What do we do?

[SMBT]

Our friends just moved to Melbourne recently and have asked us to go down for their wedding next year, now we are really struggling with all our finances at the moment and can't seem to decided whether or not it would be worth paying all the money to go down. The only factor that is telling us yes, is that my hubby has been asked to be the best man. What do we do? Should we go and risk not being able to afford it and so borrowing more money against our house or credit card, or just leave it? What would you do????:(

[OopsieDaisy]

Look right into it, this day in age you can grab really cheap flights. Do you have friends/family that you can stay with?
Could you drive down and take a caravan with you, could be cheaper than a motel/hotel.
Or maybe just send hubbie along.

[aquarius]

tough one babe, my sympathies are with you! i agree, look into every single avenue you possibly can to get there on a budget as it obviously means a lot to your friends if they have asked your hubby to be best man. but in the end, if you really can't afford it without going into way more debt, tell your friends the truth, if they are good friends they will understand. they may even offer to chip in some money to help you out, especially since your hubby is going to be best man - i paid for some of my bridesmaid's expenses coz she was in a similar financial situation to you. good luck and hope you can make it to the wedding xx

[spoon]

I say look into it honey. between now and then some money may pop up and you could probably do with the break. flights are cheap these days.

[SMBT]

thanks for the replies everyone, my sil is looking into everything for me because she works in the freight department of virgin blue and can get all the info I need. seeing now that the wedding is in my friends backyard down there, it may be easier, as we could actually stay with them instead of going to a motel (as we thought they were getting married in the city, a few hours away from their house). hopefully everything will work out. ta:fingerscrossed:

[library-laksa]

a real friend will understand if you can't make it. and if they don't, f*ck 'em :)
nah, seriously, if it was me, i'd find a cheap flight and see hubby by himself.