), we have to work as a team on this one. lol
i'm pretty stubborn and when i have my heart set on something, i always get it one way or another so i can tell you all it will take a lot (i labored a posterior baby for a good 45 hours before accepting drugs, by then i was too tired) for me to cave and it WILL be an emergency that will cause an intervention.
if it weren't for ALL the replies and encouragement on here, i wouldn't have believed that i could do this. i would have freaked out at the size and let them do what ever they wanted with me so a huge thank you to all of you and big big :hugs:s. you ladies could easily have made the difference between me having a natural and a c/s birth.
we'll see what happens!
Lallas' Mum
04-01-2007, 13:42
My first DS was born naturally weighing 10lb 8oz. I was worried that I was having a big baby but had the opposite trouble to you - no one else was worried.
My sons shoulders got stuck. They call this shoulder distorcia. The Drs and midwife managed to manipulate his body into coming out. Lucky- they were considering fracturing his collarbone to make him fit!!!! Either that or cutting my pubic bone!!!! That is what they have to do if they get stuck and can't be manipulated out. Bubs can also suffer permanant nerve damage from pressure placed on their bodies. Not to mention the tearing.
In the end DS1 and I came out of it with no permanant damage to bub, multiple stitches to me (above and below) and a blood transfusion due to excessive blood loss.
I have had two more sons since both by C/S.
My second son was 11lb 4oz with a head circumference of 39cms. He never would have made it out safely.
I don't want to scare you but no one else has mentioned what could go wrong so I thought I would. Yes a natural birth is great if you can manage to do it safely but is it worth the risk?
I would take into account what your carers are saying because giving birth to a macrosomic baby can be quite dangerous if they truely are too big.
If you want to ask any questions about my experience feel free to PM me.
I do hope it all works out ok for you.
i've definitly thought about it Lalla's mum and discussed with my OB what would happen if bubs did get stuck. i was told that they can safely give me a c/s if that occurs and what you desribed is very rare but very real and scarry. my OB is confident that i will be ok and said the shoulders are generally an issue when you have GD because bubs put on weight around the shoulders. i'm going with the odds and the odds are in my favor at the moment.
thanks for your post, its good to get all the stories.
Lallas' Mum
07-01-2007, 08:36
The whole really big bub thing was a bit of a shock to me. I thought I was having a bigger bub - maybe 9 lb or so but no where near 10lb 8oz that's for sure.
I never had GD or anything else to cause such big bubs. I was thoroughly tested for GD during my next two pregnancies and the bubs were also tested for diabetes when they were born.
I guess the Drs couldnt believe that somoone like me (163cm tall and was a sz12 - now a 14) could have bubs soooo big for no apparant reason.
During my second pregnancy at 37 weeks I had an ultrasound to try and guage the size of bub and decide whether to have a c/s or not. They estimated DS2 to be 107oz at 37weeks. The straight out siad it is not safe to have this bub naturally. I agreed because of the risks and a good thing I did - he was 11lb4oz. The scan was very helpful to help me decide. I know the can't be completely accurate but it gave a better idea then just looking at your belly and feeling around.
Good luck to you - I hope bub arrives safe and sound and without drama.
PS the natural birth to my DS1 was a far better recovery than the rest and that was with stitches galore and a blood transfusion.
the Drs couldnt believe that somoone like me (163cm tall and was a sz12 - now a 14) could have bubs soooo big for no apparant reason.
lol same is happening here, they don't understand why hes so big. i'm kind of hoping they are worng about the size and that he is smaller than they think. they are consistenly changing their minds about the size.
all i really want is for this bubs to arrive safely and in the best way possible. i also don't have the resources to take 6 weeks to recover, i wouldn't even be able to take 2 weeks to recover so thats also driving me to go natural.
MrsDribbleDrawers
08-01-2007, 11:05
Hi.
I just wanted to say good luck for getting the birth you want!!
I've been keeping an eye on this thread, and :fingerscrossed: that no one thinks my bub is going to be too big to birth naturally!! All the words of encouragement have been great!
Cate
i had a hospital appointment today and got measured. baby is now measuring 40 weeks and i'm due tomorrow :banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead:. three weeks ago he was measuring 45 weeks!!!!!
so after all this anxiety and stress, i may even end up with a normal sized baby...what ever that is.
i find this bit confusing, she said it could have been my fluid, so could i have LOST some fluid in the past couple of weeks? i'm confused as to how you get from measuring 6 or 7 weeks ahead to measuring spot on?? even owen was measuring 2 weeks ahead at his last appointment so i went from having a massive baby to potentially having a smaller one than last time.
i'm so glad i didn't book a c/s that week a while back.
either way, it just means that my natural birth plans are more likely now. i hope i do have 'normal' sized baby and tell them all to shove it!
Congratulations OM, it sounds like you will have a great natural birth. Hope your little one arrives soon:)
Good luck getting the birth you want.
Just wanted to say I know a woman who lost her 3 month old son due to birth complications, all because he was a very big baby, got stuck halfway out and was deprived of oxygen too long. He struggled on life support for 3 months before passing.
I'm all for VB if possible but if there's ANY risk you should be open to other options. C/S isn't great but can be alot better than the alternative!
lilpearl
17-01-2007, 11:38
Owen's_Mum - enjoy a fantastic birthing experience! I'm so excited for you!
Hi OwensMum
Not sure about the fluid question, but thrilled you are measuring 40wks @ 40wks!!! :yelclap: for you!
:fingerscrossed: you have a LOVELY birth!
Good luck getting the birth you want.
Just wanted to say I know a woman who lost her 3 month old son due to birth complications, all because he was a very big baby, got stuck halfway out and was deprived of oxygen too long. He struggled on life support for 3 months before passing.
I'm all for VB if possible but if there's ANY risk you should be open to other options. C/S isn't great but can be alot better than the alternative!
The hospital staff are working with me on this one, I had a good chat to them yesterday. There will be a registar present incase anything happens and if there is a slight chance of bubs going into distress or if he gets stuck, they assured me I will have all the right people there.
i wouldn't put my baby's life at risk and i'm happy for them to cut me up if they need to only . i want to avoid an un necessary c/s and to do whats best for both of us. i also want all those hormones that come with giving birth so i can get straight into breastfeeding etc.
i'm so thrilled hes measuring the right size now, i had a feeling all along that he wasn't as big as they thought he was, i'm due today and hes still stretching and moving like crazy so it has to mean he has the room to do that. like the OB said yesterday, it may be a lot of fluid.
:smiliedance:
Wonderful news! :D
So often I hear pregnant women having a strong gut instinct against what the medical professional has said, and when its really strong it's almost always right! Yay for going with your gut! LOL
Just letting you know OwensMum that even though we don't know each other I think about you everyday and send lots of warm fuzzies your way. Your story has really touched me and I think it's great that you didn't let yourself be bamboozled by the medical profession!
:thumbsup:
Can't wait to hear all about it!
Just letting you know OwensMum that even though we don't know each other I think about you everyday and send lots of warm fuzzies your way. Your story has really touched me and I think it's great that you didn't let yourself be bamboozled by the medical profession!
:thumbsup:
Can't wait to hear all about it!
:) awww thanks *insert hug emoticon here*
owen's mum- just wanted to wish you all the best with your birthing experience.
I went to 40 weeks and bub hadnt engadged. so i was induced a few days later which i was fine with. I was having regular contractions for 8 hours but was still only 3 cm:no: it was at this stage that bub went into distress and his heart rate dropped dramatically. i was rushed off for an emergency c/s which i was also fine with as i wanted what was best for both of us and when he was born i felt terrible as you could see where he had been stuck in my pelvis. he had the biggest cone head i have ever seen and it looked so sore. my pelvis was just not going to let him through.
but alot of ppl do deliver big bubs vaginally all the time and im sure you will be fine. it just wasnt meant to be for me.
GOOD LUCK!!!!
thanks for your reply alysia. owen had a big head and he had a beautiful shape, i'm hoping that means my pelvis can open up.
ove the past month and a half i have seen an OB every week and only ONE of them said 'you've birthed a big baby, there is no reason why you can't do it again.'
i'm glad i got a test run with owen, i can't wait to see what happens with this birth, i'm so excited. alrighty, i'm getting dressed and off to the hospital for another appointment!
:fingerscrossed: that bubs hasn't grown 6cm in two days :laughing:.
just got back from my hospital appointment. still measuring 40 weeks! i had an AWSOME midwife, just out of this world great! she basically said all the things that everyone has been saying here.
she was shocked as to why they would offer me an epidural, let alone a c/s.....i was kind of surprised that she was surprised considering it was offered on three seperate occasions by different OBs.
anyway, she said 'women have been birthing big babies for centuries....your body won't produce something it can't push out.....they shuldn't be undermining you like that.....you've shown you can birth a big baby.' i was just noding saying, yep thats what the mums have been telling me on bubhub :laughing:.
i had a great chat with her and hopefully she will be there when i go into labor, she seemed keen to work with me so :fingerscrossed: that she will be on duty. can't wait for this birth!......though i'm sure i will change my mind during transition :laughing:.
thats great news! She sounds like she was a fantastic middie. I dont understand why they were telling you had to have a c/s.. the thing is, give vaginal birth a go and then if you need an emergency c/s they can do it then. I just dont think they like emergency c/s because they mess up their days timetable IYKWIM.
:fingerscrossed: everything goes to plan for you. youve done it before you can do it again!
well i can finally answer the question to this thread.....NO a big bub doesn't have to mean a c/s! tee hee. i had my 10lber drug free and au naturale so the docs can stuff it up their.....rears.
FourAngelKisses
31-01-2007, 16:46
:D You did so well!! Congratulations!!
FourAngelKisses
31-01-2007, 16:47
Just noticed you have him in your avatar.....he is just too cute for words!!
:smiliedance: WOOHOO!!!
I'll help you stuff it up their......:laughing:
Why do these drs dish out this ****....all this anxiety over nothing....you and your bubs were a perfect fit all along.....it's scary when you realise you know more than a dr about something :eek:
again, CONGRATULATIONS!! :party:
well i can finally answer the question to this thread.....NO a big bub doesn't have to mean a c/s! tee hee. i had my 10lber drug free and au naturale so the docs can stuff it up their.....rears.
I take a personal rule to not trust anything they say until your in labour :thumbsup:
My husband was 13lbs and my mother in law gave birth to him naturally and she never had a problem!
I was told at 33 weeks when they measured my stomach that I was carrying an 'unusually large' baby. Total ****.
The next week I was induced with pre-eclampsia and gave birth to a 5lbs little bubba!
snowchick
18-02-2007, 15:11
Before you go in to have a c-sect you have to sign forms, correct?
Don't sign them!! Wait! Labour and see if the bub will come out on it's own! IF there's an issue with baby's health then they can whip you into theatre, until then don't sign a thing!
I agree, they're far too trigger happy with caesars. With my ds I was measuring 1-2 cm over, but they were sure he'd be about 9 lbs. I had a normal (and quick) delivery without any drugs and he was over 11 lbs. I don't think the measurements are often accurate - I mean some people manage to hide 8 pounders and hardly look pregnant, some women are enormous and have 6 pounders. I'd wait and see, unless you've got a physical reason to not be able to deliver a baby over 9 lbs there's no reason to jump to a caesar. Good luck.
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