Relationship Problems

[sexcbec]

hi everyone im 19yo my baby girl is 6mo, i have been through so much with her, as some of you would already know kylie anne marie was born 3months early and had a hard struggle getting her out of hospital , im still with her dad hes 30yo have been together for 5years now.
so much has changed i understood that it would but not this much i don't lknow how to say it so im just going to come right out with it, im just not happy anymore everythings changed we have been at eachothers throats for months now, playing mind/manupualtive games with eachother, porn is a big part of it, trust and jealousey is a huge part of it, but most of al i think im just over it all, and dontt know how to admit it, does anyone know how i am feeling i mean maybe suffering the same circumstances , sorry to blab my problems but everyone needs a vent hey

[bekkyboo]

:hugs:

Life changes so much with a bubba hey... It is such a strain on relationship, and ones that arent strong to begin with seem to be hit the hardest.

Im not going through what you are but have some ideas..

Maybe you guys need to reconnect? get someone to look after bub and find out what brought you together in the first place... Spend some time as a couple... Make time in the week, if you can every day. - for couple time. G goes to bed at 7, so from then on its me and hubby time. We make sure that there is still a spark as that is highly important to us....

Relationships are hard and will always need work.... SO if you think your relationship is worth fighting for - then fight!

Good luck hun!

[Niki]

:hugs: :hugs:

do u have someone to babysit bubs so you both can have some alone time?

[Mum&bubs]

Sent you a PM hun :)

[V8]

I haven't really experienced what you have, but i think a new baby let alone a premmie bub would cause a lot of stress in any relationship. Have you maybe changed, has he changed?? Talk to eachother and air your stresses and if it's really bad maybe you should seek counselling. Goodluck and i hope it all works out for you guys.

[MummyCharmzy]

As has already been said having a bub is a HUGE stress on any relationship let alone a premmie bub. I have had a premmie bub that required a long stay in hospital too and the stress of that is ten times greater even than just having a newborn.... and having had 'healthy' newborns as well I know that in itself brings massive relationship changes.

Maybe the two of you need some time out to recconect with one another and perhaps as there are other issues some relationship counselling might be beneficial as has also already been mentioned. Its best to get help sooner rather than later as the issues just get bigger and harder to deal with.

Have you had any premmie support since coming home, going toa premmie support group or something similar if you dont already might help as well. Having a premmie affects EVERY aspect of your life, in so many ways that you dnt even imagine it could until you have one. Often its good to talk to other mums that have experienced the same things and how it affected there relationships etc.

Goodluck!

[becy_b]

kylie anne marie was born 3months early and had a hard struggle getting her out of hospital
I was born at 6 months too...I was sooo premature I was in hospital for the first 4 months of my life until I weight enough to be discharged and my lungs wern't fully developed.
I'm a tough cookie hehe :)