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bec05
27-11-2006, 09:42
Hi - now I know this is nothing new - a toddler who resists all efforts to put her to bed - but I just wondered if anyone had any good suggestions for us as we're all going crazy!! Our daughter (who has never been a great sleeper) is now only having 1 sleep a day (usually late morning) and starts the day at 5 or earlier so we try to get her in bed at a decent time (around 7) but she resists EVERY naptime and EVERY bedtime - it usually takes at least 40 minutes and often more than an hour to get her to sleep, even when she's really tired. We have a consistent bedtime routine (dinner, bath, quiet play, music, books, breast) but then she gets in the cot and starts playing, throwing the teddies on the floor, laughing, talking, or standing up and yelling for me to pick her up and take her out again. It doesn't seem to matter how tired she is, she just doesn't want to go to sleep! The same happens for the day naps. A couple of times I have given up and said 'ok, maybe you're just not tired enough, so we'll go somewhere and you can sleep later' and then she's asleep within 1 second in the car. Other times I have got so angry and fed up with lying by her cot for so long that I've walked out to have a breather but then she screams hysterically until I return. I worry about my 'inconsistency' but am also totally opposed to 'cry it out' approaches because it seems more about breaking their will than anything else. And yes she CAN and does go to sleep by herself (without breast or bottle or rocking or anything - just my company) - she just doesn't want to. Help!

PinkBinkie
28-11-2006, 14:18
Hi Bec
My daughter went through a similar thing at 15-16mths. She's now 17 mths and in a good sleep routine. She started waking at 5am when my hubby got up to go to work. She just wanted daddy and was so grumpy all morning until she'd have a nap at 10am but only for an hour or so. Come 3pm she would be grumpy again and so it was a really long afternoon! I'd get up with my dh and get a bottle ready, change her nappy and put her back to bed. She'd sleep til 7 or 7.30am and wake up happy. After a few days I stopped going in to her and my dh would just close her door. She eventually stopped waking at 5 :yelclap:

She now has one good nap a day. The same routine everyday:
wake up 7ish
lunch 12
nap 12.30-1
wake 2.30 (usually 2 hour nap)
bed 7.30-8

However we cheat a little as she does go to bed with a bottle! And if she cries after that I just ignore her. The door is closed and she eventually goes to sleep. I know she's tired and as long as she's comfortable there's no reason to get her up.

Good luck :fingerscrossed: