Having to give up b/f ? - need advice

[Issey]

My 11 month old is breast fed evening and morning. He has started getting teeth and now doesn't want solids when I am around :banghead: , just wants b/f. If he is being looked after at daycare or his Dad he is fine, it is only when I am around.

I understand it is important that he eat solids so am thinking I should wean him off completely. Last night I just gave him a bottle before bed but he woke a couple of hours later and I gave in to him. He doesn't usually wake.

The other issue is that DH blames or intimacy issues on b/f as my boobs have been off limits since b/f.

I don't really want to give up b/f as enjoy the bond, however with these two factors I am thinking that I should :crying: . Once I drop the night feed how to you stop completely so your body adjusts :confused: . I try not to b/f during the day as I work part-time that is why I stopped those feeds initially.

Any of your thoughts would be appreciated.:)

[SilverStarfish]

:hugs: Tough situation.

My first thoughts are if you are still enjoying bf-ing and you bubba is eating well at daycare etc, then go for it.

Tell DH to go stick his head in the oven.... There is much more to your body than your boobs!

Its your call in the end, but I know how guilty I'd end up feeling if I weaned DD just to suit DH.

Hope you can working something out that everyone can live with :)

[*Chels*]

:hugs: Im in the same situation.MY SON IS 13 months and still b/f.I work part-time,and on those days hes home with daddy and goes 6,7,8 hours without booby.yesterday I was home and he had a feed in morning then we were out all day and he didnt start grizzling for boob til after 4pm.
Usually if Im home he will frequently snack on boob.Also when he is sick he wont eat much-just boob
people tell me I should wean him,but hes obviously not ready and neither am I.
If youre still comfortable feeding him-dont stop!!Theres no time limit on how long you should feed him.
Good luck:hugs:

[nut]

:hugs:
Really hard decisions.

I have to agree with Faeml that weaning your litle one in order to please your Dh sounds like a recipe for guilt, and possibly even relationship problems later on if you resent him for the guilt IYKWIM.

I still BF my 2yo DS, and he has cut down to 1-2 times a day and my boobs have come back in on the action a little bit:o . Maybe just giving your body a little more time will give your breasts back those lovin' feelings. Honestly though, there are so many other areas for your DH to focus on that he really shouldn't be too put out.

You really just don't sound ready to wean quite yet. Unless you really feel 100% at peace with weaning I would advise you against it. It is a once only offer in a way, just one chance to feed your baby in this way.

[ShadyCharacter]

I understand it is important that he eat solids so am thinking I should wean him off completely.
At 11 months, solids are not really important at all. Many exclusively breastfed babies don't really start eating a lot on the solids front until they are 18 months or so.

My son did exactly the same, he would eat like a champ at daycare or when I wasn't around, but not much at all if I was around. Around 18 - 20 months things just 'clicked' for him and he started eating more. That said, he is now 25 months old and still has days where he breastfeeds more than he eats. He is perfectly healthy :)

[Rainbowbrite]

At 11 months, solids are not really important at all. Many exclusively breastfed babies don't really start eating a lot on the solids front until they are 18 months or so.

Thats my daughter now. At 18months, she would much prefer to bf than "eat" so i just go with the flow. She's never been looked after by anyone else though, so dont know how she'd go with food if she had no choice.

If your not ready to stop feeding dont. Its between you & bub if you bf or not.

[Issey]

At 11 months, solids are not really important at all. Many exclusively breastfed babies don't really start eating a lot on the solids front until they are 18 months or so.


I didn't know that about b/f v's solids.

Thanks for all your thoughts on the matter.

I realy am not ready to give up b/f. You are right I only have one shot at it with DS.

I was even sneaking b/f to my DS yesterday because I didn't want DH to say anything about it. :(

I told DH that I will continue whilst DS is teething as he wants it for comfort. He is okay with that but still wants me to himself :rolleyes: .

[nut]

Good on ya!:thumbsup: