Down syndrome

[v8mum]

:crying: Hi. Well i had my 3rd mc on 14th sept. I was 12wk and had no heartbeat at my scan. I was devastated. My 1st at 6wk and 2nd at 51/2wk. In between i had all the tests you can think of to see if there was a prob anywhere. Evrythg fine. My dh and i even had chromosone tests done. All coming back fine. My first 2 mc ran there course but the 3rd being so far along my doc booked me in for curette and told me that he would do tests on the baby. 2wks ago i found out that i lost this baby because he had down syndrome. I was a mess. It was for the best i thought but then i told the doctor i that we were going to start trying again. He then informed me that because i had had a baby with an abnormality then i was at a very high risk of my next baby having this. Has anyone else ever had this happen to them. We have decided not to try again for fear of this happening. I have been on the ivf sites and found that you can go through ivf and before they put the embryo back in they can do certain tests for abnormalitys. It sounds worth talking to someone. Has anyone else heard of this or known anyone that has had it done? Thankyou. :)

[reAllytee]

OMG !!!
I cant even believe that doctor :mad:

Our lovely Lunar will be along soon enough im sure & she can give you more info. Her eldest girl has Downs, she is gorgeous btw ! She had her when she was young too so you dont have to be over a specific age to automatically have a Downs baby. Anyways she has since had another little girl who is also gorgeous eheh but she doesnt have Downs.

Every one of us takes a risk when we fall pg.

[Hokey Pokey]

I am so sorry :hugs:

[jess_live_die]

I am so sorry :hugs:

omg im so sorry 2

[JuniorMinime]

V8 mum my heart goes out to you. I'm giving you loys of :hugs:

I was told at 12wks that my Ethan might have downs but tests later proved that it wasn't the case. I have heard of other people having a downs baby and then going on to have healthy ones too.

My DF and I decided that when I was preg with Angel we weren't going to have a 12wk scan cause if it was going to have downs then we would of kept her anyway. She decided to go to heaven and play with her brother so that was made for us, but there was no defect for here either.

Just go with the flow and go with your gut is all I can say. Find out from other Drs or even contact your local Downs Syndrome centre maybe.

I hope you will be ok and feel free to pm me anytime.

[Lunar]

I am sorry for the loss of your sweet angel.

As Ally said, my darling has Down syndrome (she's my avatar) she is a very happy healthy 4yo. the only are she is really delayed is her speech and that is coming along well now.

I was placed at a higher risk as I have Emily, but when I had the nuchal scan with Kailah (DD#2) the results came back as 1:4700 or something like that, so I was then classed as low risk for d/s.

She was born without d/s of course and is healthy like her sister.

What ppl don't understand or know and even Dr's are guilty of this, is that d/s is NOT heriditary. Just because you have one child with d/s you are really at no greater risk of having another. In fact, out of all the ppl I know and know OF, I only know of 1 couple that have 2 childrean with d/s. That is out of hundreds of families!
PLease, if there is anything that I can help you with, please do not hesitate to pm me.

Once again, I am sorry your angel didn't make it.:hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[AimeeB]

:hugs: Sorry for your loss.
A family member of my step dads had already had a son and her second DS was born with Downs Syndrome but she then went on to have DS3 who did not have Downs Syndrome.I don't think as this was the case for you this time that it means it will happen again.

[Tea Lady]

I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage V8mum. :hugs: I can't imagine how hard it would be to have 3 (my one was bad enough :crying: ).

If I were you I would definitely try to see a genetic counsellor about your risks for any future children. If you have had chromosome testing done and it showed nothing unusual, I don't think you would have a higher than normal chance of having another baby with a genetic abnormality. I'm not an expert on this but several of my immediate family are genetic carriers of Downs so I know a bit about it, but obviously you'd be better off talking to someone who's up on all the research.

Once again :hugs: :hugs:

[little mermaid]

Sorry about your loss. My b/f had twins 18 months ago and had all the tests and what not while she was pregnant and they all came back clear. Anyway one of the twins was born with Down Syndrome which was a huge shock for everyone at the time and the other one was fine. Well 18 months on and they are both happy healthy little boys. The one with DS is a bit behind the other one, but is not doing doing too badly as he is now starting to crawl and just starting to pull himself up to his knees on furniture.

Any way the p[oint to my story was she said if she was given the choice and had known that there was a problem even if it had been a single birth it would have not changed a thing, and there would not have evn been a decision to make as he has bought so much love and joy into their lives and everyone elses.

[v8mum]

Thankyou so much to you all, especially lunar, for opening up my eyes and showing me the hope. I don't think that i have gotten over the shock of it all yet and now realise that i should probably talk to someone else about this. The ob that i had through it all was so understanding and helpful until the day he told me of my test results and that was the length of the phone conversation. He cut me short whether he was too busy at the time i don't know. I know that i will never fully understand any of it and why it happened but to be able to talk to you guys on here puts life back into prospectus and gives me hope. Thankyou again. :hugs:

[sam's mum]

I had a similar story to you. No heartbeat at 14 weeks and then the d&c. They checked the baby and told me that she had downs along with a whole heap of other medical problems including heart defects. My doctor told me that just because I had one downs baby, it didn't make much of a difference to my chances of having another because it isn't a hereditary thing. I conceived my DS a month later and he is just perfect (if about half sized). If you are worried, you can get the nuchal scans done.

Good luck.