Traumatic Planned Homebirth?

[becca74]

Just thought I'd set this up to see if having the least amount of intervention (ie drug free homebirth)...in another thread it has been asked if women have had a traumatic birth even after a no intervention vb....so I figured I would just ask and find out......

I am not including women who needed to transfer from a homebirth, as the answer I am looking for is if someone has completed an non-intervened with vb, and after they have their baby and placenta out, did they feel traumatised by the experience, iykwim.....

[mummyof5]

No way Becca, that is why I kept going back!!!:D
I have a relatively decent amount of pain tolerance I think, but I am no superwoman...it is amazing how if you feel comfortable in your surroundings (hard not to do in your own home), there is very little to feel traumatised by.
I answered the first one, can't stop telling people about it, I am always trying to convince people it's not a dangerous, painfull, etc as they assume.
I have tried but, I can't explain to people just how fantastic it is to not have to send your older kids away (unless you want them gone of course), how no one tells you what you can and can't do in your labour to be comfortable, that you can eat if you want to, spend time in the bath or shower if you want to, watch videos or cook a cake, whatever makes you happy in your labour.
And of course at the end you can crawl into your own bed and cuddle your new baby with no one telling you when to go to the loo, or who can be in your room....
Definately no trauma there...

[becca74]

who regretted their decision to homebirth? It would be good for you to share, even anonymously, so that others can learn from what you experienced...

I have to say, I've googled 'traumatic homebirth', and have only ever come up with women saying they chose a homebirth because of a previous traumatic hospital birth. I have never seen the words 'traumatic + homebirth' come up beside each other in a google search.....

[Tam-I-Am]

I wish I could answer your question now, becca - I'm looking forward to being able to do so in a few months.....I can't imagine a situation whereby you're in your own familiar environment, with your own familiar helpers and support people, giving birth to a much loved and longed-for little bubba, being treated with respect, dignity, and the knowledge that what you say goes, could be traumatic. At least I hope not - the above is what I'm aiming for, in planning my homebirth

[demeter]

I feel the same Tam-I-Am!
(Hopefully a little one will get a-flutterin' in my uterus in the next month and then I'll only have to wait 40approx weeks to come back here :D)

[spiritedfamily]

I'm the same as mummyof5...no trauma here...all good..and I keep coming back for more;)

[becca74]

just bumping this up for any new homebirthers....

and also an opportunity for the person who voted 'traumatic' to tell their story....it is just as valid as everyone elses.....

[nats]

just bumping this up for any new homebirthers....

and also an opportunity for the person who voted 'traumatic' to tell their story....it is just as valid as everyone elses.....

Yes i'd like to hear the story of the person who voted 'traumatic' too.

[AM]

I am guessing a few people just voted traumatic for the heck of it.

My two were great, the first was hard as, ended up transferring, the second was totally straightfoward.:thumbsup:

[allysophia]

Maybe someone was "spiking" the poll?

Anti-home birth coallition perhaps? :detective:

[mum2my4]

Maybe someone was "spiking" the poll?

Anti-home birth coallition perhaps? :detective:

I would hope this is not the case.

Some people don't like to openly talk about birth trauma. So you can't rule it out as a legitimate vote by someone who does not want to talk about it.

[luckymama]

this thread and poll is great, thanks, i am looking forward to my homebirth even more :D

[becca74]

my suspicion is that the poll is spiked...as I know there are a few people who have a vendetta against me.

I wouldnt do it on other's polls - I guess that is because I am a grown up.

If I am wrong, I would encourage women to share, as unless your voice is heard, you will only hear the voices of women like myself who found homebirth to be superior to hospital birth.

[luckymama]

i too would like to hear the stories from the woman who say they didnt enjoy their homebirth experience, i am very interested

[BlueGin]

this thread and poll is great, thanks, i am looking forward to my homebirth even more :D

How exciting! I didn't realise you were having a homebirth! Looking forward to your wonderful birth story super soon now :hugs: (and pics of your beautiful boy too! ;))

[luckymama]

thanks Gin, BTW its going to be unassisted too :yes:

[luckymama]

my suspicion is that the poll is spiked...as I know there are a few people who have a vendetta against me.

I wouldnt do it on other's polls - I guess that is because I am a grown up.

If I am wrong, I would encourage women to share, as unless your voice is heard, you will only hear the voices of women like myself who found homebirth to be superior to hospital birth.

I am really sorry becca if someone has done this, it would be very immature of them :thumbsdown:

[becca74]

thanks Gin, BTW its going to be unassisted too :yes:


unassisted!! you birthing goddess :D

if I ever get a next time, I will try to go unassisted as long as possible, but with my IMW as back up.....I suppose i have been scarred too much by bad births....but saying that, if a hypothetical next birth went well, a hypothetical 6th birth would definately be unassisted all the way..... (dont let my husband see that I have just said that, he will have a fit at the thought of a 6th baby:laughing: !)

[Beany]

I've never read a negative homebirth experience so far so the poll results were a little surprising!

I hope whoever you 4 people are come forward and share your experience.

(She says optimistically, hoping that no one is so petty as to spike a poll like this ... )

[luckymama]

unassisted!! you birthing goddess :D

if I ever get a next time, I will try to go unassisted as long as possible, but with my IMW as back up.....I suppose i have been scarred too much by bad births....but saying that, if a hypothetical next birth went well, a hypothetical 6th birth would definately be unassisted all the way..... (dont let my husband see that I have just said that, he will have a fit at the thought of a 6th baby:laughing: !)

Yup, i am very confident in my bodies ability to birth our baby the way nature intended. (of course i am not opposed to going to the hosp IF needed)
Birthing goddess hehe, i like the sound of that :D

[luckymama]

I've never read a negative homebirth experience so far so the poll results were a little surprising!

I hope whoever you 4 people are come forward and share your experience.

(She says optimistically, hoping that no one is so petty as to spike a poll like this ... )

I too have never read a negative homebirth experience, so i am very curious to see if this is real poll results

[BlueGin]

Unassisted will be awesome, definitely agree with the 'birthing godess' bit :thumbsup:

I wonder if anyone would spike the poll? I'm not sure how many bubhubbers have homebirthed, so don't know if the numbers stack up.
I do think though that someone who has had a traumatic experience may not want to share, though it seems they'd have to for the poll to be believed!

[luckymama]

:D :D :D


Yes it does seem silly that they would say it was a bad experience but not share why. I have only ever heard good things, and hey if something bad happened to someone at their homebirth, i would sure like to know :fingerscrossed:

[mum2my4]

my suspicion is that the poll is spiked...as I know there are a few people who have a vendetta against me.



I think it's really sad to see stuff like this, especially when all you are trying to do is educate women.

[JATS]

I think assuming it's not a serious vote is a bit wrong. :shame:

I do personally know a woman who regretted her home birth. Traumatised her so much she opted for an elective c/s for her second child and raves about how much better it was than her homebirth.

[becca74]

5 women on bubhub who have been totally traumatised by homebirth. None of whom want to share.


Interesting.


Women traumatised by hospy birth are willing to share, as we see over in the Birth Trauma section of Bubhub.


Wonder why women who have been traumatised by planned homebirth feel they must mute themselves? And quite coincidentally, they all show up in one day. We have had 4 votes today alone. smells a bit fishy.


And I think they should speak for themselves. I have never personally met a woman traumatised by planned homebirth, but on the other hand, pretty much every 2nd woman I meet who has birthed in hospy seems to have had anywhere between a bad right through to a traumatic experience.....

I have only heard a couple of stories of a woman traumatised by homebirth -one chose FREEBIRTH the next time, so it obviously never pushed her back into the hospy setting. The other story I heard, was because the woman hadnt educated herself about birth. For her 2nd birth she studied the 'Pink Kit', the light bulbs went off in her mind, and she went on to have an awesome birth experience.

That is the closest I have got to hearing about it.

Please women, dont be afraid.....you might help someone.....

Unless you dont care for helping other women? That is a true shame.

[Pixie]

wow I read through the whole thread hoping to read about the traumatic homebirth. Well.....speak up we want to hear :)

[Lirael]

good to see lots of positivity :) who has a vendetta :confused:

[Beany]

Okay, I know of women (my aunts) that were traumatised by free births. They lived in rural Asia, no hospital close enough to get to, no medical persons around whatsoever.

I was 9 when I was over for a visit and one of them gave birth. I wasn't allowed into the room but I didn't need to be to know things were pretty damned bad in there.

The mother was in terrible shape at the end of it and doctors had to come by and put her on a drip. The baby wasn't in great shape either and survived for only 3 months.

I know that given the option she would have birthed in a hospital. My mother gave birth to her first lot at home - there was no other choice. When she got to England, she had me and my brother in hospital and wouldn't have suggested otherwise for anyone else.

[Beany]

PS: just so you all know, I didn't vote :no:

[Tam-I-Am]

It is a real shame if people are spiking the poll, Becca. It would be nice to get a true indication...

I wonder if you could start another poll, but this time tick the option to make it public - that way we will actually know who ticks what box...

That might actually promote some really good discussion, if, in fact, people have experienced traumatic home/free birth, and are willing to speak about it :)

(PM me if you want/need to!)

[BlueGin]

do you really think you know people on the hub who would spike the poll becca? If so, maybe ask them to do a 'print screen' with the poll showing to see if/how they voted... :laughing: ;) :devil6:

[luckymama]

It is a real shame if people are spiking the poll, Becca. It would be nice to get a true indication...

I wonder if you could start another poll, but this time tick the option to make it public - that way we will actually know who ticks what box...

That might actually promote some really good discussion, if, in fact, people have experienced traumatic home/free birth, and are willing to speak about it :)

(PM me if you want/need to!)

yeah i reakon start another but public poll becca, so you get a true response this time.

[becca74]

okay, will can this poll,and make another public one.

it is such a shame, as i hope it doesnt detract from people being honest.

Seems it is very difficult to get a true picture either way, but at least we wont get spiked!

5 in one day is very suspicious. This poll has been up for months, and they all decided to vote today, except for 1 who voted when I first put the poll up.

[Tam-I-Am]

Given that Becca has now started a new poll, I'm closing this thread. Thanks to all who participated in a genuine and positive fashion, and here (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=94287) is the link to the new poll if you'd like to help her out and vote :)