Surprise?

[*Sal*]

I was interested to know how many mums out there found out the sex of their baby at the 19 week ultrasound?

There are so few GENUINE surprises in life and I waited until my babies were born until I found out and will do the same with this one.

If you found out, did you regret "spoiling the surprise". And why did you find out, was it because you just had to buy pink or blue clothes? or just because the technology is available. I am feeling a bit left out of another thread I regularly post to, as everyone else seems to be finding out now or soon will be.

Would love to hear your thoughts.

[ThomasMum]

Hi Sally,

I'm an old fashion. Plus I like surprises. So we didnt find out about the gender of our bub until the day he was born! :D

And oh boy what a FLAMING FANTASTIC suprise it was!!!

:D

[Maxs_MumMy]

Hi,

I found out at my 19 week scan cause i knew i could with the Technology and because im not a huge fan of surprises..i wanted to know so the whole setting up babies room, clothes etc was easier for colours.

Also i think for me personally it was because i Really wanted a girl and wanted to know if it was or not...as if it wasnt it gave me 6mths or so to get used to the idea of a boy and boys names etc...When i did go and have the scan they said it was a boy and i sat in the waiting room in tears though when i saw Max when he was born im glad i had him and not a girl now..so it gave me time.

[Miaow]

I found out the sex at the 20 week U/S and also asked a radiologist at a 30week one i had to confirm it. In a way it made things easier knowing the sex ie colours etc also names...

Only about 3 weeks to find out if they were correct though ;)

[carls]

:) Hi Sally

There was never any doubt in my mind that I wanted to find out the sex. I'm a shopaholic and it was so frustrating just buying lemon, green and white right up until I found out!

That wasnt the only reason though - I've never been a huge girly girl and have always had more male friends than female friends. Prissy 'look at me' girls have always driven me insane, and the last thing I wanted was a girl, all dressed up in fairy outfits and havent pink everything etc (I know thats stereotyped!). I really wanted a boy, and even started buying boy nappies before I knew what I was having!!

So when I found out it was a boy I was over the moon and could go ahead buying the cute little boy clothes and stuff!

I hate surprises (the worst thing anyone could do is to buy me a xmas present without asking me what I want first!) so there was never any regret about leaving it as a surprise.

But having said that, thats just me! Some people love surprises and I think if you do and are happy to do what you can with the nursery and clothes without knowing, go for it! It would be a fantastic surprise. Just another thing to look forward to!

[talon]

i found out - i think it was mainly so i could prepare myself for everything. Especially being my first i wanted to make sure i had everything how i wanted it for my baby. also, it made buying all the teeny tiny clothers really fun. and narrowed down on choosing a suitable name. they were my only reasons really.

my DH doesn't want to find out if we have another one but i don't know if i will be able to NOT know for that long! :D

[tickle]

We found out with our first and we will with this one too (only 6 weeks till the scan :D ) I can't wait!! We are very impatient people and I also felt it was a half way reward for myself! It would be really strange and impossible for me not to find out. I just hope they don't get it wrong!

[nemosmum]

As soon as I got preggies I had a gut feeling my bub was destined to be a boy.

DH really wanted to wait to find out but I really wanted to confirm my feelings about our bub. After many long discussions we decided to wait to find out.

However at the 20week ultrasound DH saw DS's penis and couldnt stop beaming with pride LOL :D

It was later confirmed at our 30 week 4D one as well as the fact that we could see EVERYTHING, it was a very in depth scan :eek:

I am very happy we found out as we called DS by his name the whole 9 months and I just felt more connected to him, by being able to call him by his name etc before he was born.

I have never been big on suprises anyway and I too love the buying clothes, decorating the nursery and all that stuff, very materialistic of me I know :p

[poshBecks]

We are having a surprise! Dh wont let me find out! He thinks I'll spend too much $$ & what if they get it wrong!! LOL It would probably happen to me!!

Beck
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Mum of.....
Connor 18mths
Bump, due Dec

[Taddy]

We found out the sex of our baby at the 19 week scan, that week was a really hard week for us. We needed something to cheer us up. My fiance's dad had passed away the week before and he was looking forward to meeting his grandchild. I always wanted a girl but either way it did not bother me one bit. Finding out the sex was a lot easier to prepare ourselves for the arrival. For the next baby we aren't wanting to find out the sex. We will let it be a surprise.
As we have a girls name chosen already but still stuck on another boys name.

Good Luck to whatever you decide!

[jamb]

I found out probably just because you can. Glad I did as I REALLY wanted a girl and cried for days when i was told it was a boy. It prepared me mentally and i wonder if i hadnt whether i may have not bonded as well due to my overwhelming desire to have a girl.

I also think that it is still a surprise regardless of whether or not you know what sex it is. It was still surprise to see who he looked like and his personality still surprises me everyday- a boofhead boy with an amazing gentle caring side.

And labour was a pretty big surprise too......

[Foxymoron]

I'm finding out purely so I can sort out boy or girl baby clothes, of which I have both. It'll still be a surprise when I find out :D and it's up to the baby to be in the right position, otherwise I'll be in the dark till the birth anyway. I didn't find out with my first, and then with my 3rd, lucky I was happy to know because the sonographer told me without being asked! I have one boy and two girls so I will be blissfully happy no matter what this lil one is.

[H&B'sMum]

We didn't find out. We wanted the surprise and it drove our families nuts too!!!!!!!!! It made the phone call to the family even more special being able to tell them they had a grandson/nephew. Everyone was waiting on tender hooks and it made Harry's birth even more special.
When we fall again we think we will wait again and find out at the end.

[*Sal*]

I agree with the phone call part after the baby is born. It's so nice to say guess what "It's a girl!" or "It's a boy!" But I know some people who just found out for themselves and kept it a secret from everyone else - that would be too hard for me though.

Has anyone found out, then bought lots of pink clothes and had a boy instead?

[melfunction]

We found out because we couldn't miss it on scan. Needless to say it was a boy....

[Rainbowbrite]

We found out at the 19week scan, the suspense up to then almost killed us. I confirmed it at 36 weeks. My family didn't want to know. I think its still a suprise if you find out, and you get a 2nd surprise when bub is born and its confirmed :D

BUT>...... even though we found out i could not bring myself to wash the pink things, just in case. I'd do it again to :)

RB

[carls]

My ultrasound lady said " your baby has a good sized, symmetrical brain", and then when it came time to find out the sex, we saw the willy and she said "and you're definitely having a boy!" It looked so big!

I thought "it cant be - a boy with a brain AND a penis?" :p

[Trix]

I'll be finding out tomorrow (hopefully!).

Firstly cos I want my surprise now!!!

Secondly cos my hubby has his heart set on a boy - and we want him to be prepared if it is a girl. (he'd still love a girl, he just would prefer the first born to be a boy, typical male? perhaps a macho thing?!).

Thirdly, I want to go shopping and have everything prepared!! That is just the way I am.

Can't wait!!!

[nemosmum]

I've actually heard that men with high testosterone(sp) are more likely to have girls. can any one confirm or deny this rumour :p
When I told this to DH after we found out we were having a boy he denied it for weeks (another macho thing LOL)

[RavenSkies]

I couldn't wait to find out the sex.I felt sure I was having a boy,but I was really hoping for a girl,and luckily it was. :D I had around 6 ultrasounds throughout my pregnancy and I made them check each time to make sure it was a girl.
I also wanted to find out so I could start buying things in the right colour,fix up the nursery etc,and like mummajack said,it's still a lovely suprise anyway,because you get to see what your beautiful bub looks like for the first time.

[kimmy]

hi found out what i was haveing with my first & tried to find out with my second but they couldnt be sure so i went through pregnant thinking i was haveing a boy. it was a nice sirprise when i had a girl....

[Lucybelle]

Your right orlandosmum cos girl type swimmers are a lot stronger than boy ones - have a look at the the QLD ironmen blokes - ie Grant Kenny etc and they ALL have girls. I think the theory is that they work their bodies so hard that the boy ones have a harder time with it.
Also why they say to *ahem* "do it" right on O time for a boy and a little before or after if you want a girl - cos they survive longer on average.

[csackett]

Dear CnC's Mum,

You are right. There are so few surprises in life. And really as long as the baby is healthy and happy that is all I care about. I have put on my birth plan for my DH to "find" out what sex the baby is ... I am getting so very excited at meetiung this bub - getting close now. :D

[lexi'smum]

I didnt find out what my DD was, I just couldnt, didnt want to know, the suspense was great, so many people couldnt believe I didnt find out though,people were always asking boy or girl?and me saying I dont know surprised them so much it was funny. And although I didnt know I truely believed she was a boy, and I talked to her like one, and even took all blue to the hospital!! Despite everyone saying it was a girl, I had convinced myself otherwise, I just wantd a boy so bad, so imagine my shock when they said its a girl!!! and a little disapointment, but I wouldnt change it for the world, and could not imagine it any other way!
maybe for the disapointment part it would of been good to know, but im so glad I didnt, plus that was such an incentive for me to push!! Just to find out what she was! But i love surprises! I can understand why people do find out though :)

[jaydensmum]

I waited until the big day to find out what i had. I totally agree with C 'n' C'smum there isnt many surprises in life these days. When my DS was born it was the best surprise ive ever had! :D

jaydensmum

[petster]

We didn't find out the sex of our bub - although we were VERY tempted and nearly caved in at the last minute.... I'm glad we didn't find out - DD was born by emergency caesarean, and the surprise was a sweetener for me after such a traumatic birth...

I always said I would find out the sex with #2, but I've changed my mind... I think I'll enjoy the suspense again... (Have to get pregnant again first though! ;) )

Cheers!

[JenNT]

I found out with my first, a girl.
With the second I had to know as i felt i was carrying a boy but the scan said girl.I couldn't imagine myself with 2 girls and it didn't feel right so i went with instinct and bought nothing.At 30 weeks i had a growth scan and found out bubby was a boy!

Last bub i didn't find out and it drove me nuts not knowing but the surprise was no different at birth then the other 2, i think what they look like and the overwhelming feeling of what your body created far outweighs whats between the legs. :cool:

It was a beautiful surprise finding out halfway and then being prepared with names, clothes etc . I definately enjoyed my first 2 pregnancies more knowing who was growing inside me than the last one. Weird I know and its hard to describe exactly what i mean. :confused: lol i need sleep!
Cheers Jen

DD Jaime 6
DS Ben 4
DS Lucas 7 weeks

[ladybug]

Hi Sally,

We didn't find out about the gender of our baby until the day she was born. We wanted to but she didn't . :D So we waited. It was very excited to wait.

cheers

[Milly]

Hi Sally!

We did not find out the sex of our first baby nor did we want to find out with this one either.

We are patient people and can wait for surprises and as the first experience with not finding out at the u/s was so good, we decided not to find out again and wait until the birth.

I like surprises. :D

[funnyfarm]

I didn't find out until my daughter was born, I wanted a surprise at the end of it all. But Hubby did find out at the 20 week ultrasound. I left the room and the lady told him. He was very good and never slipped up about it.

[Justin&Beckfirstbub]

Hi Sally,

We decided to find out for a couple of reasons -

1. because I wanted to start calling the baby by name and I thought it may help me bond with my belly (if that makes any sense?)

2. because I wanted to set the nursery up and buy all the clothes (I am an organising control freak!!!) and so much of the stuff in the shops is either pink or blue.

3. My family were all so excited and desparate to find out and I believe it has helped them to bond with him while is is still in my tummy floating away (they always say how is little Julian going and talk my belly)

I can understand the reasons for not finding out too and I believe it would be exciting to find out at the birth however that option was not for us. I just can't stand secrets!!!

We are very happy that we found out and now we just can't wait to hold, cuddle and love him!!

Beck :p

[Mala]

Hi Everyone,

With #1 we didn't want to find out. I had a strong feeling (I 'knew') I was having a girl, and I was right! :D

With #2 we went into the u/s saying, "We'll only find out if they ask us if we want to..." They didn't ask, so we neither did we.
I really wasn't sure either - no vibes one way or the other.
It wasn't until he was born that I realised I thought I was having another girl! :eek:
(I'm the eldest of 4 girls, so I guess that's where it stems from!?)
He was a boy! - And I couldn't believe it! I was absolutely astonished, and so, so proud.

So, now with #3, I want to know - we've had the beautiful surprise of a girl and a boy before...

But I NEED to know if I'm carrying a boy this time - because if I am, he seriously will not have a name! :confused: - We've got no ideas! This is a very tough subject!
DH doesn't want to know the sex, so I've told him he can leave the room when they tell me - He's happy with this, and knows that I won't tell him after.

Who knows - might be a girl yet!? ;)

Mala

[BubbleBelly]

I just had to find out! I was always the little kid unwrapping my xmas and birthday prezzies to sneak a peak!

Other than that i'm now going to be a single mum and i thought it would be better for financial reasons.

[Ky]

I didn't find out with either of my babies as I really didn't care what I ended up with!

I had a really strong feeling with my first that I was having a girl and was right.

I had the same feeling with my second and was in hospital with another girl who had been told that she was having a girl ... the funny thing was that we had both picked the same girls name!

A few weeks later she came to visit me in hospital with her brand new baby BOY! and I introduced her to my BOY!

Clothes etc weren't really a problem for me as both of my babies were clothes in a friends baby clothes and she had 3 boys! Well timed too ... I found out I was pg with Bella the day she had Max, the day I had Bella she found out she was pg with Aiden, the day she had Aiden I found out I was pg with Daniel, the day I had Daniel she found out she was pg with Mitchell ... needless to say, I avoided dh like the plague in the month coming up to Mitchell's birth - lol!

[drewid]

We chose not to find out. I was thrilled to be pregnant at last, it didn't matter whether it was a boy or girl.

Most of my family and friends thought I'd have a girl, but I was hoping hoping hoping for a boy and had a feeling I was. Lo and behold....I opened my eyes after he came out and saw boy bits! Big smile, then closed my eyes again :D

I agree that it would be nice to purpose-shop but we didn't have the money anyway! But I don't really believe in the whole blue for boys, pink for girls thing, so it didn't matter with decorating. Our bub got a lovely cream and grassy green nursery. I loooooved that room *sigh*

Oh, and I should add - my MIL keeps on buying clothes for Andrew like theres no tomorrow - we honestly only ever have to buy him singlets and socks! She keeps him well dressed! So its lucky that we HADN'T stocked up on clothes while preggers!

[Milly]

Also, not finding out can actually be cheaper as you are not gender purpose shopping. Besides the only gender specific stuff you need is clothes and if you want to be particular gender wise with the nursery. You don't need to know for anything else like carseats and prams etc. And rellies and friends will go crazy with the clothes after your baby's birth anyway, so you are hardly stuck for gender specific clothes after the birth. And also, you still can't buy too many clothes before the birth anyway, as you don't know what size your baby will be and they will grow at the rate of knots anyway. So buying a full wardrobe of gender specific baby clothes before your baby's birth is not really a money saving gain.

The other reasons it is cheaper, espcially if it is with your first and you are wanting/planning more, is that you do not have to redecorate if your child is of the opposite gender to your first. We are specualting that our second child will be a boy, but we do not need to repaint or redecorate as the room is ready to go. We love our nursery and so does our daughter. Beautiful green with funky bright colours. Also, with the unisex clothes she had as a newborn, they can go straight to number 2. So, it can be quite financially savvy not to find out. :D

[Mischief]

Hi Sally,

I know what you mean about feeling left out.

I know so many people who are preggers and more than half of them are finding out, or have found out. Some of them make you feel like you are an idiot for not finding out, and you are going to be a bad parent because of it.

I have been tempted to find out....mainly because of the...once you see your baby at that first scan....oh my goodess...you want to know EVERYTHING you can about them...the bonding is amazing.

We are not finding out though, been tempted, but hubby esp wants to have the supprise, and so do I. our families really wanted a suprise too, so we are quite firm about not knowing. :)

There are lots of cute little white and cream suits and things out there, and i guess i would sooner buy the gender specific stuff once Tiny is born....that way we will know what suits his or her personality. If its a girl...and i find out and buy tons of pink lace stuff....when she is born maybe she will be a non frills girl type of personality! :) etc.....

We cant hardly wait until we get to meet our new son or daughter though....its a thrilling time of life when you are pregnant. Steven and I are totally blown away by the closeness we feel for eachother and the protectivness for our Tiny little bub. We will be happy with either sex.

Good luck all mums to be....if you find out the sex, or choose not too....I really hope all of you have happy health babies!!!!!! :)

[*Sal*]

Yes I agree. I am buying everything in white too, so I can bleach it - bonus for me. Other people can buy the 'gender specific' clothing for bub after he/she is born anyway.

[Mischief]

Hey Sally!

Great bonus. I didnt think of it like that....white will be great for that reason, bleaching! One thing babies love to do is make a mess of their clothing! :) Anything that can be bleached is a wonderful bonus!

[madvoice]

I found out because I wanted to see if my hunch was correct and I was :)
My OB joked to DH that he could tell the sex by the way the brain was developed. Hubby believed him like the doofus men can be sometimes. I knew the OB was pulling his leg because I saw exactly what area he went to, to find out.

It also made it easier with naming but we like unisex names so if Raleigh had've been born a boy the name would've still been suitable :)

[TwoBlue]

Good on you for not finding out !!

With my first we didnt want to know but unfortunately a wrong move and a "well endowed" little boy meant it was quite obvious to us... :p Still we never had it 100% confirmed so there was always that "maybe that wasnt what we saw" kind of feeling which was annoying because i didnt feel confident enough to buy blue but also pretty confident NOT to buy pink (does that even make sense??) anyway it was nice to have it confirmed after his birth.

With this pregnancy i did find out because a similar thing happened (saw "something" ) and i couldnt stand that "oh we are pretty sure but not 100% sure" feeling again !! So we asked them at the end of the scan and "yes" it was another boy :)

Its been nice knowing because we have named him and bonded with him although we have not shared our news with any of our family yet....they can wait and get the surprise.

With our next i am hoping to not find out and to not "see" anything :rolleyes: