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11-11-2006, 21:52

But i have always wondered why people who have 3 kids and want 4 are always concerned that they will need a bigger house etc. Obviously i understand why they would need a bigger car, but why a bigger house?? I grew up with 4 kids in my family and we mostly had 3 bedroom houses and me and my twin sis shared and my older and younger brother shared a room. It wasn't till we moved that my brothers got their own rooms and me and my sis still had to share till we were 17. My question is, what is wrong with kids sharing rooms these days?? It seems most people want their kids to have their own rooms, but as someone that grew up without their own room, i am just wondering why is it so important??

Thanks :D

P.S - DH and i plan on having 4 and i have no problems with any of them sharing a room.

bearsmummy

12-11-2006, 00:25

Hi proudmumma :D

I guess we want our boys to all have their own room just so they have their own space every now and then when they need it.
DS1 tends to get alot of hassel from DS2 so its nice for him to have his own private space. Especially once he gets older and needs space to do his homework. Plus DS2 suffers from night terrors so i think at least that way none of his brothers are losing out on sleep.

Dont get me wrong, if they needed to share it wouldnt be the end of the world... there are ways we would work around it :)

But i prefer for them to have their own rooms. :thumbsup:

TwoBlue

12-11-2006, 07:42

I only have two boys with plans for at least one more baby in the near future..

Both my boys are in separate rooms at the moment but soon we will put them together and have the "nursery" free for the next baby... if there ever is a 4th then #3 & 4 will share also.

I came from a shared bedroom home and it helped to build strong and lasting relationsips between me and my siblings... we got up to alot of mischief though :laughing: which does kind of scare me a little when i think about what my two boys will get up to when the door is closed !!!

each to their own though

FourAngelKisses

12-11-2006, 08:01

I will have 4 kids in a 3 bedroom house and it is going to be VERY squashy.
The kids rooms are 2.5m by 3m, so very small. Barely enough room for a chest of drawers, a bed and an itty bitty toy boy. I have a trundle bed in the boys room, it has to stay pushed under the other bed a little as there just isn't room to pull it out all the way.

I want to upgrade, not neccessarily to a 4 bedroom place, but just a 3 bedroom place with bigger bedrooms. Big enough for 2 beds in each room would be nice.

(I don't do bunk beds as Jacob broke his arm on a bunk bed twice in 13mths.)

12-11-2006, 20:31

Thanks for the replies guys, i have just always wondered, so now i know :D Cheers! And more power to you those that have more than 3, or even 1 it sure is a challenge!

AimeeB

12-11-2006, 20:40

:wave: Hi proudmumma,Well our #4 is due in March and we have just purchased a kia carnival but we are def not moving from our 3 bed house!Like you I was 1 of 4 and we shared rooms.DH is also 1 of 4 and grew up in a 3 bed housing dept house(his mum & dad still live there and i reckon the whole house would fit in our loungeroom)But we were always happy!We have 2 loungerooms so the kids have all their toys and stuff in 1 and we use the other,so really their rooms are only for sleeping.We have a great yard and a pool so there is plenty to do and whilst ever they are small (DS-nearly 5,DD1-3 and DD2 -13 months)we will be staying put.

13-11-2006, 12:37

That's what i think we will do too Aimee B, have one of the loungrooms be their play room and their bedrooms are really just for sleeping. I don't think there's anything wrong with it, we have a park near by and will have a big back yard, so plenty of room to play. :D

Aquamarine

13-11-2006, 12:45

At the moment we are in 2 bedroom house and we just had our third baby 8 weeks ago.

We are looking at moving to a three bedroom house in the New Year.

We plan on having four children and I see no problems with them sharing.

As a matter of fact I think it is more fun for them to be in with their brothers.

As long as the backyard and loungeroom are a reasonable size the bedrooms don't matter.

Sometimes I think people can be a too materialistic and want more and more.

I would rather have a bigger family than a bigger house that is what brings joy to me.

Me (31)
DH (31)
DS (4)
DS (2)
Baby boy #3 born 16/9/06

CJJHRA

13-11-2006, 14:00

Nothing wrong with sharing a bedroom, but you do need some space so everyones not under each others feet all the time. But if you have a nice big yard and an undercover area, then a smaller house isnt much of an issue, they can go outside. Then there is the space issue for clothes and toys etc. If we had to make do in a 3bed.. we could... but it would be rather squishy like, and very cluttered. (btw theres 8 of us) we once all shared a 4bd with 5 kids and 5 adults... there was no room to move!

13-11-2006, 14:11

13-11-2006, 14:12

I would rather have a bigger family than a bigger house that is what brings joy to me.

I agree too :D :thumbsup:

A Party of Five

13-11-2006, 14:22

Sometimes I think people can be a too materialistic and want more and more.I would rather have a bigger family than a bigger house that is what brings joy to me

:yes: That is so true. The more they get the more they want.

We will have three boys in one large bedroom and two girls in a small bedroom. We are lucky and have a large living room, and the boys room is big. So all the big are toys in there.

My DH is the youngest of eight and they lived in a caravan most of his life, and they all turned out fine.

ada

13-11-2006, 18:00

Hi ya all, I have 3 girls in a large bedroom and ds in a room on his own as we discuss #5 im told by people we will need a bigger home, I ask why will i ??? the waltons and the brady bunch did it, lol after all ~ all we do is sleep in the room and i agree nothing wrong with sharing ,children are more close and learn to share , i said to her my children dont need a hotel room and plus they want to share i have seperated them before and when i would check in on them at night i would find them asleep together infact my son is often put back into his bed at night when hes found sleeping in his sisters bed, so in the mean time im enjoying my spare room as i think about whether it will be a nursery? I guess i just like the idea of them all being together and most of all wanting to. the only downfall is in wardrobe space i have just had a quote on redoing wardrobes so that will make things much better and organised. have a good one all 1
:wave:

Lunar

13-11-2006, 18:15

I have had ppl say they don't have room for 2 children as they live in a 2/3 bdr house!!!

we live in a tiny 2 bedroom villa and we are pretty squishy but we live! Sure we would love to live in a bigger house (and will one day when we can afford it) but the bottom line is, you really only sleep in your bedroom.
We have our queen bed pushed nearly up to the wall (with JUST enough room to walk beside it) and the cot on the other side with barely enough room to squish myself to put bub in there. Our tall boy is in the BIR as there is NO WAY we could fit it anywhere else! DD1's room is so small it just fits her single bed, a chest of drawers, and a small nursery wardrobe.

My Mum grew up in a tiny 3 bdr house with 3 brothers. When mum reached a certain age where she could no longer share a room with one of her brothers, the 3 boys were squished into one tiny room. It was just the way it was in those days. I think in this day and age we have so many 'posessions', we are wanting more and more room for them.

CJJHRA

14-11-2006, 15:24

and if bedrooms are only really for sleeping in anyway... really, what does it matter if they share?