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Mamaduke
28-11-2006, 19:30
Christmas time is almost upon us and I started thinking about the 'wonderful:rolleyes: ' Christmas' I've had with the in-laws...it's so strange, your world (when you get married), is engulfed by what can sometimes be, very very odd people who are now related to you and their even more peculiar holiday rituals...let me share a post I made about a year ago...

Here we go again.
Christmas is coming and please don't get me wrong, since having the kids Christmas has regained all of it's fun and excitement that it had when I was a child, but it's the dreaded trip to the in laws which has me feeling like a vent!
Every year it's the same thing - Christmas Eve is spent at one of the family members' houses. A couple of years ago our son fell as he got out of the bath and split his lip, DH called and said we were running late because we couldn't stop the bleeding - laughter was all he got from the other end...yes, a child falling and bleeding can be misconstrued as funny I guess!!! :rolleyes:
When we got there everyone was waiting impatiently to begin the yearly ritual of 'funny ha ha' Christmas (no one else in the family knows my name for it)
This is when you buy something for a selected member of the family, and it must be funny. These are not funny people.
I got a toy iron because I don't like ironing (hilarious I know), the next year I got a can of Preen (ohhh it just gets funnier!)
Also, the table is always set with about 20 lit candles and lollies at my children's height - one year DS took a bite of a chocolate only to realise he didn't want it. He then went to give it to his grandfather (Monty Burns) who wouldn't eat it because DS had taken a bite out of it!
I assured him that he'd had all of his shots!
Then comes the riveting part of the evening...
SIL (the Ice princess) and her husband (the toad) do a skit!
Yes, my toddlers are told to be quiet while we listen to a story that the princess and the toad have written about Christmas - can't really remember what the last one was about but I did hear the word 'elves' mentioned several times and I know it went for about 20 minutes!
Then we have the congratulatory speeches by Monty Burns on what wonderful writers the princess and the toad are and how lucky we are to have two such gifted people in our family!
Then we all gather around and marvel at the princess and toad's other amazing creation - their c*cker spaniel.
Well isn't he just fabulous (you know he writes cards to 'Grandma' and 'Grandpa')...he is their baby!
When it comes time to eat something my kids are placed at the other end of the table to me with all sorts of plastic sheeting under them...while that marvelous little creature (the c*cker spaniel) is licking the plates in the dishwasher!!!!
All the fun and frivolity over, we then have to turn up again on Christmas Day after having lunch with my family!
My family isn't perfect but the one thing that happens is...the babies of the family are everything!
We leave a place where our kids are centre of attention to go to 'the bunker'.
Everything is always 'picture perfect' but no no no no don't touch...
One year we walked in and everyone virtually ignored us - ignore me okay, but ignore my kids - bye bye!
DH went over to Monty to tell him that our kids were there and Monty replied "I'll go to them in my own time" WHAT THE....
Then comes present time...the kids get great presents and the camera comes out to take the 'happy snaps' but let's see how far we can shove mum out of the picture - these kids will grow up and think I never spent Christmas at Grandma's with them!
Then comes my present...oh make sure all of the adults are seated at the table with full attention on me...open it up - thanks, it's a pair of leopard print pj's, oh and thanks size 28!!!
(that year was really hurtful, after I'd spent alot of time trying to find a book I'd heard 'smother-in-law' mention that she wanted)
Hurt has now turned to hate...
I love my DH to death but how can I be expected to endure this 'holiday hell' every year - & I can't even say "well, they're great with the kids"
AAAAAARRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHH

'Tis the season to be jolly fa la la la la la la la ... :banghead:

Billy
28-11-2006, 19:46
:eek: Oh geez MD!!! Golly you need these :hugs: and I think one of these :wizard: wouldn't go astray either...

My DH's family have some strange traditions too- but I bow down before you now as you seem to have the WORST for holiday dramas...

Oh boy more :hugs: for you... xoxoxox

Blessed Mum
28-11-2006, 19:50
Mamaduke - I remember that post!!! It bought a tear to my eye mainly because you described it all so well I could see it playing out as you went along:)

So are you looking forward to this year?

Mamaduke
28-11-2006, 19:55
So are you looking forward to this year?
Well...yes and no...she's (MIL) been behaving since I had my little chat with her but over the last week or so little facets of her personality that I despise are slowly but surely creeping back in.

Manxie
28-11-2006, 20:00
:laughing: :laughing: :laughing:

I'm sorry but that is just the funniest thing I have read in a long time...... *wipes the tears from her eyes*

OMG, OMG, please please can you video the skit for me? I think you have just found the cure for for my blues:laughing:

I will never, ever complain about christmas with the outlaws again (well not for a couple of days anyway)

kristy J
28-11-2006, 20:06
Oh man do i feel for you.:hugs:

i have monster in laws too. though i put my foot down and now we only see them every 3-4 years. (2weeks before christmas for a quick dinner for the other years)

Try to discuss this with your hubby.

I told my hubby i married him not his family.
and it worked. we see his family all year christmas is our time, a time for love not a time for being nice because you have to.

Good luck hope you enjoy you christmas:tree:

Oh c*ap this year is with the monster in laws:barf:

spiritedfamily
29-11-2006, 00:41
I told my hubby i married him not his family.
and it worked. we see his family all year christmas is our time, a time for love not a time for being nice because you have to.

I sooooooooo wish we could do this...there is so much pressure to be everywhere and all we want is to make our christmas with our growing family...no stress, no expectations and no negative interactions. Every Christmas I just want peace...I don't care about presents, I want everyone to be kind,considerate, respectful, loving and compassionate towrads each other.

MD - I can relate to your post. Its been a very teary week for me...cause Christmas is looming and I'm so dreading the in-laws:crying:

Ana Gram
29-11-2006, 09:30
I am celebrating that I don't have to spend another Xmas with the ex's family!!!

bronny-jane
29-11-2006, 09:37
:eek: what kind of person writes a skit...with the exception of kids:laughing:

how do you keep a straight face.:D

bechope
29-11-2006, 09:52
You poor girl... I am lucky i get on really well with my in-laws. Hope all goes well this christmas... :hugs:

SassyDiva
29-11-2006, 10:07
You poor thing..... Xmas Eve and Xmas Day.... how do you do it.. I'd be an alcoholic by now :D

I think they sound so rude... and your SIL & BIL sound soooo overindulged. You must feel deflated when you leave..

I'd be having a word to DH and suggesting you start your own Xmas traditions of staying home as a family unit on Christmas Eve... A few hours on the actual day is more than enough.. and if all else fails..... GO THE EGG NOG :xmas:

Beany
29-11-2006, 22:49
Mamaduke: I really think SubaruForestermum was really onto something on that other thread ... This year, your "funny ha ha" present to your mother in law could be a nice framed picture of you on your wedding day :D

Have a camera handy for when she opens it and you'll have next year's present sorted too!

babylover111
29-11-2006, 22:53
Oh my god, you must have a hell of a lot of patience to endure that!

Also you're quite a talented storyteller, I can almost imagine how much pain you were in!

razzle
29-11-2006, 22:58
Holey moley! I thought my family was weird....

I do like the sound of Beany's gift idea though!!

pegasus
30-11-2006, 00:47
I, too remember this post.

:fingerscrossed: this year has some improvements added to it.

I've (stupidly - who knows?) decided to have Christmas at our house this year so I can have my OTT family alongside my hubby's totally opposite family. It seems no matter what I do I tread on toes, so I figured - better to do it on my turf.

Let us know how this year goes.:party:

icugal
30-11-2006, 08:56
There is definately something to be said about in-laws that live on the other side of the world !!!

Thank goodness my DF is a pom !! (actually, I think my in-laws are pretty good people !!)