He is a roughie! What to do???

[Frazzled]

My little guy is nearing on 12 months and is really rough! He hits me in the face, pinches and pulls my hair really hard (especially when is coming in for a big kiss!).

He isn't doing it to hurt me, I know that, but I am wanting to curb it now before it gets bad and he grows up thinking it is ok??? I take his hand away from wherever he has been grabbing or slepping and say no firmly but he just laughs:laughing: and points at me or says 'no,no,no':no: ... So I get it that he isnt really old enough to understand.

Has anyone else had this trouble? Advice please!

[Mojogal]

It must be the age cos our little girl did the same thing at around 12 months. It confounded me at the time too, my sweet lil bubba being so vicious, but we persevered with saying 'no, that hurts' and 'ouch'... one day when she hurt herself, we said 'ouch' and she pretty quickly got what we meant after that. We also say 'be gentle' and if she's really persisting, we put her down and make it very clear that it's not tolerated... She's really good with people now, but the poor cat still cops it!

It took a while but now at 16.5 months, she's doing much better. It's just a phase, I guess it takes while for them to figure out how to modify how hard they pull, how hard is too hard?

Good luck, it will get better!

[mum2littleman]

my son is almost 12 months aswell and i have the same problem, he hits everyone and everything all the time i tell him no and he laughs i sit him in the corner and he laughs i even tryed taping his hand back while saying no but then he hits me again i dont have an answer for you but would really reall REALLY love one he even hits his friends now and i no his a caring buba i dont want anyone to think his a beast..

my son started it about a month and a half ago now and its out of control he even sits and hits him self if there is no one close enough to hit:o

[subaruforestermum]

My son went through this for a short time, I would grab his wrist gently, but so he couldnt move away and say "be gentle to mummy" for example.........

And he was taught very early what was "ouchy", and we taught him what being gentle was........so when he realised he stopped doing it, we also taught him to apologise.....not that he can speak, but he gives a kiss and a hug if he accidently hurts us......just by tellinghim to give a kiss sorry.......

And it doesnt matter who or what he hurts he has to say sorry to them, even if its mums dog.....

Not sure if this has helped any, but just my experience with dealing with it.....Goodluck.....

[reAllytee]

Oh don't stress too much hun i think every bub goes through this stage !

It's just a case of trying to show them that what they are doing is wrong or that it hurts. For us we would grab Boof's hand if he slapped us & say " No thankyou we don't slap " placing in back at his side but if he would continue we would put him on the floor showing that it was unacceptable behaviour ( gees that sounded like the nanny hahahaha ! ). He pretty much got the hint after being put on the floor a few times over a course of a couple of days. If it is toys that are being thrown we warn him the first time " We don't throw toys, next time the toy goes away " then if he does it again the toy gets put on top of a high item until he is behaving & can have it back or in our case because Boof will now climb to get it we put it away upstairs & he gets it back the following day. E is old enough to understand he is just being cheeky & testing his boundaries, he is at that age. Putting in the boundaries now will help as he gets older. They understand a lot more than we give them credit for.

[Ashleigh<3]

OH NOO! Chloe's already this rough with me, and she's only one month old, I'm going to have to get myself a helmet and some shinpads for the long year head of me aren't I?:thumbsdown: :laughing:

I hope your little man settles! Poor Mum! He's probably just so excited and doesn't realise his own strength!:) I think this is normal with most babies though.

[jamb]

Yep we had this when he was bout 14 months, just kept with no, hurts, put down, move away.

He is now 20m and he stills has devil moments and I still do the same, he gets the point when mum keeps moving away from him and not playing with him.

The "naughty chair" or whatever you want to call it just does not work- must still be too young.

Good luck

[TwoBlue]

pretty normal behaviour for this age...

I find the best way is to say "ouch, stop, no" etc.. in a firm tone and take his hand away then show "gentle" guiding his hand etc..

often also ignoring it works well as they are really after a reaction whether it be a good or a bad reaction iykwim?

It will pass, dont stress too much

[Frazzled]

Thanks everyone, some good advice and it is good to hear most people are going through the same thing. :yes:

[EskimoMumma]

My daughter does this. Its great. She will also find any loose skin on me, even if i think its tight and smooth(like my collarbone area) shes able to grab that and pinch and twist. :shame: Nothing you really can do about it but say Ouch, or no that hurts..