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*munchkin*
28-11-2006, 23:34
Well, my partner (now ex), Mr "I'm moving to Coober Pedy with or without you", has left today, after months of agony and pain. Finally. I thought I would just feel relief, but I feel such a mix of emotions. He was SO nice to me during the last 2 weeks, that we got back to a place where I could actually see why I had loved him in the beginning. Which made it even harder when it came time for him to leave. I wish he'd just been an ****hole, like he was before that, so then I could just detest him, and not miss him like I do this minute. And then I am angry at myself for missing a man who chose to move 1500km away from his 4 month old beautiful, happy, sweet daughter. I guess it's just hard tonight, as the house is quiet and empty. Life will look brighter tomorrow.

HAve to share the most ridiculous thing he said to me. As he is about to hop in his car to drive 1500 kilometres away from me and DD, he says "I think if they were writing a book on our lives, only the first 2 chapters have been written. I like to think there are more chapters to come, and that once I get this out of my system we will one day have more children and the fairytale wedding. I can't imagine being with anyone but you." :eek: :banghead: I couldn't speak, I was sooooo stunned and horrified and incredulous. The man has reached new heights of delusion, to think he can "get this out of his system" (which he's had 44 years to do already...) and then come back to me and DD and live happily ever after!!!!!!!!! WHAT THE???????? I went to see my counsellor after this and he said "Pretend your life is a movie, and turn down volume on the 'sound track'. Just watch the actions and you will see the truth". Good advice.

The butt-head then had the hide to send me a text message tonight telling me he misses us already!! He truly lives in a parallel universe.

Anyway, I have no doubt that me and DD are better off without him in our day to day lives. Bless Bub Hub for providing a forum for venting. On-line therapy for free!!!

Shelleyt
28-11-2006, 23:44
:laughing: thats men for ya!! expect you to sit at home and wait for him!! unbelieveable :rolleyes:

Sounds like you are much better off without him! Big :hugs: for your first night as a single mum :hugs:

kirstenriley
28-11-2006, 23:45
what..he thinks you are just going to sit there waiting for him and kiss his feet if he decides to come back???? The nerve of the man!!

sorry...

anyway :hugs: to you

BlueEyedGirl
28-11-2006, 23:51
BIG HUGS :hugs:

:eek: My eyes almost fell out of my head when I read that! lol

Have to agree with Shellyt.

Hope the night is not too bad for you:hugs:

DQ
28-11-2006, 23:53
:hugs: :hugs: to you!!!

You are strong, brave and have a beautiful DD to share your life with.

Good on you!!!! We are all here to vent at when need be!! :thumbsup:

mum2littleman
28-11-2006, 23:56
sending u hugs:hugs: just think of it as i do- we get 2 times the amount of hugs than anyone else..

keep a smile on ur face, u are a strong woman..:)

mum2charli
29-11-2006, 00:00
:hugs: Sending you hugs and thinking of you! Hope your first night isn't too bad. You are an amazing mum and your DD is so lucky to have you to share her life with :hugs: Hope the nights get easier for you.

3times
29-11-2006, 00:03
i am so sorry it didn't work out, but hey if he expects u to wait 4 him I say walk away....... hold ur head high make a life 4 urself and enjoy dd

*munchkin*
29-11-2006, 00:18
Thanks Goils! It's nice to know there are others out there burning the midnight oil. With Bub Hub, you're never really alone.

pookiesossige
29-11-2006, 10:37
WT? Is his ego sooo out of control that he really thinks you'll be together with him once he 'has this out of his system'?

I have to ask though- are you a single mumma or are you still with him while he's away? Are you going to get back with him when he comes back looking to be with you? Does he see himeself having a relationship with someone else while he is away- is this part of what he has to 'get out of his system'? I'm sorry, I was just wondering- a bit confused!

You're right, this place is full of support :yes: Here's a :hugs: from me- you sound like a strong chick and it's sad that your DD's father has decided he doesn't want a part in her precious young life :(

*munchkin*
29-11-2006, 23:44
I have to ask though- are you a single mumma or are you still with him while he's away? Are you going to get back with him when he comes back looking to be with you? Does he see himeself having a relationship with someone else while he is away- is this part of what he has to 'get out of his system'? I'm sorry, I was just wondering- a bit confused!

:(

:eek: Oh NO NO NOOOOOO!!!!! I am a single mumma through and through. There is no way on this earth I would ever get back with him, ever ever ever. He has chosen to leave our DD at 4 months of age, and also me, and that sealed it for me. No second chances here. I don't want a man in my or DD's life that could up and leave us so completely, and so easily. It might be different if our relationship just wasn't working and he moved out to somewhere close by where he could still see DD. But he has actually put living in a particular place far far away above DD and me. What a loooooser.

You have to laugh at times like this, so here's a poem for him......
Gooood-bye sweet sweet Loo-ooser,
As you became known when you did choose-a
Life in Coober Pedy over Emily and I,
So drive carefully...wouldn't want you to die :devil6:

Ha Ha...just kidding about the last line...really:D

motherlylove
29-11-2006, 23:49
Surround yourself with friends for the first week it willl get easier

Mum2Bug
29-11-2006, 23:50
Sending you lots of :hugs: hun. You have been through so much lately in regards to this and its great to see you stand up and wave him off with no regrets.

We are always here to support you!